Victoria: How can I convince my mom to let me go to the movies with my friends without her?
I am 14 and Im pretty much responsible when my mom asks me to do something, I want to go to the movies with my friends (a big group of friends). THe movie is age appropriate, I really don’t want my mom to come because none of my friends mom come, and it’s kind of embarrassing! What should i do!
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Answer by KD
explain to her that your not a child anymore, and that you want to start doing thins yourself, and have more independance
I remember when I was at that age haha but since you said you were responsible just tell her that she can trust you to not do anything wrong and mention to her that you were responsible.Answer by Jessica C
Allow your mom to drop you off to the movies. There is a lot of bad stuff outside and its not that your mom doesn’t trust you or worry you get in trouble. She worries about you because she loves you.Answer by Avery
Tell her you aren’t a kid anymore and you’ll be with a bunch of other people. You should also say that you will answer her calls and just tell her when the movie begins and ends. Just say some important facts and she’ll eventually give in or at least let her drive you there and pick u up ( if thats what you mean )Answer by SweetestCollision
I’m assuming that you’re in Jr. High/Middle School based on being 14! My school was set up so that students in Jr. High were coming from a bunch of different middle schools in the area. When I was in 7th/8th grade, my parents always asked me about the friends that I wouldn’t have known from elementary school because they wanted to make sure I was hanging out with friends that were from the “right crowd”- in other words, girls that didn’t drink or do anything inappropriate and mature (btw if you DO already drink at your age… that isn’t a very good thing and it would probably be better if you tried to stop!). This is gonna sound really cheesy, but bear with me here ;)… 14 is around the age where a lot of change can occur- I changed a lot during this time because I became WAY more sociable and changed who I hung out with, my hair, and my clothing because I decided it would be cool if I made myself more presentable! On the OTHER end of things, I could’ve chosen friends that were into drinking, smoking, and drugs, friends that didn’t care what they did, etc.
So what am I trying to get at here? Your mom is looking out for you, and respect her for being a good mom! Believe me, there are moms out there who don’t care about their kids and the kids end up in TOTALLY the wrong crowd! If I were you, maybe invite your friends over to your house sometime for a night of pizza, games, movies, whatever (maybe not a sleepover the first time). Just time where your mom can supervise you guys and so you can kind of indirectly show her that your group of friends is responsible enough to have a night to hang out and go shopping or to the movies “by yourselves”!
The absolute worst thing you could do is tell your mom straight out “Hey mom, you’re not coming with us.” Imagine somebody SO CLOSE to you telling you to back off. It could potentially ruin the special bond that you and your mom share, and once the damage is done, there is NO going back! Respect your mom, and make sure she knows how much you love her! By doing this, she will see that you’re really mature and could handle a movie night with friends 🙂
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