Why is it that so many people think you “Fall in Love” with someone?

Paul D: Why is it that so many people think you “Fall in Love” with someone?
I keep seeing people talking about falling in love. I was always under the impression that a true couple “GROWS” in love with each other, and that love flourishes when nurtured as a couple should nurture it with a total commitment to each other.
So why do people think they fall in love.
Most people here seem to fall in lust, not love.

Answers and Views:

Answer by Freaky Deaky
Because a lot of people misunderstand the difference between love and lust.

Answer by ehsaas
no one falls in love over night. it happens over time. they fall in lust over night

Answer by Delphia
Thats what I thought intill I met him. It still hurts so much that I lost him. <:(

Answer by carrie
that is a good question……
i think maybe they “Fall” as though they are obsessed with the person and cant get out of it???? maybe???
anyway i agree ppl grow in love. i guess its just an old expression.

Answer by anti- A&F, D&G & jonas brothers
i completly agree with you
and i think it’s rediculous how sooo many people say that they are “in love” especially since most of them are just teenagers. I am one myself .. but i know that when teens say they are in love, it is just infatuation.
it actually makes me mad for some reason ..
like they don’t know what love really is .. and they think that just because they reeeeeally like someone ,
then it is “love”. but it’s far from that .

Answer by Everone is my Friend
you are absolutely right wow I like the way you explained yourself too I honestly can’t answer your question all I can say is people really do mistake lust for love the attraction for the opposite sex alot of times confuses ones thoughts and blocks there true feelings but the only way you can find out is if there is no sex then see how long they keep up with the falling in love theory.

Answer by Kel
I see what you’re saying, I’ve never thought of it that way. “Fall in love” does roll off the tongue more nicely than “fall in lust,” however. I agree with you. But there’s also a difference between being in love and just loving someone, as far as I’m concerned. I’m not realy sure how I would explain the difference as I see it, but I don’t think you can be “in love” with your mother or daughter or family memeber, but you would love them. You would be “in love” with your significant other.

I find love to be very subjective.

Answer by xxcrazywriter94xx
we all have different beliefs. but i must agree with you. I beleive people think they are in love, or want to be inl ove and say they are, some just say they are falling in love just to say it. im in high school so i must say alot of people my age do fall for lust.

Answer by .:*:.Fallen Angel.:*:.
Tell me how one may distinguish between the two (lust and love) when they truly believe that they are in love? Who may I ask is going to claim “oh yes, I am in lust with him!”? It’s all about perspective; hind-sight is 20/20 and when these people who claim to be “in love” find that it wasn’t so, many do admit that it was in deed lust, not love.

Good question.

Answer by Angela R
I agree with you when you say that a true couple grows in love with each other but some people just believe that when they first meet that person, that they’ve already known them. I guess they get this feeling that most people get after they “grow” in love with each other.

But again, your right when you say most people do fall in lust and not in love. Many teenagers these days are all about sex and not love. After they “find” that “certain someone”, they’re “in love” with them.

Hope I helped. If not, I’m sorry.

Answer by Q[its love] [<3 my MP]
most people dont see the difference between luv or lust compared to true, i cant live with out you, love. wanna do anything for you. ill fallow you around the world [my soldier!] love. put off things you wanna do, sacrifice love. you can fall in love with someone. like saying ‘im falling in love with you’ means growing i suppose. its just an expresion. i bet there is a day where you go ‘i love this person’ where as ‘im dateing this person’ so maybe you fell right there. its different for everyone. but ik when i knew i was in love. <3Q

Answer by Angel
that brings your topic to my topic, check it out, i have a problem i cant differencient between lust and love in my relationship….
thanks for answering my question although i didnt fully get it its okay….
Now to answer your question………….
Its imposible to love someone the first time you see the person you can only have lust for the person…. this lust is what most people confuse with love and thats why they say they are in love. Your right you grow to love, you cant love at an instant, you can only choose to love someone because its a choice. However when people say they “fall in love” its more like saying they choose to love the person which is like the action made towards their feelings…. To me people that say they fall in love are just making choices which lead to the growth of love, thats why we have “fall out of love”, showing another decision made not to love the person, due to loss of feelings for the person, which leads to breaking of “true love”
i hope you understand it too……

Answer by Crnka89
i can only agree with you. Couples cherish their love, more than they fall in it.

Answer by 2 cents
Wow this is one of your better questions ever, outside of the soulmates one you posted a while back…Your a thinker, my friend…here’s my thoughts on this tangled web of phrases…”falling in love” is in my mind like falling, what your standing on is no longer there, and you plummet down, and the hit is worse than you care to repeat, hence “lust” there is no solid foundation…the adrenaline rush of it all is great until the inevitable train wreck follows. A true couple “grows into love”… they have the patience and the want to discover every facet beyond the surface of the other person…they see long term, hence, the term used amongst true companions “grow old with me”….growing requires that time, that effort, and an investment of something so precious within us that we only trust it in the care and hands of someone we have “grown” to trust and love with every intent on it being for eternity. That goes so far beyond any moments of “lust” known to any man. Lust and falling are wreckless…whereas Love and growing are thought out, nurtured roots, that just get stronger and stronger with every passing breath, and every passing moment. Hence, a quote from Hamlett, “Doubt thou the stars are fire; Doubt that the sun does move; Doubt the truth to be a liar; Bit never doubt I love.” That is deep love, the love that grows and grows and grows…Not some passing fling that is here on a whim.