YO: How can I tell if my fiancee is attracted to me anymore?
I have been dating my fiancee for a long time and have never had sexual troubles. Lately since we decided to get married (he has been pushing for it since he just got a new job) he doesn’t seem to be as attracted to me. He can’t stay hard for oral sex and he isn’t all over me like he used to be. What should I think? He claims he is tired and he doesn’t have cold feet
Answers and Views:
Answer by Happy♥
Well men are straight forward creatures and tell it like it is. Men do not beat around the bush like us woman do. When a man loves and wants to marry you then that is exactly what he wants. I think he might be tired and feeling pressure from his new job, because like you said he wants to get married now that he has this job. It could be societies pressures of a certain status to maintain; whether it be middle or upper class or whatever. Men worry about fiances and being the glue to keep this together. Talk to your future hubby and ask him how he’s doing. You might be surprised how he opens up to you in a non-threatening manner. Do not approach your conversation as “we need to talk.” Men will shut down. Start the conversation after you make him his favorite meal. Trust me this works and I am speaking from experience. Good luck!
You’ve answered your own question- he just got a new job and says he’s tired. Stress and exhaustion can for sure cause sexual trouble. If he wasn’t attracted to you, he would be distancing himself, not wanting marriage. Try and set up some relaxing activities for him on the weekends to take the edge off the stress (watch a game with him, go hiking, just lay in bed all day ect….).Answer by Libby
The guy is tired. And he’s also not as young as he used to be. If you and he met when you were really young (25 or younger) then his stamina now just isn’t going to compare to when he was a very young man. Really young guys get hard at the drop of hat. Fully mature guys aren’t necessarily as ready to jump to action on command. They take more finessing… and sometimes, they really just aren’t in the mood.
My suggestion… go for a longer amount of time between when you have sex, and instruct him to NOT masturbate. He will most likely be ready to tear your clothes off within 4-7 days.