Sophia’s Mommy: I have my first Ultrasound yesterday, But I am horrible for not “falling in love” with my baby?
I am 22 and I have been happily married since last summer.
My husband and I are expecting our first baby Late October, Early November.
I would like to say “I am thrilled” “Excited” etc. But yesterday when I saw the picture of my baby, My husband lit up and got all happy, I was like
“OMG, I am going to be a mommy, It’s real. It’s not a figment of my dreams, It’s right there in flesh”!
I am scared, Nervous, afraid, terrified, and I am scared that I will mess up and not be the best mom in the world.
I LOVE kids, I adore kids and the only thing I wanted more then anything was to be a mom…But now that it is in Flesh, and Real, I am scared! So scared! Really scared! So many things to think about.
Can we really afford our baby, I know the Lord will provide, Will this pregnancy be healthy, Will labor and delivery go well!
O Lord, Please help me.
Any advice for this terrified mommy to be?
I am nanny, and I love my job.
It’s awesome and amazing and this baby now 2 in half, I have seen grow since she was 5 months.
It truly is amazing and I have a lot of experience with babies and newborns. However, I do get to give them back where there crying, need a changing etc…
With my child, It’s mine forever.
Answers and Views:
Answer by Rene3527
It is completely normal to be nervous, scared, and all the feeling that you are having. It really helped me to talk with my family and boyfriend about all the concerns that I had. They helped reassure me that everything would be fine. Once you see that face you wil instantly fall in love and all those concerns will go away. Good Luck.
If you didn’t care, you wouldn’t worry. You’ll be fine. The anticipation is enough to send anyone into a state of panic but once you get there, you’ll be cool. Don’t worry. Read up on things to learn what you can during your pregnancy, if you can, talk to other mums and see if you can’t hold or even change etc. a newborn but you will be just fine. Really. 🙂Answer by Ethel
It’s good to be scared, you should be! They are hard to have, they get sick and accidents happen, they take more out of you then you ever think you will be able to give, and you will make mistakes. But remember this, of workers those who are the most confident and rate themselves well are actually the crappiest performers at their job, those who think they could be doing better are actually the highest performers. Can’t find the paper right now of course, but really doubt means you will work harder then the rest to do well – and you will.
The love will come, but you are doing the right thing by concentrating on your work of being a mom. It’s hard work and only those who work succeed.
Answer by Jimmy and SarahI was in the same situation, only worse because Jimmy, now mu husband was only my bf at the time, and his parents did not know what was going on. And when they did, he couldn’t see me for a while. I was in a scarier situation than most, thinking I was going to be a lonely single mother. However, just pray. There are support groups as well, and make friends at church who like to help you out when you’re scared. I am now happily married with a beautiful three month old daughter. The lord works in mysterious ways!
One more thing, hahha…after you have your baby, and everyone wants to hold her and talk to her and enjoy her in her good moments, then throws her back to you every time he or she cries or poops is fussy….you will probably not really want to do that to the people you work for. You’ll understand how it can get to be so agitating, you’ll probably just sympathize, and deal with that little stinker yourself 🙂
Answer by number two is on the wayâ„¢i was like you… soo scared. was i going to do everything right? what would i mess up? all these thoughts running through my mind.
and in all honesty everything went fine. i had a c-section my daughter is now 3 and we couldn’t be more happy. they are tough times but that’s what makes you stronger. i’m sure you will be a fine mother you just have to trust your instincts and when you still don’t know what to do, grab a book! i referenced to the book everytime i had a question, or called a family member.
good luck to you and don’t worry you will soon “fall in love” with your baby. if not when you feel it move for the first time or the first time you hold it. all those feelings just MELT away!!!
Answer by agurlsaidI would recommend buying the book “What to expect while expecting”… I think that’s the name .. It’s very popular book and great for brand new mommy when I had my son it was recommended to me and I loved it. It gave me a sense of relief and helped through the process.
You’ll be fine and congrats!!
Answer by ToddlerMommyI was the exact same way with my first! It wasn’t real the whole pregnancy! I garantee when you see that little face the day they are born, your heart will melt and you will be completely in love!! Enjoy the pregnancy, it really does go by fast! Congrats!
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