Best to not fall “in love”?

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So I’ve been seeing or talking to this girl everyday for about a month now. We get along great, have tons in common, and seem to just enjoy being together. We are both pretty burned by the relationship world so we’re just friends, but we started fooling around recently. I’m afraid we might “fall in love” (whatever THAT means) and then things will get bad. In my experience as soon as that emotion is expressed drama begins. Any advice or insight?

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Answer by Smoshit
Its bes not to fall in love, I find it too complicated.

Answer by Jules
Next time you are together you should sit down and talk to her and see how she feels and if it’s best you continue as a couple or as friends. That is what is best is talk about it.

Answer by scoopsk8r93
love is a complicated thing just take it slow

Answer by jme19914fun
take the risk. whatever bad happens will be worth it if it works out.

Answer by Adrian
Well, all I can say is, it’s probably going to happen, and changing whether it does or not isn’t something you’re going to be able to stop. It just happens and whether you want it to or not doesn’t matter at all.

I can also tell you that you’re probably not going to be able to just stop things before emotions get involved. Why? Because you don’t want to.

I know none of that is very helpful as it just confirms what you’re worrying about, but my advice would to just try to go with what happens, since like I said, you can’t stop it, and even if you’re worried about it “getting bad,” fighting it is only going to make it even worse.

Answer by rawr; it’s madisonn!
do whatever you instinct tells you to do. yes, it’s true, there’s a lot of drama going on, when you “start” to fall in love, but, no matter what, you’ll love the feeling. and thats great. im sure that it would be a great feeling you’ll have. you should just do whatever you want to do & do what you heart wants you to do, even though it could sound weird, strange or to you, bad. because you could just learn from your mistakes & make sure it wont happen to you again. try new experinces & fall in love with the right person.

Answer by SSK
Hold your emotions till you can you will enjoy it more without telling your feelings.

Answer by Mrs. Willingham
Listen to that gut feeling you have. I dont me the scared feeling I mean the really true gut feeling. It will never steer you wrong.

Answer by nremtohio
Careful with confusing “Falling in Love” with “Falling in Lust”
They are two completely different things.

What you described at first with enjoying each others company and having a lot in common more closely resembles “love” than fooling around.

Sex complicates things quite a bit. Many couples get right to the sex too quick and lust will mask your true emotions. If you can spend time with this girl and really enjoy yourself, do that. Let the relationship grow and grow. Sex will happen when you both are ready.

I’m no prude and I enjoy a roll in the hay as much as the next guy, but 34 years on this spinning orb has told me that you need to have a lot more in common than sex (even if it’s GOOD SEX) to have a solid relationship and to find “love”.

I hope that helps.
Good Luck!

Answer by 123mantobeat456
Yeah it’s really scary to fall in love. It means you’re allowing yourself to be vulnerable and get hurt. But it really depends on the situation. Do you see yourself being with her for the rest of your life? If the answer is yes then let the drama begin. But if you don’t see yourself being with her till you retire then just play around with her. Just make sure that she also just wants to play around, for you might be hurting her unwittingly.

Answer by BK
Love is a curious thing…it sneaks up on you when you least expect it. However, love is not a bad thing; obsession is.

If you love someone, then it is important to have open, honest communication, which in turn reduces the chances of something becoming “dramatic”. Even though couples with good communication still experience drama from time to time (as does everyone, whether they are in a relationship or not!), it is not as draining as it is when there is little to no communication.

Do not spend your life being afraid of love (despite what your history tells you); things may work out better for you in the future, as long as you are willing to risk yourself a little and strive for something not “good”, but “great!”.

Answer by Cat onahottinroof
Keep your mouth shut (I mean talking)
Go with the flow. She already is in love with you. She is just waiting for you to say something. Keep your mouth shut. She will tell you soon enough. enjoy yourself while you can. Someday you will be old and this kind of crap won’t happen to you anymore. Have fun.

Answer by MYGH
wait 6 months u will know.