What does it mean when your fiancee returns you the engagement ring?

Paquito: What does it mean when your fiancee returns you the engagement ring?
Mi fiancee and GF for 7+ years were supposed to get married in 2 months. We had a huge fight and, in my anger, I told her that I don’t want to marry her, and then I left the house. When I came back, I found the engagement ring on the table. This is very confusing. Does this means that we are officially disengaged? Has some of you gone trough something like this? What should I do?

Answers and Views:

Answer by Angelita
She’s broken off the engagement. Do some serious grovelling and she might take you back.

Answer by Alisha
lol. sorry, but when a girl gives you back your ring, it means that she is leaving you.

Answer by ♪ஐLil’ Bearஐ♪
Couples fight before marriage because of stresses and doubts. You two need to talk and sort all this out. Maybe delay the wedding for now. Tell her you didn’t really mean it when you said you didn’t want to marry her. You should probably also appologize.

Answer by getThis gotThat
ok special person.
you told her you don’t want to marry her.
so she believed you, put the ring on the table and LEFT YOU FOR GOOD.

good job!

Answer by ducky~engaged!
TALK TO HER! MAKE THINGS RIGHT AGAIN. ONLY SHE CAN TELL YOU WHAT SHE IS THINKING~

Answer by Sakura753
It’s obvious. You said you don’t want to marry her so she’s giving you what you wanted. If you want her back, then you got your work cut out for you and some SERIOUS apologizing to do.

Answer by jillianbeth {B2B 9-5-09}
You said that you didn’t want to marry her, so you ended it, not her. She was simply returning the ring to you because you called it off. You may want to do some groveling if you really do want to marry her. Suck it up and suck up!

Answer by Kim H
She may be hurt that you said you didn’t want to marry her. Either way, she made the decision to break off the engagement. You should try talking to her and see what point you both are at. That’s the only way you’ll figure things out – communication.

Answer by meek
Yes it does, but hopefully once the steam blows over the both of you can sit and talk things out. We all say things that we really didn’t mean and it usually gets us in trouble. Sometimes you can reconnect and other times its over. Good luck in getting your girl back.

Answer by amy♥baby
It means you better go out, buy some roses, and apologize profusely so you can put the ring back on her finger. She was only responding to your comment, dude.

Answer by celticwoman
Talk to her before you come to any conclusions. She may have done it out of hurt & anger (most probable), but depending on how you’ve treated her (and she treated you during the 7 yrs. If you anger easily and she has been through this too many times, she may have had enough. ) See if she will meet with you in person & if not (not a good sign) she may need more time. However, you may as well face it, the romance may be over. Prepare for the worst and hope for the best, but whatever, KEEP YOUR ANGER IN CHECK. Good luck.

Answer by crazyem
TALK to HER. maybe she’s just mad or maybe she’s serious because you did say you didn’t want to marry her. but find her and find out. you need to right away.

Answer by crazy1
sounds like she is trying to say sorry am tiered of fighting and we can’t get married in these conditions , good job you better beg for your forgiveness and tell her you love her ..

Answer by melouofs
She has broken off the engagement. You’re no more. You better talk to her directly instead of us.

Answer by Marie
She may have responded in kind to your statement. If you two are truly committed to each other it is time to talk and work things out. I suggest premarital counseling. This will help bring up issues that couples often face and for you both to get an idea of what the other thinks and what things you may need to address before they become a heated argument that gets out of whack. And well, I would have spoken to her before I asked such a question in a forum like this. I have to say that planning a wedding can be stressful, and sometimes our feelings can get in the way of our thoughts. Talk to her.

Answer by fizzygurrl1980
I actually have been in a “ring-giving-back” situation before, and the good news is that we did end up getting back together about 3 days later and are now engaged again, after a 5-year break from the last engagement. I think she took you quite seriously when you said you didn’t want to marry her after all, though I know you just said it in the heat of the moment. (I’ve been quite guilty of saying things like that during a fight, when I really don’t mean them at all.) I think you need to call her right away and try to get together and talk it out. Obviously you guys have a lot of history together and I’m sure you’re not going to let one fight ruin your relationship for good. But you do need to get to the root of why you said that and fix whatever’s wrong, or your marriage will be introuble from Day 1. Also, you need to apologize to her for saying you didn’t want to marry her, and you need to make up. Getting back down on your knee and re-proposing would be a lovely gesture, after you’ve had your talk and made up.

However, if you really meant it that you didn’t want to marry her, and you still don’t, then consider yourself un-engaged. But honestly, I think this is more of a case of wedding jitters and cold feet and all that, and I think you’d be silly not to try to resolve the issue with this woman who’s been a huge part of your life for over 7 years!! Do you really want to throw away all you have together and start all over again? Marriage is a big commitment, and you can’t just call it quits every time it gets hard. It’s about compromise and willingness to work on any issues you have. I really think you need to call her, but don’t be surprised if she says she doesn’t want to see you. You might have really blown it!! it might take time to get things back on track. But whatever you do, call her right away to make sure she hasn’t already started telling people the wedding’s off. Good luck to you, and remember that it’s very common for couples to get into a big fight right before the wedding. We’re all scared of change and commitment and stuff, and that fear can make tensions run high.

Answer by amarie23
hey
as people have said either yes she has broken it off, or she is following your statement with what she thinks you want, she probably didn’t want too!! but sometimes you need to make someone realise what they could be losing and this has obviously made you think!
call her and talk as already mentioned people argue when wedding planning, the strongest of relationships are usually tested at these times.
good luck

Answer by Me K
It means..You opened the door to break the engagement and she walked out..LITERALLY!!!!!!!!!! How in the hell can you not know what this means?????? I suggest..what several has already…Buy her a dozen of red roses, maybe her favorite box of chocolates, and do some major damage control if you want to salvage this relationship!!!!!!!!!! Good luck!!!!!!!!!

Answer by Mom_of_one <3
You told her you didn’t want to marry her.
Obviously she wasn’t going to keep wearing the ring.
Talk to her.

Answer by marietta
Wellllll it could be an empty threat.
I’ve done that to my fiance maybe two times since we’ve been engaged. In the heat of the moment I really felt I would leave him, but in the end I just needed to see that he had some emotion about the whole thing.

Talk to her about it.

But if you find she’s packed her bags, you may be out of luck.