How do I get my husband to stop resenting me?

3boysmom: How do I get my husband to stop resenting me?
After years of problems with my in laws I stopped associating with them. Without going into all of the specific situations, my husband never stood up for me and therefore I had to protect myself and withdrew from all association with them. After being married for 26 years and all of this now my husband resents me. I am wondering how I can get him to stop resenting me?

Answers and Views:

Answer by David M
There really is nothing you can do yourself except to make sure you are treating him right now and in the future, you cannot change the past. As far as his resentment goes, he is the one who has to put it in the past and I don’t think you will have a lot to do with his choices.

Answer by truluv exists!
He doesnt resent you he is upset with himself and blaming you. Forgive him for not sticking up for you.

Answer by Rachel Emmanuel
u r nt the problem, he is.. so stop trying 2 hard. he’ll figure it out on his own eventually

Answer by warneal69
No way to prevent him from resenting you.

But, you can make your feelings known.

“Honey. I asked you to stand up for me and you refused. Which meant I had to do it myself….and i did. And now your resenting the way i stood up for my honor? Huh. I guess your going to force me to do it again.”