How to remember a mother at a wedding?

allmyluv2my3: How to remember a mother at a wedding?
My sister is getting married, and in memory of our departed mother, she is going to release balloons after the ceremony. She wants the minister to say a few words recognizing why this is being done. Any suggestions? Only serious responses please.

Answers and Views:

Answer by Destiny
Maybe you could leave a space for her in the Pews of the church, or you could play a song that is dedicated to her, maybe a song that she loved. I hope your sister has a great wedding 🙂

Answer by Starshine
Something along the lines of…..

‘We are releasing these balloons in memory of ……………….(mum’s name) on this special day. ………..(mum’s name) is loved and remembered everyday and on this special day we send these balloons into the sky to mark the occasion of ………(sister’s name) and …………..(groom’s name) wedding.’

Answer by gmanjoe
That idea actually sounds pretty good. You could also have the minister say a prayer during the ceremony or if they are having a reception with a DJ you could dedicate a slow dance song to her by having the DJ announce it and then you and your sister are the only ones who each dance with someone special such as your dad or husband.

Answer by Little Miss Helpful
Hi there,
sorry to hear of you mothers death, this sounds like a beautiful way to remember her by. What i can understand from your question, you are trying to think of what the minister should say? (correct me if i am wrong!)
How about the minister DOESNT say anything, how about the family gathers at the front and everyone or maybe just your sister tells everyone, it will be better coming from your heart than from someone who never knew how wonderful your mother was.
You could all say a bit, just how you feel, like ‘we just wanted to release these balloons, to remember my mother, on the most important day of my sisters life, i wish she could be here today, i know she is looking down on ye (the couple) and is so happy and so proud.”

hope this helps, best of luck 🙂
xxx

Answer by CHRISTINA
That sounds cool. I lost my mom too. its cool for everyone to write a message or memory on the balloons too.

Answer by Trust and Believe
I would not do it at all. It is not appropriate. Sounds very touching but no, it is wrong. A wedding is the bride’s special day – it’s all about her. This is the one day in her life where she is the center of attention. maybe the preacher could say a few words but that’s it.

Answer by Jess
I think the balloons are a great idea. My family recently had a reunion and had a relative whom is a minister say a few words about my departed grandfather. His death was still pretty fresh in everyone’s minds, so having that moment of remembrance was good and definitely appreciated. Have the minister remind everyone that your mother may be gone, but will always be with you all. Having this moment will insure that her spirit is with you all on your sister’s big day.

Answer by when.october.comes
I like the idea. Just make it a short and sweet explanation that going on “on this day we release these balloons in memory of (mothers name) who was unable to attend. God rest her soul”

Answer by meredith m
You could always put something on the programs letting the guests know what you will be doing and why. I didn’t release anything but I did want to remember my grandmother and father so I put a little note in programs remembering them.

Answer by thatashleychick
Well, to be honest, I’m not sure if that is a good idea. I lost my father when I was 19, so I had to deal with him not being at my wedding too. I put his name on the back of the wedding program, with a really nice poem, and had his picture tucked into my wedding bouquet (no one knew it was there, unless they caught a close-up glance). My SIL put together a slideshow, and there were some of my dad and me in there. This got some people BAWLING. I didn’t want people to get upset…

A wedding is a happy day. Dwelling too much on our departed loved ones takes away from that uplifting atmosphere. It is a day of celebration, not of mourning.

My advice would be to do the balloon release, but don’t tell anyone why you’re doing it. It’s just a way the bride & groom can send their love into the sky, get some good pictures, etc. Don’t upset people by making them feel like grieving.