What is the difference between loving someone and being in love?

em: What is the difference between loving someone and being in love?
Say you have a guy and a girl and they are in a relationship together. If one loves the other but isn’t in love… then what is the difference? When you are talking about a romantic relationship and not a friendship what is the difference between loving them and being in love with them? It might as well just be a friendship..? please help try to explain this to me. Cause i don’t get it.

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Answer by Zargogo
there is no difference!?

Answer by Lauren G
if you love someone it is real, if you are in love it is lust and feelings.
feelings change and will die.
love lasts forever if it is real.

Answer by Colette B.
To love someone is a very complicated thing. I almost feel like it can’t be described. Loving someone means you know them, almost every aspect of them but you love every part of them. You want them to be happy always, you would never intentionally hurt them, you want to be by their side forever. Etc, all that mushy stuff. It’s basically a feeling that needs to grow over time; i.e., you can’t truly love someone after knowing them for a few months. It takes time.
Being in love is completely different. It’s almost like infatuation. The big difference is, you can fall out of love with someone (lose interest) but when it comes to loving someone, you never stop loving them.

Answer by allie
I think that when you love someone you like being with them when you can. But when you are in love, you can not stand to be away from them. But it might be different for other people

Answer by sunshine.
Just loving someone, would entail deeply caring for them. Sort of like how you love your friends, you love someone else who’s more special to you. When you’re in love, that sort of connotates a more passionate, deep-within-the-heart kind of a feeling you feel for the other person. But really, you should set for yourself what you think the difference is — no one can tell you for you whether you’re simply loving someone or you’re actually in love. It should be easy enough to tell if you truly are in love.

Answer by Skater5202
umm when your making love. thats sex
but um there kinda the same thing.

Answer by :]
You love your family, but you’re in love with you boyfriend/husband. :] Hope this helped!
Answer mine please thanks!

Answer by Luna
when you love some one it could be like you love your mom but when you are in love you care about the other more then you care about your self and when you look at him/her you feel like you are getting punched in the stomeck

Answer by Netflix Guy
The difference like a G and R rated movie or maybe difference between
real coke and diet coke.

Answer by BarBQFritosFTW
Here’s how I see it. You love your family. You love your pets. You love your friends. But you wouldn’t say you are in love with them, right?

Being in love with someone means you would do anything for them, you want to be by their side as much as possible, you want to wake up next of them every morning, you want them to take care of you. You want to hug them and hold them and kiss them and make love to them.

If you feel like you only love them…then maybe it is just a friendship, and not a romance.

Loving and being in love is probably a little different to everyone. Maybe it’s something you have to figure out on your own. No one REALLY knows how you feel except you.

Answer by Linsey
If you love someone, you think about this all the time and you’re really happy when you’re with that person. If you’re on the young side, you probably aren’t in love with anybody yet. But you might love somebody. If you love somebody, you wanna spend the rest of you’re life with them. You overlook the things you don’t like about them because you just want to be with them.

Answer by Benino
You either love someone or do not.

The phrase “I love you but I’m not in love with you, so I’m breaking up” is a bullshit excuse for falling out of love with someone.

Females especially are confusing love with affection for friends, so many people now mistakenly believe that there are three kinds of love; familial (family), mate (boy/girlfriend husband/wife, you know), and friendship. But friendship is NOT LOVE!

Answer by additude
Well, you can ‘love’ someone, your friends, parents, siblings…etc.

In love tends to suggest there’s a sexual attraction involved.

Answer by Christine C
When you’re in love with someone, it’s almost as though you can’t get enough of them for reasons I couldn’t even try to explain. Mild infatuation.

Loving someone is more like caring about them, but the love is not as directed or concentrated on them.

While being in love can be nice, it definitely opens up the floor for other strong emotions, like strong anger, strong dejection – it’s not always a good thing.

Answer by L.i.V.e.L.i.F.e.
love is an undescribable thing. . .it must be shown. . .

Answer by Crystal
Well being in love in that your enjoying it in the present now and it good while its going but saying you love someone is like you have been through all the ups and downs in the relationship and you know it can be ruff sometimes but no matter what your feelings for that person won’t change and being in love sometimes you fall out of that love very easily because you never really was committed to being their or you might think you was but it turns out you weren’t

Answer by OneLuv
I heard a guy once say I love her but I’m not in love with her. I said and the difference is.. He said that I love her as a friend I just have love for her. If I was in love with her then that would mean that all the feelings with loving someone would come with being in love with her, I would fight for it all to be with her and those feelings I had would be so strong that I could not explain. So after I thought well makes sense so there is a diffrence.

I really hope I answered your question.

Answer by Soundgardener1980
Being ‘in love’ is when you’re deluded that the person in question is perfect, brought about by your physical attraction to them, and maybe attraction to certain aspects of their character that you noticed and built up in your mind, so oftentimes ppl fall out of love after a time because the ‘love’ was based on weak foundations.

Love itself is a totally different thing, and being ‘in love’ is just a fragment of the real thing thats been blown out of proportion and is fundamentally based on ‘passion’ which although feels great when you have the object of your passion is known to be a destructive emotion because as soon as the tide turns and you’re down on your luck it feels extremely painful.

Love never hurts, it creates and heals but never destroys.

Answer by max
There are different kinds of love ex: a mom loves her child, love between sister and brother etc. then sit in a quite place in morning close your eyes and ask yourself do you love that person or try to picture him/her with other person see do you et angry or do you think that not a right guy/girl for him/her (and this is without knowing the other person’s loved one)
I’m sure you’ll get your answer.

Answer by Nurse who might know
You can love many people (children, grandparents, parents, siblings, friends, etc) and you can love doing things (playing video games, sports, skating, dancing, etc). Loving things can include a lot (fried chicken, donuts, ice cream) and people. You can love your dog but not be “in love” with it.
Being “in love” is a mature decision that must be made between two people, It means mutual respect, caring about their needs, discussing differences of opinion without anger, wanting what is best for the relationship, rather than just you and having honesty, reliability, trust and happiness in the relationship. If you do not want to spend the rest of your life with this one person, it is not being “in love”. If you don’t have both people wanting these things, then it is not a viable relationship. Hope this helps.

Answer by Marissa
a friend or family member is someone you love but don’t want to kiss. If you like someone as a friend but not as a significant other tell them so they aren’t wasting their time.
But, don’t lie to yourself either. some people are afraid to fall in love with someone they don’t think could be their true love, not cute enough, rich, funny, … If you can’t imagine yourself waking up every day of your life without the other person there you are in love.
If you are a teen it’s ok to date people you are not in love with. you need practice how to interact with others and to find out what the person is like. I don’t mean sleeping with them. some people are different then you expect; they don’t match their first impressions..

Answer by Javyn Tjeng
Ask yourself… Would you carry his baby in your womb? Would you take care of him 24/7 when he is sick?

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