Would you care if your husband/fiancee enquired how a girl was getting home?

: Would you care if your husband/fiancee enquired how a girl was getting home?
Would you care if your husband/fiancee enquired as to how this girl was getting home at night & then offered to bring her home which is 8 miles away & not in his direction?
Would you have any problem with this? Why/Why not?
Thanks.
It can be hard to know what is acceptable/ normal anymore.

It can be hard to know what is acceptable/ normal anymore.

Answers and Views:

Answer by Marie
My husband is completely trustworthy so if he was concerned about someone getting a ride home and gave them a ride, he was simply being a nice person and helping someone out. But not all husbands are the same.

Answer by Mark
I’m sure he would only require gas money and a BJ. Nothing to worry about.

Answer by Sarah
It would bother me, yes. Was in this situation once. My ex worked with a “couple”, and the couple was pretty regularly arguing and fighting (the man was somewhat abusive). They were in a fight one night while at work, that led the man to being escorted off the property (and ultimately fired), and because of it he offered her a ride home (probably a 20 minute ride, that turned into an hour or more before he got home, and he never called me to tell me what was going on). When I found out (because someone at his work who knew us called me to see if he’d gotten home okay, because of the issues that had happened), I was furious. I felt like he had placed himself in the middle of their issues, and set himself up to be in a bad position by having his truck pull up outside of their home, in the midst of a couple’s spat and very jealous husband of hers. That they took a while to get there pissed me off even further, but he said she was having a hard time with going home; concerned for herself, etc., though he offered to take her somewhere else, and then sat somewhere and talked with her about it for a bit before ultimately taking her home (what she wanted).

Angry doesn’t begin to describe it…had he at least called me, I might have felt better. In my mind, there were plenty of women there who could have taken her home that may have caused less problem…but in his mind, he had become protective of a woman who needed help and HE wanted to make sure she got home okay.

As I look back at this though, I realize that he did a kind and very “manly” thing. It’s possible that some of my frustration is that he’d not been very kind or loving to me (hence our no longer being together, for quite some time). But still…what he did was the right thing to do, and nothing ever came of it. So, try to look at this from other angles…maybe as an outsider might, and see if that helps you. Nonetheless, put your feelings forward (calmly and rationally), because if this became a regular thing “because you never made things clear with how this makes you feel”, then you will become very resentful, and he’ll have no clue about why.

G’luck to you, and good question.

Answer by Lo
Need more info. Where were they. Was there drinking involved. How does he know her?