How can I stop my husband from spoiling our 2 year old daughter?

mm: How can I stop my husband from spoiling our 2 year old daughter?
My husband gives our 2 year old everything she wants and she has become very spoiled. I think it’s great to have a close relationship with your child but not to spoil. I come off as the strict parent when she asks for something she doesn’t need and my husband gives it to her. He calls her princess and she acts like one, and it’s always daddy daddy, what can I do`?

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Answer by It was more than speeches
what can you do? You can thank god that you have a wonderful family.

Answer by morgan
I think thats sweet .. let him spoil her while he can she’s going to grow up someday.

Answer by Wendy
You and your husband need to get on the same page here. It only gets worse as the child gets older. He is going to have to understand that just because he doesn’t give her everything she wants, she is still going to love him. Every child needs and wants boundaries. Hope you can work out before it gets to out of hand.

Answer by cool breeze
Just leave it alone. He is a parent too. He has his way’s,you have yours. It’ll work out. Let them enjoy her childhood. All two years act like that. It’s normal.
She is just realizing she is a separate human being then the two of you.

Answer by Amy
Lol I would SLAP him lol everytime he does it no relaly I would wait for him to give her something and take it away as soon as he gives it to her I would put it up somewhere like in a safe an dmake sure tehy cant get it lol and talk to him about how it is wrong aand cooperation in a relationship is good

Answer by Blah and blah.
MY dad spoiled me when i was little, and now i think i need to get everything.
I sneak out.
I expect not to go to schooll when i dont feel like it.
I expect a party when i want it.
I expect to have sex with out a huge fight with my mom.
I expect to have my phone paid every month.
I expect new cloth’s, and everything i want.
He should stop…
or she’ll act like me.
js.

Answer by Trisha M
First count your blessings that your husband has his “little princess”, and then have a talk with him about the issue. There has to be a common ground, giving into your daughters every whim may be magical in her eyes but can also create a huge problem. Most parents want to give their children the world. Some parents give in to their kids because “it’s just easier” than dealing with a tantrum, some because they enjoy the attention the “favorite” parent awards them and some simply because they love them so much they want them to have everything. Mom & Dad have to be on the same page or this will continue and escalate into even bigger issues. Your best bet is to have a talk with him, voice your concerns and allow him to voice his opinion as well and hope to find a conclusion that works best for your family. Good Luck.

Answer by Brianna
My friend dealt with this same issue. This past year the child started kindergarten and was kicked out because she’s such a brat. Now the dad is wondering what is wrong and why his little princess has no friends, no teacher wants her in the class and why mom can’t stand her.

It’s time to sit down your husband and have a good long talk. Maybe talk to a doctor in advance that can explain what happens when a child is over indulged. A counselor would be good to bring in on this subject too. Sometimes when people hear it from a professional they are more likely to take it seriously.

If you can, talk to other family members and see if they feel the same way you do and bring them on board with confronting him. Again, sometimes a parent will listen to others before their own spouse.

Explain you need someone to parent the child with you, not be the nice grandpa who gives the child everything.

Honestly… if you truly loved your child you may need to get her away from daddy for a bit. It never leads to anywhere good, allowing her to act in this manner.

Answer by Leslie
First of all, how do you bring up this concern to your husband? Is this his only child?
You probably need to talk to him in a firm manner. It is a known fact that we all have different parenting ideas. What we think is best might not be a shared idea with others. I personally do not like to be around spoiled children. Their attitude is so different and somewhat annoying than children that do not get everything they want.(Does not apply to “ALL” children)
Let him know that his actions will cause your daughter to resent you in the process. He will always be the good guy, the best parent in her eyes. You will end up being the parent she least likes and in turn might not want to spend any time with you.
Tell him with love that you would like for him to consult with you whenever he wants to get her something she wants.
What happens when she misbehaves or gets a bad grade at school? She’ll still expect to get whatever she wants because she has not been taught otherwise.
Tell your husband that loving your child does not mean giving her everything she wants because that just shows her he is buying her love. Remember, too much of anything is not good. Everything in moderation. Especially with material things.

Answer by mjmayer188
You can ask him to slow down, but he won’t stop. She is his princess!

All two year olds are spoiled, (“Terrible Twos!) They will both grow out of it eventually.