How do I convince my husband to except the child I conceived from a affair?

: How do I convince my husband to except the child I conceived from a affair?
My husband has been distant ever since I gave birth to my youngest child. Let’s just say my baby’s physical appearance is polar opposite of my husbands.

Anyway I thought I was safe when I succumbed to temptation with my vestry member’s husband during a church retreat.

My question is how do I get my husband to except this child like it was his own and get him to see God made this child outta love?

Answers and Views:

Answer by James Y
I’m assuming that this isn’t a real question and thus irrelevant.

Answer by Beach Boy
he has all the right to be mad, he should bump your cheating azz.

Answer by bee
yeah. god was the one who made that baby. not you and your adultering ways

Answer by Shinigami (FAC)
Are you Arnold Schwartzenegger’s domestic help?

Answer by Jess
If you’re old enough to have a kid you’re probably old enough to learn how to spell ACCEPT

Answer by ♥Living the Death♥
idiot..he wont except your child becuz you cheated!!!!!

it wasnt made out of love it was made out of lust!

Answer by WitnessofJesus
sister YOU screwed another man, = adultery
the only thing you can do is Confess and hope your husband forgives you.
otherwise, you are totally guilty
if you wont repent
and if your husband wont forgive, he still has the right to refues the marriage covenant and you will be left alone

marriage is not an atheist agreement to bear children or an orgy to have sex, its about faith and eternal commitment, you already sinned against this ideology.

Answer by TsukiTsuki
Your husband has every right to be offended, having to deal with such a wench like you(discusting) Surrender your child to him, I cant imagine him living in the same household with an adulteress, you’ll only teach him your foul and sickening ways. Its people like you that make me wanna sacrafice chickens to the dark lord so he can eat up all of the worlds sinners and atheists as soon as possible.

Answer by Ann
That may be impossible! Get ready to make a plan for the baby in case he never accepts the child. The baby deserves to be loved.

Answer by luisa a
I just find it amusing that you use the god excuse on this. If he is very religious and stuff, you would probably be likely to get away on this one. (and many others)

Answer by Sue Preem
How did the vestry member’s husband tempt you?

Answer by j
The truth is, God didn’t make this child out of love….this child was made because of the breaking of God’s commandments. God may forgive you–but it will be much harder for your husband to do that. He’s human. Cheating on your husband is neither loving him nor showing respect for him, or your relationship and marriage. The task you want to achieve is nearly impossible–to make a man love a child who is neither his nor conceived in a faithful relationship. The child is a continuous reminder of your infidelity to him. Yet he continues to stay–probably for the good of your other child(ren). I am surprised he didn’t take the other kids and leave. God bless his sense of duty! Before he can love the child, you’re going to have to convince him that *you* are worthy of his love, and certainly of his trust. Because you’ve broken both of those. Work first on that and on earning your husband’s forgiveness again. Because without that, there is no way he’ll ever accept the child as his, as you are asking him to do.

Answer by wizard of the East
The child is innocent
the child is holy as the baby was conceived during a church retreat, within the premises of the church
however, the mother has committed the sin of adultery
It is easy to convince your husband by arguing that ‘god works in mysterious ways, and plans in a different way than humans do’, but at all times ‘god’s will shall be done’, irrespective of the baby’s appearance

Answer by anchor
Make sure you take the baby back under your bridge, troll