What is there that we have to “fall in love” when we can just….love?

Eink: What is there that we have to “fall in love” when we can just….love?
Can we not just go straight to loving someone and skip that ‘falling’ part of it?

Answers and Views:

Answer by El Crispador i rock my world
i think that would mean being more detached. See when you full in love you absorb each others vibes.. it is more about the ‘two’ of you.. the outcome, you are a unit.. Just to love is less selfish and still keeps a wholisitic approach to life. and doesn’t hurt as much when it ends.

Answer by SuperWOMAN.
I think that’s why we were given family and friends. We love them unconditionally but skipped the “falling” part. Romantically its just a different story. The heart just doesn’t like to make things any easier for us haha.

Answer by Chris Q.T.
falling in love includes commitment just to add to El Crispador =), falling in love remove’s doubts like turning unhappy,

Falling in Love can be like Selfless Duty/ Loving Duty (they’re both unselfish), but sometimes that can be a bad thing where you turn to be unalert & not intentive(watchful), (to avoid that) just be more intentive than more active (You must actively shape your own destiny & the destiny of “Your Lover”)

when you fall in love, you sacrifice your own spiritual needs & do whatever it takes to protect “Your Lover”

Answer by Aloha Breezey
Skipping the falling part would mean skipping the part where we realize all the big and little things
that we like or love about a person. We wouldn’t be thrilled about so many things that make us fall
for someone.
If someone were just dropped into your life, no signs or things shared to get to that loving moment…
how are you going to know you love that person? What would loving someone be based on , if there
were no special moments, getting to know you times and all that is shared in falling for each other?

If you think about it, even a child has shared with the mom before birth and being loved, when born. The mom and child have formed a bond while that child is growing inside her. Listening to that unborn child’s heartbeat, seeing that unborn child’s pictures… ultrasounds, checkups and learning about what that child will need, feeling that child move inside… all ways of falling in love with that child.

Just my way of seeing things… 🙂

Answer by ₪₪Ω₪₪
You can just love someone or anyone but falling in love is “nature’s” way of pushing us in a trap that will help keep the human species alive.

What a LOVEly trap that is 🙂

Answer by [email protected]
When we are born we feel that comforting feeling, of the touch of our Mothers, as we grow up that feeling grows by leaps and bounds. But if we have brothers and sisters, also other Family members, we also feel that Love surrounding us, but as we grow up and we feel the difference of the opposite sex we feel different then, and as soon as we find that one and only, the person we want to share our Life with is when we fall deeply in Love that for that person we even think of killing our self for that Person if she does not feel the same way as we do.
So my answer to your question is to me the difference of Love and falling in Love is as simple as day from night.

Answer by roaster
love is not in our choice i think, more in our fate
excluding fatalistic approach, it could be by chance

who is in love but not love at first sight?