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what do you think you need to do in a marriage to keep the love burning between the both of you?

i am doing a little thing in college and i chose marriage for my subject and i want to know what you think keeps a marriage alive. i can not answer thisw question because i am divorced lol.

Answers and Views:

Answer by FemCop
You need to keep the communication open. Being able to be open with each other and keep the love and passion new is very important. Keeping the communication open also allows for disagreements to be discussed before they turn into fights.

Good luck with your project.

Answer by contentmanpdr
Open communication, open communication, open communication. By the way did i say open communication. I guess you get the hint i feel this is important. Being able to talk and express your feelings without reprcussions. Compatablity is big as well. As the years go if yall don’t have things in common your in trobule. Opposites may attract but they dont make for a lasting relationship. Sexual compatablity is very very important as well.

Answer by muggle
i have never been married but i’m in a long term relationship that will eventually lead to marriage…i think people can’t give up so easily. also, when you aren’t happy you need to communicate that to each other so you can work to fix it. remember to take time for yourself and each other.

Answer by Glorious
to keep my love to my wife..the shortest way is to keep her loving me.. by exoressing my love for her… by several ways..
send flowers to home before i go back…
telling her how much i’m lucky to have her…
go out in a romatic places …
and so.. she will give me back her love…
TO RECIEVE, U HAVE TO GIVE FIRST 🙂
and for open communication.. yes.. sometimes situations need open communication..and other don’t.. it depends.

Answer by whisper
I THINK HONESTY KEEPS OUR MARRIAGE OF 35YEARS STRONG,,CAUSE ONCE YOU LOOSE THE TRUSTING IN ANY RELATIONSHIP YOUR MARRIAGE FALLS APART I WAS MARRIE DTO A GUY WHO WAS A REAL LOOSER,,BUT IM VERY HAPPY NOW,AND WE STILL LOVE EACH OTHER VERY MUCH…PEACE

Answer by Heather D
Communication and TRUST. No secrets between the two of you, finding time to do special things for one another, trust on issues such as finances, and fidelity. And yes, sexual compatability is important also.

Answer by Kath
im divorced too lol but was married for 5 years i find if you cant agree on things even really silly things its doomed from the start need good compromise and understanding and alot of laughter if you laugh together you can cry together.

Answer by Summer
To never take either one for granted and communicating, not shutting the other out.

Answer by Tracy V
my husband and i work as a team, respect each other, and do things for each other. i was at a wedding once when the minister said, “if two people always agree on everything, then two people aren’t really necessary”. we respect each other opinions.

we have been married for 18 years and i love my husband more today than i did 18 years ago.

Answer by marilynfsmgm
communication of course is #1 but you have to learn that when a fight starts its not important whos right or wrong. you need to see things from the other ones point of view and look at the picture and see if its really about what your fighting over or if you had a bad day and want to take it out on your spouse because their there. its about waiting till you can see them for the day ,and thinking about them through the day,wanting to share your time with eachother . enjoying something together ,it doesnt have to be everything the other one does. everybody needs some alone time. its enjoying holding hands and making love.

Answer by Blue Eyed Angel
Keep the relationship “alive” by spending time together. Talk as often as possible. Like anything that is alive, the relationship needs to be “nourished.” Consider a fire. If you don’t feed, it will eventually burn out. Relationships are the same. Try to incorporate romance into whatever you do to express your genuine love, admiration and respect for your spouse.

Answer by vatot7
your geus is as good as mine

Answer by A Canadian
Treat every day like it is your first date!

Communicate well…if two people can’t have a conversation it’s going to add challenges to every aspect of their relationship, including their sexual relationship and take a very heavy toll.

Always respect your partner and yourself.

Answer by free_angel
Oh hell, just write down everything wrong that your ex did and finish it with, “Never do those things. It’ll kill a marriage.”

Answer by Jeanne
Similar interests & philosophies certainly make things easier. Good, open, honest communication is vital. And mutual trust, respect & consideration is a MUST! Sharing the financial & domestic responsibilities of marriage also helps a LOT! Always make your spouse feel special, apologize when you’re wrong, do NOT keep rehashing past disagreements & learn how to “fight fair” & resolve or compromise on issues of which you are “at odds” on. And to keep the “love burning,” surprise each other with romantic evenings at home & thoughtful little gifts. And keep “dating”! NEVER take your spouse for granted – & ALWAYS appreciate him/her & let them KNOW it!

Answer by tweetybrrd
The best marriage advice I ever heard was to try to outdo each other in acts of love. Marriages start to crumble when couples feel needs aren’t being met, and instead of communicating, they wait for the other spouse to read their minds. So everyone is waiting around, waiting for their spouse to make them happy. If they would put each others needs before their own everyone would be happy but this has to go both ways. One spouse cannot be doing everything for the other.

I know for instance, that my fiance hates folding laundry and cleaning (we don’t live together). So when I see him I make a point of folding his clothes and washing his dishes. He changes the oil on my car and takes care of other maintenance.

Marriage is supposed to lighten each other’s burdens not add to them. It is supposed to make life easier for two people, giving them companionship and partnership.

Answer by satiresmom
Currently, I am married but on the verge of divorce, despite my husband wanting to stay together, When I repeatedly ask him NOT to do a little thing, but he does it over and over. Whenthe TV is his major source of news and entertainment and when we argue day in and day out over money, I say it’s time for divorce–or at least consider it. I am miserable and want to start my life over. I could be friends with him, but NOT his wife. He is too self-centered, and I would rather be alone If I meet someone more compatible, I;d consider living together, but right now he is the source of a migraine headache,

Answer by Tari D
COMMUNICATION is the key! With good communication you can attempt to solve all problems by talking it out (parenting, finances, sex, etc.. ) just communicate your needs and wants and then COMPROMISE!!!!

Also, regular coluselling maintenance. Don’t just get counselling for a couple of weekd before you wed. Keep it going with books, tapes (more like CD’s), seminars etc…maybe like once a year to be constantly working on your problems. After a few years you will know each other soooo well, you will finally know what works for the both of you and you will have a long lasting friendshipin love…..that is if you chose not to split ’cause you married someone who you THOUGHT you kneew, and it turns out…the more you get to know em, (as in the more you know how willing or not willing they are to change and compromise to make things work so you stop butting heads) the more you dislike em!!!!