What wedding jewelry should my bride wear?

Scott G: What wedding jewelry should my bride wear?
My bride to be’s grandmother has a necklace she really wants her to wear. However she doesn’t actually like the necklace her grandmother is offering, and wants to borrow a necklace from my mother (who has offered to lend her jewelry). She is upset about upsetting her grandmother but would prefer not to wear that necklace. (i don’t have pictures of any of the necklaces.)
Any thoughts?

Answers and Views:

Answer by SChi25
The bride should wear what she’s more comfortable in. She can’t forget that the necklace will live on in the wedding photos forever. Does she really want to look back on them and say, “I wish I had just put my feelings aside and wore my mother’s jewelery.”

She can ask her grandmother if maybe she can wear the necklace for the rehearsal dinner, but that she would like to wear her mother’s jewelery the day of the wedding because it’s more her style. The grandmother should understand.

Answer by Sweet_Di
i think she should wear the one she wants her grandma should be more understanding. it isn’t her wedding it is her granddaughters wedding. it is about the bride, i hope that don’t sound too mean.

Answer by mr_mrs_kraft2b
She should just tell her gmother that the necklace has doesnt go well with the dressand what your mother has doea. and that she would love to wear it on yalls first anniv. lol ..maybe shed forget by then

Answer by salsajess
This is a tough situation, because I know you guys don’t want any hard feelings! I would just say she could tell her grandmother that your mom has also offered to lend jewelry, and after considering the two she feels your mom’s necklace is better fitting with her wedding dress. This way she doesn’t have to come out and say that she doesn’t like her grandmother’s necklace, just politely say that your mom’s would match the style of the gown more

Answer by djlover4life85
were one for the reception and one for the wedding. I would have loved if my grandmother was still around to offer me something that has history.

Answer by pamplemousse and taco
I agree with the answers already posted…

She should let her grandmother know that she is honored to wear her necklace however it doesn’t compliment her wedding dress. Since we don’t know what the necklace looks like your bride could wear it as a bracelet (if it is able to be worn as one) or at the rehearsal. Or if her grandmother is okay with it, she could take the necklace and have it recreated using the same stones (or whatever it is made of) into a new design.

Answer by MSG
hhmmmm… that’s a toughy!!

well… there’s a few things to ponder here.

one – if your bride declines her own grandmother and accepts YOUR mother…. is the bride’s grandmother and mother going to feel really hurt and jealous?

two – can your bride take her grandmother’s necklace to a jeweler and possibly turn it into something that she DOES like?

three – is your bride really really close w her grandmother?

four – does her grandmother have another piece of jewelry that your bride can borrow… i.e.: earrings, bracelet, ring?

five – is her grandmother’s necklace really that bad? does it really not match?

i just got married 8.30.08. although it IS about the bride (LOL)… it is about the family. and how everyone is there to celebrate. and it is about both of your families becoming one. as a bride and a groom…. yes…you planned the wedding and you guys are the reason there is a wedding… but all in all… it is your parents and their parents etc etc that have brought you to this very second in your life. there are soooo many things about a wedding that make it special. let your bride decide the few things that are really important to her and let her talk to her grandmother to see what is the one thing that is important to her… if your bride can honor that one thing……. she will be brining positive energy to you and your wedding.

if your bride is worried about it now…she know the ‘right’ thing to do is wear her grandma’s. if she feels weird about declining her grandma and accepting your mom’s necklace now… then she will feel weird on your wedding day about it to. and a necklace is the last thing you need her to worry about the day of.

ask her to think about when you have kids. is she had something she wanted to pass down to your daughter on her wedding day and her daughter said no… but i’m going to use my groom’s mother’s instead…. wow..i think she would be hurt.

and last but not least….. if she really doesn’t want to wear the grandma’s necklace… let her look online to see if there is anything new that she likes. i bought a fake necklace on line and every one loved it. it came out beautiful in my pics and it perfectly matched my dress. i bought it at www.annabellagio.com.

k, hope these thoughts help you.
good luck with your wedding!
best wishes for infinite years together!

all the best 🙂

Answer by ♥Kaitlin aka His Browneyed Girl
A bride should wear what she wants on the wedding day, but I can understand your fiancee’ not wanting to upset her grandmother. She could always use her grandmother’s necklace as a bouquet drape, if the style oft he necklace permits.

Answer by Carol W
I gave my daughter my late mother’s rosary to hold for her wedding. But she didn’t want to, because she no longers practices Catholocism. I was a little disappointed as that rosary represented Grandma. So she wrapped it around the stems of her flowers in her hand tied bouquet of calla lillies, and we were both satisfied.

Perhaps your bride can do something similar with her grandma’s necklace.

Answer by Avy Q
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Answer by sophiaxs
I have a great idea for you.

Firstly, your bride should wear the necklace that she wants. This is really her day and she should not feel pressured into doing something she does not want to do.

However, if she does not want to upset her grandmother, she can attach a link to the necklace containing something that is related to her grandmother, like a bead or a gemstone. She can do this herself, or if it is complicated, she can get a jewelry designer tgo do it for her. Thus her grandmother will not feel like she is being ignored and your bride can wear the jewelry she wants.