What can I say to my sister about getting over her anxiety of childbirth?

nashvillekat: What can I say to my sister about getting over her anxiety of childbirth?
My sister just found out she is pregnant and she is not due till february. She is so scared of childbirth. She has started having panic attacks. What can I say to her to help her get over her fear?

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Answer by Mrs. Herrera
Women have done it for all of time and it’s not really that bad

Answer by mommyof2
epidurals do miracles. I wasn’t scared one bit and had no pain. It was actually kind of fun. lol

Answer by Megan
Have her start looking into child birth methods now. She should be able to find one to help her get through it relaxed. If she is interested in having an epidural then have her talk to some women who loved theirs. Try to keep her away from women who had hard birth experiences and have her talk to women who weren’t phased by labor.

Answer by YAY! #2 on the way!
tell her that childbirth is inevitable, get over it. maybe she needs to talk to a doc about it…it may be arlie signs of an underlying condition.
i started feeling the same way at about 7 months and after delivery i got what they thought to be postpartum, but it was later diagnosed as bipolar…

aside from that, i am also due in february and if she needs a friend…
[email protected]

Answer by hopefulmama13
I personally love childbirth (thats my favorite part) tell her that all women are different..if its pain she’sscared of they make medication for that if needed and it doesnt hurt not even the epidural and also it means that she is at the last step and she finally gets to meet her beutiful little one…let her know that its not as bad as some of the stories she’ll hear.

if it makes her feel better during labor I had a pretty big baby and I have my first in 9mins and my second in one push and that I did this with no tearing, cutting, hemorrhoids or anything and was able to go to the bathroom walk around and everything like that right after.

Good luck and have fun with it

Answer by Heda
who cares about the birth! when she sees that amazing child in her arms knowing that she created it, its all worth it!

Answer by hayesbrat
i was like that at first. i was scared to death. im due in nov and still have fears, but the doctor will definatly work you thru it and help you feel more comfortable with it and you definatly want a good support system. do alot of research and ask the dr lots of questions about how you want to birth (well for her) and what is best. its best to stay calm as all that stress ads on extra you definatly dont need. in the beginning its normal but over time you get used to the idea and your fear turns into exitement. the more you panic esp in labor and delivery the more complications you’ll have and the harde and longer it makes things. tell her to relax and enjoy the ride! she’ll be exited in the end. all that fear will vanish when she holds the baby.

Answer by geoge c
Ask her to tell you what she specifically fears. If she works through these issues in an organized way maybe you can help her see that she actually has nothing to fear.

I’m a man… so I never have to worry about this… but if I were a woman I would be freaking out too.

Maybe this doesn’t even have to do with the act of giving birth itself, maybe shes afraid of having to care for a child. Maybe she has problems with the father… Seems strange that a woman would be afraid of giving birth since so many woman have to do it. Plus, what did she expect when she got pregnant, the baby to just teleport out?