How to gift give when you attend multiple celebrations for the same person?

DW: How to gift give when you attend multiple celebrations for the same person?
The bride worked with me for 3 years. The groom worked with my husband for about 6 months. I went to her bridal shower and gave her a nice gift. Now we’re invited to a surprise luau and the invite has where they are registered on it. We also will be going to the wedding!

I know we don’t give 3 separate gifts, but what to do so I don’t feel so empty-handed at the other two celebrations?

Answers and Views:

Answer by TexasRiverRat
Take a nice card to the other two celebrations. You might note on the card how ‘honored’ you and your hubby have been to be included in the festivities. I also don’t think you’re absolutely obligated to attend the second shower.

On a personal note, I’ve always wondered what people are thinking when this impression is given. The idea that two people who barely pass the acquaintances test might want to give three gifts!

I hope this helps … and I hope I don’t sound like a crab! lol

Answer by Ms. Minerva
Is there anything small on the list??? If so, I would take something small from the list…..if not, then take a bottle of wine or whatever you’d take with to any party…

Unfortunately, I have discovered that, yes, they do expect gifts at every one of these things….brides no longer assemble hope chests…so each one of these “shindigs” winds up being an occasion to bring a different category of gift. Stock the bar showers, kitchen showers, wedding showers….the list is endless…

I, like you….delighted for friends and reluctant to turn down the kind invitations to join in celebrations of my friends….have a budget to consider…and now I simply bring small items from their lists for the showers….saving whatever budget is left for the “biggie” wedding gift..

Go and have a good time, though….just take something small…but don’t turn down any of the invitations. This is a once in a lifetime thing for the two of them…and how lovely that they want you to be a part of all of it…..

Answer by ℓιz (σρтιмιѕтι¢ вαℓℓσσиѕ)
For the luau, I’d keep it simple with some homemade cookies or brownies on a nice plate from Bed Bath and Beyond or something, if you want to even give a gift. You could also do a card. As for the wedding gift, I’d get something cheap-ish that’s on the register.

Answer by susan m
You MUST give a wedding gift – the best is a card with a check that will cover your dinners plus a little extra.

The etiquette is gift for shower & gift for wedding.

I’ve never heard of the luau thing, but since they registered, if you go, you’re expected to bring a gift.