How do I get my husband back after infidelity accusations?

: How do I get my husband back after infidelity accusations?
I am a popular restaurant critic from Philly. I suspected my husband was cheating on me so I hired a private investigator. It turns out my husband wasn’t cheating on me at all! Now, the private investigator is harassing both of us and my husband seems distant ever since I confessed this. How do I get my husband back? Also, I have a young son.

Answers and Views:

Answer by smiles
Ok, you have a young son, big deal. You think using your son to get in between your husband is a big mistake. Your husband is upset and in shock that you do not believe his trust. One more thing, did this PI really do his job and go snooping on your husband. Maybe your husband really cheated. Why be so upset? I do not know what to tell you as this is a big mess. I suggest pray. God has your plans. Why have trust issues which means you need counseling for yourself? Let’s say your husband forgives you but will he really forgive you. Let’s say everything is fine until you begin to suspect him of something else than what. You need help.

Answer by Mike Ledgerwood
The honest answer is you got screwed by a dishonest private investigator. My job as a private investigator is to gather the facts. Just because you hired me doesn’t mean that the results I obtain will be in your favor. You suspected your husband of cheating on you and hired a PI to gather evidence. The evidence that he gathered showed your husband was cheating. He did his job and he should end it at that. I am assuming that you paid him for the services rendered. If you paid him according to your contract then the business relationship is concluded and he should not have any more contact with you. Though you fail to mention exactly how he is bothering you.

Your not going to like what I have to say next but it needs to be said. What makes you think your husband is innocent? Just because a PI didn’t find evidence doesn’t mean your husband is innocent. There is a reason you are suspecting him of cheating in the first place. Maybe his girlfriend was out of town when you had him followed. Or maybe he became suspicious and decided to lay low for awhile. You made a huge mistake by admitting to him that you hired a PI to begin with. You should have stayed quiet. Now he will always be cautious of his actions and chances are you will never be able to get evidence. A good PI would have told you that from the start.

I don’t think an open, public forum is the setting to discuss this topic though. Feel free to e-mail me through my website below and I will give you instructions that you should have received at the beginning (of course it is completely free to you).

Answer by Phoenix21
you will have to earn his trust back..he has been hurt by your distrust, he is probably shocked…so ask him what can you do to earn his trust back