How to motivate husband and get him to understand ovulation = pregnancy ?

mailersky: How to motivate husband and get him to understand ovulation = pregnancy ?
My husband and I are trying for our first child, he suggested we start trying. I am 31 he is 37. We have been trying for about three months and it seems like he just doesn’t get that we need to have more sex when I am ovulating to get pregnant. He’s like, it will happen when it happens we don’t need to plan anything. I am not planning it I am just realistic and know that is the only time during the month I can get pregnant and want to up our chances so we don’t go month after month missing my fertile days. I am just frustrated he is sooo laid back and I want this so much. How do I get him to understand my urgency and that I can only get pregnant if we have sex when I am ovulating. He seems to know this but doesn’t really get the reality that if we miss those days we’ve got to wait another whole month to try again.

Answers and Views:

Answer by magy
Is it possible he -thinks- he’s ready, but in reality, isn’t quite yet, and that’s why he insists on missing your fertile days every month? At his age, the concept is pretty easy to understand- I think it’s not a lack of knowledge, but a lack of real commitment to it (for now) on his part, keeping this from happening (sorry).

Answer by Damn ™ It Stubby
ok tell him if we miss those days we wont have a child we will have to wait a month dont you want a child heres the deal if i was you id get an ovulation test and show him the results and say these are the days we need to have sex for a baby!

Answer by M L
Seriously? Try and time having sex for every third day, then make overtures every other day as your ovulation nears. He still has fun, and you get to seriously try at the middlemark.

Answer by bxshorty064
Ovulation isnt the only time to get pregnant. You just have a better chance around ovulation and you should just let it happen because thats usually when you get pregnant when you least expect it.

Answer by alisongiggles
He just doesn’t get the biological clock urgency thing.

No man is likely to turn down a little “handi-work”. Once you get him well excited, pounce on him ;P

Answer by KS5957
Don’t get him to have sex because you want to have a baby- seduce him into having sex on your fertile days, just for sex. Men tend to get frustrated because we are obsessive about having sex during ovulation, and we give off the vibe that it is a chore.

Answer by WxEtte
My husband is the same way, you may have to take charge here….

My advice is to entice and excite him by being spontaneous. Planned sex is not fun but if you spice it up a bit, it will not feel planned and you will enjoy it much more too! Get yourself something nice from Vicki’s Secret, find a kinky game, get some candles, take some pictures, learn how to pole dance, etc. Of course, you will have to find something that suits you and your husband’s taste – there is something out there for everyone. Seriously, it will help!!

Answer by Roc
if he doesn’t get it then the don’t bother trying to explain it to him. some men don’t want to be bothered with those details. instead continue to monitor ovulation and without even mentioning it initiate sex during that time.

Answer by RONALD Warren
my young lady please understand, you are stressing to much, it may be you and not him,
forget you time of the month , enjoy him .

he maybe subconously he do not want the responiblity of a child, and you keeping track of it may scare him even more,

just relax,

don’t remind him of your days and you forget it to,

you are trying to hard.

or maybe you both need to go have some test run,

Answer by Rocker Wife
Oh boy. Okay. I would say he really just doesn’t get it or he’s not as ready to do this as he thinks.

I do know this, when a man really wants something… whether it’s a female, a promotion, or a new car he’s relentless about it. Sometimes when I poop out over this whole TTC thing my husband is like “C’mon!! Do you want to get pregnant or not!!” LOL. He reads all the OPK test results, the pregnancy test results and goes insane during the two week wait right along with me. I’ve seen men on this message board write in with questions about their wife/girlfriend’s cycle or fertility. I think it’s awesome.

Your hubby needs to get on board with it or be more honest about how he’s feeling. Yes sex should be a for fun and a special time between you two….but here’s the cold hard facts…there’s only one window a month where you can get pregnant. If you don’t have sex at that time, it won’t happen.

You can do it all behind the scenes (use ovulation predictor kits and seduce him when you know you are fertile) or he can be your teammate and participate. Giving him the benefit of the doubt that maybe he just is clueless, find a good article or two on the Internet about ovulation and fertility and read them together. Nothing too long or complicated, after all he’s a man and you’ll lose his attention after a paragraph or two!

Good luck.

EDIT–
Found this article, try having hubby read it.
https://www.fertilityfriend.com/Faqs/The-Fertile-Window—Scientific-Literature-Review.html