What Do I Do WhenMy Wife Hates Dogs And I Really Want One ?

vangestel2099: What Do I Do WhenMy Wife Hates Dogs And I Really Want One ?
Hello,

My wife and i have been married for 18 years and ever since i have been begging her to let us buy a puppy. She says she doesn’t want any animal running in the house or doing its business inside. Please help me because i am really getting annoyed.

Answers and Views:

Answer by tentoes
… get a divorce!

Your wife needs to be able to meet you 1/2 way on this. Instead of getting a puppy, what about a pound pup, or rescue an adult dog. Adult dogs are already house-broken, and trained (for the most part)

Answer by Feefee D
Ur acting like a child

Answer by gringo4541
Should have established the ‘pet policy’ before marrying if having a dog is such a priority to you. In most households the wife would be the one vacuuming up the dog hair, cleaning the floors when the dog tracks in dirt and mud, cleaning up most of the accidents. She probably is the one that would be selecting and going to the store to purchase the food and, if you work a 9-5 job, she will be the one responsible for taking the dog to the Vet. If she doesn’t want a dog, she shouldn’t have to live with one.

Sorry, but the one that would lose if you brought one home is the dog…..

Answer by bmoline
Just go get one. You can go the shelter in your area, and there are probably quite a few that are already potty trained, so they won’t be doing their business in the house. You take care of it, you train it, you take it for walks, you play with it, you feed it, and she doesn’t have to do anything with it.
Have you always let her have her way in 18 years? If so, it’s time for her to compromise for once. Put your foot down, and tell her you have wanted one for years, and you are getting one.

Answer by KityKity
If you are committed to training a dog and keeping up with it, then you should be allowed to get one. With all the training techniques available today, there should be no reason for the dog to go to the bathroom inside the house or run amok.

Have her observe an obedience class. That’s a good way to get non-believers to see that dogs are easy to train and can be very well behaved. Petsmart has a training arena where people can watch a class in action if they’re not participating.

Hope this helps. 🙂

Answer by dobiegang
Try taking her for a visit at a rescue shelter. Maybe she’ll have a change of heart once she interacts with them. Get one that is already house trained & she won’t have to worry about the dog doing his business inside the house.
Good luck to you.

Answer by Angie E
See if you can get her to go visit a shelter with you,most likely she won’t be able to resist those sad eyes!(Yours or the dogs!) Make sure you get one is already house trained,she won’t like seeing the dog make a mess.

Answer by grumpy girl
not married, single. i was under the impression that marriage was 50/50???? an older already housebroke dog would be a good compromise. oh, if i ever marry, i will make sure he is an animal lover, if not, i will not get married.

Answer by newyorkgal71
You should have made it very, very, clear, before you married her, that you were going to get a dog, whether or not she liked it.

Tell her dogs are great and fun to have in the house. Hopefully, she will, at some point love the dog herself. Go to the SPCA or ASPCA, in your city and adopt a dog. I’m sure she will eventually to love the pup.

Answer by paintedrain2
Have you asked about an adult dog that’s calmer (no running like a mad man around the house), and already housebroken (so no doing business indoors)?
Offer the idea of ADOPTING an adult dog.

Answer by spirit_shurtugal
I don’t know what you can do. Did you like dogs before you got married? If so then you really shouldn’t have married someone who does not like them or want them in the home.

Maybe you can tell her that you can potty train and obedience train a puppy, it does take work and commitment tell her you would be committed to doing that or you can even get an older dog that is already potty trained and trained. With an older dog its not likely to be as rambunctious as a puppy.

You might even take her to a local shelter it is quite hard not to fall in love with the cute puppies. Of course if your wife is really not an animal person it may not have an effect on her.

If she refuses to let you all get a dog or puppy I would suggest you sign up to volunteer at your local animal shelter walking and socializing the dogs and puppys. I have been volunteer at a shelter since April 07. There is a woman who recently started walking who had recently lost their 14 year old dog, last spring. Well her husband said it was too painfully to get another dog, so volunteering is her getting her dog fix.

Answer by M D
It sounds to me like your wife has never met a well trained dog with manners and social skills. Too bad as they aren’t hard to come by if you’re committed and willing

Answer by Voelven
Well 18 years is a long time. It only took me about 5-6 years to convert my husband. 🙂

First of all, I think it’s very important that you are not pestering her or getting annoyed and defensive about getting a dog. Instead try to listen to what she is saying. What are her main concerns? Is it the running and the house-breaking? These are fairly easy to address. Once it’s over the puppy stage it is quite easy to keep a dog calm inside the house, provided it gets enough exercise outside the house. With a puppy, house-breaking can take anywhere from 10 days – 6 months, but if you are vigilant and watch the dog like a hawk until it’s house-broken, then there will be very little mess to clean up (because you will be able to catch it and take it outside before it actually goes). My first dog was housebroken within 14 days and I had maybe 3-4 accidents to clean up after.

Many people do not want dogs because they are either not comfortable with them and need to be taught how to interact with dogs or because they have some false notions of what a dog will do or will not do (such as doing its business inside or barking 24/7). Some concerns are valid, such as not having the time for a dog, not being able to train it properly, not being able to afford it.

So bottom line, take her seriously and listen to what her objections are, then, if you do not already know how to address these issues, research it and educate yourself, so that you can give her a proper answer and solution to the potential dog-problem. If she’s still dead-against having a dog after that, then I would suggest that you let the matter go. I strongly believe that getting a dog should be something all family members agree upon.

Answer by keesnbcs
Just like anything else in a marriage, if you are not both in complete agreement, it shouldn’t happen. Whether we are talking about kids, moving or getting a pet.

Trust me, if she doesn’t want a dog it will become a huge problem down the road. See if you can have a serious discussion about it and find out what her concerns are. If she believes that dogs will all foul the house, have her talk to some trainers and meet some well-behaved dogs. Chances are she will be more receptive if she realizes that dogs can be a great source of company, entertainment and security.