Does a wife always work harder than the husband in a marriage?

LovelyLady: Does a wife always work harder than the husband in a marriage?
I’m doing a debate at school and the statement is:

“The wife always works harder than her husband.”

I have to argue against this statement, so are there any points to show that the husbands do more or equally as much work?

Thanks!

Answers and Views:

Answer by answer machine
I think the husband works harder in his job. But I think the wife works harder at home. So it’s kind of even.

Answer by nay
It depends on the situation. If the wife works, takes care of the house, meals, and kids, then I would say yes. Lots of men believe that it is the woman’s job to take care of the house but today’s day and age a lot of women are pulling there fair share at the office.

Answer by TrevaThaKilla
i hate stereotypical statements

it jsut doesnt make sense to group all guys and all girls into one category as guys are lazy and girls are hard workers.

there are hardworking guys and girls
there are lazy guys and girls

we both work as hard as we can in my marriage, and thats the way i enjoy it.

Answer by lolly
The man will do less if less is expected of him. My hubby thought he could get by with it, I put a stop to it quickly! He does just as much as I do!

Answer by Cliff R
It will always be opinion, there are no statistics to validate the statement on either side. Also what is the Definition of “work”. Work as in a job, work as in “in the home” or work as in keeping the marriage together.
Remember the old adage “a man can work from dawn to dusk, but a woman’s work is never done”, so take your pick.
If I had to offer an “opinion” as a man I would say generally the woman works harder in a marriage.

Answer by plainjain
you could call it different areas: (when dinosaurs roamed the earth) the man works hard at the getting money in the bank part; the woman works hard at keeping the kids alive. Then say that only monetarily compensated (non-slave;) work counts;)
i’m joking

Answer by Michael T
No. In my family yes, she works harder. In my brothers, he does. He works a very demanding job, plus, he does at least half the housework, if not more.

I try, I just can’t keep up. She’s a whirlwind.

Answer by sheloves_dablues
The statement itself is faulty, in that it doesn’t give enough information.

Yes, I think in general that women work harder than men, but that’s a generalization and there will always be unions where the wife is a lazy @ss.

I’m not sure how you’re going to argue it. If a man and woman both work outside the home and have kids, you can bet that in the majority of cases, she also does the majority of the cooking, cleaning and child-rearing. Not to take away from the devoted husbands and fathers out there, but this has been studied from a number of different angles and women always seem to put in more hours than men.

Good luck

Answer by Remember the marriage vows
I did always work harder I thought. Seems like my husband rarely ever tried…
But there are some husbands who do dote on their wives; they are out there. And there is a saying that I’ve heard that men are completely oblivious to any relationship issues until she’s ready to walk out the door. That could be what inspires some men to go to action to fight for their wives. Think of the men who begrudgingly go to a counselor and work jobs. Also some men are workaholics and some even help their wives around the house even when the wives are housewives. I’ve also heard it said that for a woman to be more attracted to her husband, he can help her around the house. To me if a man continues to actively pursue his wife instead of relaxing or looking for some other person to score, then he is working relationally harder than her. And if he works more hours than her or works a manually more difficult job to take care of and support her, that is also contributing to the family and marriage, especially since some marriages can tend to fail when the couple are financially struggling.

Answer by noshaymatall
The answer is NO. The wife does not ALWAYS work harder in a marriage. Somedays she will and some days she won’t. Any marital partner will work harder on a given task that means more to them. For instance. Maybe some women have a lower tolerance for household clutter. Those women will spend more time working to correct the problem. Some men are obsessed with the care and cleanliness of a vehicle and will, therefore spend more time in that area. Gender stereotypes aside,,,,,, the yardwork/gardening could be viewed as a hobby or stress relieving activity. Then again so could cleaning the house or changing the oil in the cars. We would have to define the nature of the “work” involved and then determine who views each task as beneficial. I mean…….is it really “work” if it helps keep you from strangling the crap out of a whining, complaining partner? Isn’t it more like “therapy”? But the bottom line remains. Women need more therapy than men. Hope that helps.

Answer by Peter N
Well they should. After all, its usually the woman who pushes, deceives, and tricks the man into marriage. Men don’t dream of weddings, that’s a woman thing. So since they want it so much, they should work for it.