What are some ways to achieve an orgasm for a woman?

jesus_christ_is_my_everything: What are some ways to achieve an orgasm for a woman?
I am having troubles having an orgasm, I am female. My husband tries but it doesn’t work and my husband feels bad. How can I fix this problem? I want to know how one feels. Is it as good as it is said to be?

Answers and Views:

Answer by Kisses From Paris, I love you!
umm,
i think you should buy a dildo.
it works good.

Answer by Ttown
Get a book and a few toys…. Then relax and dont try so hard.

Answer by Janey
Try different things…

Answer by Amber h
Kegels

Answer by happywjc
Relax, with a friend!
who listens to what you need!

Answer by Marriage_&_Divorce
brb At the point of intercourse, tell your husbands to whisper beautiful nice nasty hot sexy things-fantasy stuff. Forget using lubricants. Start dry and let your husband gradually, slowly but surely, warm you up, bit by bit. Let your husband slow cook you gradually. I repeat! Do not use any lubricants! Start dry and let your husband understand how to get you into the extreme hot mood for hot sex. He has to find a way, to make U hot and wet, without using any lubricants. Once your husband or you found a way, you always be “hot” and in the mood for hot sex every single day nonstop. Its awesome! I love being deep inside my wife.

Answer by Liz
The best way is to do it yourself. Rub yourself until you find a way that feels good, then show your husband what to do.

Answer by Turd_On_The_Floor
Buy a vibrator and hand it to your husband.

Answer by redhead27
I recommend the DIY technique first… (do it yourself)
this way you know what feels good, you are completely comfortable with yourself first and you know what you want and you can teach your husband what feels good.

So take some time to yourself, get completley relaxed (you need to be completely relaxed otherwise it ain’t gonna happen) and explore yourself a little (specially the clit).

Then when you figure out just what you like then teach him.

Answer by Northwest OK Guy
Nobody knows you body better than yourself. My advice is to try and reach it through masturbation. Don’t worry, everyone does it at some point.

I have done a lot of reading on the subject and understand that many women have difficultly achieving the BIG O, so do not feel alone. If you can not figure out how to do it by yourself perhaps you can do an internet search on masturbation techniques. Believe me, there is a lot of information out there.

Answer by cattailfeet
Well the only way to let your partner know what works best for you is if you know what works for you. Discover yourself by exploring your own body and what turns you on best.

Answer by Ann R
Both of you guys need to relax, take your time, enjoy a lot of foreplay, have some sexy chatter, tell him what makes you feel aroused.
By all means he needs to hold his arousal/erection for as long as he can so it can be a joint thing. Try things you’ve never tried before, work at it, it’ll happen. There’s nothing like it…

Answer by Raul
There is not much you can do except the fact that its not in your hands….

Answer by Tainted Heart
You need to masturbate and explore your body. Once you find what makes you tickle and shake then let him know.

I personally only have an orgasm by clitoral stimulation so my man has to always give me oral. It’s common for some women not to have vaginal orgasms. There’s some sensation down there but he can dig around for days and I still won’t climax that way.

Answer by eschewobfuscation
Guide him to your “spot” and you can find it yourself by exploring. When you do find it, show him so he knows and make sure you get in plenty of foreplay beforehand.

Answer by Nay Nay
I was in your position a few months back.
I read SOOOO much about having orgasms
because I couldn’t have not one. But the real trick is to
seriously, just relax and it will sneak up on you, but

it will be the most wonderful surprise! I could never
have one on my own, even if I tried for ten minutes.
But the trick is to relax, use your imagination, and breathe.
Just think of what really turns you on without stressing
out to much. If you’re trying to force it on yourself it
won’t work, because you’re thinking too hard.
Just relax, and have your man perform oral on you
until you absolutely can’t handle it and when you feel

a ‘pressure’ building up, don’t think about it. and Oh,
he should also be using his hands to stimulate
your g-spot, it will be tricky to find, but once he finds
it, you’ll know. But be sure you’ve had lots of foreplay,
at the least 15 minutes. This will make it more tempting.
Then when he is performing oral on you and using
his hands the right way, and you feel that ‘feeling’
take a deep breath and let go.

Good luck. You can also look up what positions
are best for g-spot stimulation. My personal
favorite is sideways, also known as spooning.
And if that doesn’t work, try doggie style with
your man while using a vibrator.

Edit: its better than its said to be when you finally
have one!!!

they’re intense!

Answer by Lady A
Wear something slinky and make out like crazy with your husband. As you are both making out just let him rub up his body against yours with that slinky material between you. That will turn you on big time. Just go along with the sensual feeling and enjoy until you are so turned on, then you will be begging him to do it to you, but don’t concentrate on reaching an orgasm, it will just happen, sometimes 2 or even 3 times. Well at least that’s what happens with me and my hubby. His body feels like a magnet to me.

Answer by shyanne
i agree with those who advised trying giving yourself an orgasm. i suggest being alone and using a vibrator. any kind will do. even a massager. RELAXing is key. feeling ok about it and no worries about achieving anything is important. just exploring your own body and what arouses you and having fun is enough. just “go with” whatever happens to your body. physically, you might expect to feel a little anxious, your face might flush, heart race and lose some control, like trembling. i can’t hardly explain orgasm itself and of course, everybody is different. but i can tell you it’s an all encompassing feeling – if you let it take over, it feels so good you also can’t stand it. (it’s one of the things women have over men! i think female orgasms are much more powerful)
please don’t make it something your husband has to accomplish. it will put pressure on him and end up frustrating you both.
at least at first, discover this for YOURSELF. after all, he surely “discovered climax” on his own.
then you try it together.
take it from someone who in 20yrs of marriage never climaxed with her husband.
you must trust your self, your body with your partner.
don’t believe the myth that not all women can climax. they can.
happy exploring.

Answer by da_hal
couple points:

1. all women feel orgasms differently. some feel it through their whole body, others feel it only around the genitalia. also, intensity varies widely between women.

2. achieving orgasm varies a lot too. some women can get it by getting a tattoo, or having their hair brushed. the most consistent way i know is clitoral stimulation. i haven’t met a woman yet who couldn’t get off by doing this.

3. tips for stimulating the clitoris: ron jeremy states that some women like it up and down, others like it left to right, others like it clockwise, while others like it counterclockwise. there’s no one right way for anybody. however, one tip that does work is don’t stop. the mistake most men make is to stop once she starts bucking. you gotta hang on and ride it until the end. imagine if a man was climaxing, and then at the first spurt, you stopped. it’s the same thing.

4. pressure is important. make sure you use enough pressure. some women can orgasm with light touching, but most women require a firm pressure against their clitoris.

Answer by Heather
I have only had orgasms when my husband performs oral sex. The clitoris needs to be stimulated and that doesn’t happen for most people during intercourse.

Answer by robmick
I’m not happy unless she has at least four or five…or more. Otherwise I call that a quickie. There are all sorts of manipulations and my personal favorite.. oral. Try having him use the vibrating ring from trojan or a vibrator to fire you up after a glass or two of Asti Spumante to warm you up first. ALL women are multi-orgasmic.

Answer by Loving Wife
The answer is not just kegels, but do you know what makes you feel good, even if doing it yourself, If so teach him how to pleasure you the way you can yourself, In the bedroom you should be able to be free with your partner to explore and try new things, so relax and let your guard down and enjoy.