How should I talk to my mom about birth control?

RoyGBiv456: How should I talk to my mom about birth control?
I want to go on birth control because I have really bad menstral cramps and side effects from my period. I have a long period and since I’m on the swim team and I’m not all that comfortable with tampons I think this would be a better alternative.

I want to talk to my mom about it but I think she’ll think I’m having sex with my boyfriend since I’ve been dating him nearly a year. Any tips on how I can talk to my mom and avoid the awkwardness?

Answers and Views:

Answer by misseffinmurder
what you just said in the top should work. whats worse than menstrual cramps?

Answer by ♥HeidiJustine♥
Be honest and calm with her. Maybe bring her to the Doctors with you and talk about your cramps. I had to do the same thing and I was very scared but once I opened up to my mom about my cramps she went to the Docs with me and trusted me.

Answer by mittens
it good tgo tell her at least you want to be safe

Answer by Kimber
Yeah. I know what you mean I was the SAME way. I just came forward with her. Told her me being on the swim team and on my period wasnt fun at all. That my cramps are geting worse, and I want to regulate it. She understood. Maybe your mom will to. Be honest with her. There are so many good BC pills out there to regulate with. Look some up with her.

Answer by Rinne
I just told my mom exactly why I wanted to be on birth control. I would have really bad mood swings and my period started to be irregular. I just sat down with my mom and told her exactly why I wanted to be on birth control. If you’re looking to get on the shoot or any other birth control that stops your period, don’t do it. From the sounds of it you’re young and they don’t really reccomend the shot for younger girls. I know a 16 year old who got on the shot and got cervical cancer and now she cant have kids. The DR. doesn’t tell you how bad it can be for you, it’s better for women who have had atleast 1 kid already.

get the pill it works the best

Answer by snugglebears797
You should sit down and start off by telling her exactly what you said here for the reason you want the birth control. It will be awkward the first time regardless. Let her know you feel alittle awkward and are worried that she might think that is the reason. Good Luck.

Answer by Kristin C
oh lord. Not that long ago I was thinking the same thing and here I am praying that day never comes with my daughter. huh. I assume you mean depo prevara the shot you get every 3 mos. You need to know the side effects also (such as spotting everyday of the month for the 3 months) Definatly talk to your mom but just tell her outright. Once you weird out I can almost garuntee inside your mom is weirding out. Just say it to her straight. (IE “Mom I want to be on birth control and no I”m not having sex” Is a good conversation starter. Best of luck.

Answer by ionsouljah
Hey if your mom is understanding take her in with you in a doctors visit and explain in front of your doc and mom what you just said here. Just be upfront I’m sure you have a good relationship with your mom.

Answer by Strange question…
Tell her what you just told us, and see what she says. She knows you better than anyone else does, and she knows what would be good or bad for you. Ask her to consider letting you have that option. And, no matter what, remember that pills do not protect you from stds, emotional issues, or the loss of innocence if you think it is a “safe” method to start a sexual relationship with the bf. Don’t take it as an aside, positive benefit.

Answer by kandlight1182
It going to be awkward no matter how you ask it. You should tell your mom that you wanna talk to her about something and its really important and embarassing. Say i dont want you to think im doing anything i shouldn’t be doing, but you think it might be a good idea if you went on birth control because you are having bad cramps etc…..

You are going to have to reasure her that you are not having sex. that you havent even thought about it. Just say that when its that time of the month it makes it really difficult for u you swim and u dont wanna sit out.

She can even take you to her gynie and talk to her about it and she will tell your mom wheather or not its a good idea or not.

thats what they call a “medical opinion”

Answer by lovesugarkisses
If you go to a planned parenthood they will give you them for free after they give you a pap test

Answer by Jacee
Just tell her your problem…and tell her your not having sex your just having cramps and your not comfortablr…she’ll understand

Answer by Alex
The best way to go about this would probably just be to walk up to her, and say, “Mom, we need to talk.” Make sure both of you sit down, and then just come out and say what you said in the first paragraph of this question. Good Luck!

Answer by computerbuddy
Talking to Your Parents About Birth Control
by Logan R. Levkoff, 03.13.02

Many of you may be feeling anxious about some of the decisions that you face about having sex — including avoiding sexually transmitted infection and unintended pregnancy. Believe it or not, some of your parents are feeling just as anxious about the decisions you will make about sex! Some of them may be so anxious that they haven’t tried to talk with you about it.

If you want to involve your parents in your decisions about protecting yourself when it comes to having sex, you can be the one to initiate the conversation.

“What’s the point?” you may ask. Good question! Here are some possible benefits:

* You may get good advice and counseling about how to make decisions that will be best for you.
* You may increase the trust your parents have for you.
* Sharing this kind of information with them may show you are ready to be making responsible decisions about sex.
* You may get your parents’ help finding information about birth control, safer sex, or in finding a clinician, nurse practitioner, or gynecologist.

But before you psych yourself up to talk to one or both of your parents about birth control, think about how they may react. If you think they might freak out, you may want to wait to have this discussion until you’re all ready for it. In this case, you could turn to another trusted adult — maybe someone at your school or someone from a local family planning clinic. Talking to an adult you trust can give you the opportunity to rehearse what you want to say to your parents.

You should know that most parents want their children to grow up to have healthy sex lives. And healthy sexuality involves being responsible. Parents want their teens to make good decisions. And they want their children to be protected emotionally and physically. If you think mom or dad can handle a discussion about you having sex, there are some things you can say and do that may help the conversation go more smoothly.

Talking Tips:

1. Getting started: Give your parents a heads-up by scheduling your talk in advance. Just say something like “Can we have a private talk tonight?” If you’re nervous, it’s okay to say so! Break the ice with something like, “This feels weird for me to talk about, and it may be for you, too, but I want to tell you …”

If you don’t know where to start, use a book or a magazine you’ve read, or a show you’ve watched, as a jumping-off point. And say something like, “I read about someone who had sex when she was 15 years old. What do you think about that?”

2. How do you want them to be involved? Often parents want to feel needed and involved in their children’s lives. Make sure to tell them what role you want them to play in your decision-making.

* You may want their valuable advice about whether or not you are ready to have a sexual relationship.
* You may want them to know about the choices you are making about safer sex and birth control.
* You may want them to give you suggestions about ways to protect yourself from infection and/or give you information about birth control.
* You may want one or both of your parents to go with you to a family planning clinic or a gynecologist when you’re ready to start using a method of birth control or for a check up if you’ve already started having sex.

3. Confront the situation: You might say something like, “I’m starting to make important decisions about sex, and I want to talk to you about how to protect myself from sexually transmitted infections and pregnancy.”

4. Use your sexuality education: Parents want to make sure that you’re informed about the risks involved in having sex. Educate yourself and tell them what you know about pregnancy, sexually transmitted infections, and how you intend to protect yourself. This may help your parents feel better about your decision.

Sexuality is a natural and normal part of life. And so is sex. Having sex is a big decision. It involves many feelings and responsibilities. Remember that even if you follow all of these tips, your parents may not agree with your decision. Be sure to consider that possibility and its possible outcomes before you try to have the conversation.

But since most parents say that they will welcome the opportunity to talk with their kids about sexuality, most of us are not disappointed when we decide to start that conversation ourselves.
Source(s):
https://www.plannedparenthood.org/info-for-teens/.

Answer by alana c
just tell your mom do u want me 2 b pregnant or get on tha pill and not be pregnant