How would women feel when her father went to Europe in the 1980’s to avoid paying child support?

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How would women feel when her father went to Europe in the 1980’s to avoid paying child support in the USA, when she was a baby? That is what her mother told her and her father is a total stranger to her.

Answers and Views:

Answer by Valerie
You just have to get over stuff like that. I don’t know why people get so attached to biological parents that want nothing to do with them. Whatever. Find people in your life who are interested in being around you.

Answer by Just Bein’ Me
She would thi nk her father doesn’t care enough about her to take care of his responsibilities.

Answer by Paula
well if this is 100% true.. She would be hurt, but it happens. and its his loss so she shouldn’t dwell on it.

Answer by ADD
If she has never met her father..then i would just forget it.. or try to find him and figure out why he would not want to be apart of your life. Your mom could just be saying that.

Answer by ♥Fancy♥
Her mother should never have told her that, but if she did, I guess the daughter would feel like she was too much of a burden for her father to even get to know.

Answer by thinkstraight27
If it’s the truth, and the mother isn’t telling lies so that her daughter will favor her, then this woman should not consider that man her father. Since he did not pay child support, and is a stranger, nothing is owed to him. If I was this woman, I would work hard and become successful and contact the deadbeat scumbag of a sinner. I would show him that I made it without his help, and then tell him to leave and never come back. Make the bastard feel obsolete and show no mercy.
I swear, fathers doing the minimum or nothing at all for their children is like a disease these days.

Answer by Marcia
Of course “mom” wants her to feel abandoned, hurt, angry, and mad at her father for ever after. This would be true if the adult child was male or female. Then again, this is probably what “mom” felt at the time and, maybe even up to and until today.

For me, I would feel curious and probably want to know more.

But, because it is not me and I am probably a little older than you….I would hope that you would seek to find out who your father is today and then, try to understand where he was at almost 30 years ago. Back in the day, non-custodial fathers had little or no rights in many communities; this includes follow through on any visitation that they may or may not have been able to receive through the courts. Unless that father had financial resources, community position, and family support more often than not, their rights were functionally terminated whether or not they were legally terminated. Further, fathers were often deemed to be in need of supervised visitation until the child reached 2, 4,5, or 7; and then fathers who showed interest in their female babies and children always carried an extra air of concern for their motivations. Even so, I will suspect that there were some additional things going on beyond an amicable split between your parents….