Sex…….??

suite life123: Sex…….??
My friend is 19 and hasn’t got the internet.
She wants to know. what it’s like to have sex for 1st time.
She’s a girl and she is really scared a having sex because pain always makes her pass out.
what should she do??
i’ve tryed to tell her about my first time to make her feel better but she wants other peoples opinions…

Answers and Views:

Answer by Andrew P
Well since the first time can hurt, she needs to find a guy who will take his time, and well get the juices flowing first. If it’s done with someone with some experience it should minimize the discomfort and enhance the fun it will be :).

Answer by Grandpa!
IM a granpa and have about 56 children.Sure its painful but remeber to use a condom!How do you think i have so many kids!

Answer by One Weird Dude
If she’s not ready for it, then she shouldn’t do it, plain and simple.

Answer by Debbie
The first time hurts a lot!!!! It hurt me to walk after I did lol!!! It has to be with someone who means a lot to her because that’s when it’s the most special. Don’t just have sex to have sex because it’s going to be nothing and you’ll prob just end up feeling used and be upset/hurt.

Answer by john m
the bottom line is that it’s going to hurt! there is no way around that. but…..if u can tell her that she needs to not think about the pain aspect of it and just concentrate on doing things that get her extremely turned on then she won’t think about the pain as much and it will actually not hurt as much.

Answer by lana s
Tell her she needs to wait for that sincere love and the one she wants to spend her life with, MARRIAGE. That make it the most wonderful experience and the closeness just grows and she would be doing the right thing. She doesn’t need it yet and doesn’t sound ready, don’t try to push someone to have sexz, they will probably regret later!!!!!

Answer by preachercarney
yes sex is painful for the first time. and she should alwaye make sure that it is with her husband. if not its a serious sin called fornication.thanks for your question. love and god bless . pastor carney.

Answer by marrriharri
make sure she finds someone gentle. on my first time the guy was huge, but we went really slow, so it didn’t hurt too much. also, if she doesn’t have someone specific in mind, look for a guy who is experienced and has a smaller penis(which sounds wierd, but is a good idea)

Answer by jazul24
Honestly, it doesn’t hurt for everyone. Some feel pain and discomfort others don’t, and enjoy their first time. But if she is tense, it WILL hurt. She shouldn’t do it if she isn’t ready and with someone she doesn’t trust.

Answer by spviper23880
. it doesnt have to hurt…. if she is ready it wont hurt. also she has to be relaxed and have no worries.. many girls worry too much, they get tense and scare and thats no good… my girl wasnt in pain at all after. she was relaxed and turned on!!! also she has to be very well lubricated. thats the important part.

Answer by Terrin S
she should wait till shes ready i lost mine when i just turned 14 and i regret it but don’t i lost it to someone who i met that day and ended up going out with him 8 months you shouldn’t rush into it if she ain’t ready explain to her it don’t hurt to much and after a couple of times having sex it will stop hurting and feel good plus got to think if she want to wait till shes married or not?

Answer by Enrique 12
The first time can be a very awesome experience if you’re man knows what to do. I know that my girlfriend didn’t feel any pain our first time, in fact she enjoyed it, bt it all comes down to your friend and if she idn’t ready, she shouldn’t have sex until she is because only then will she enjoy it instead of thinking about the pain.

Answer by keeski7
Well it depends because my first time an a few other people I know says it didnt hurt either.. So it just depends, unless your bangn a mandingo warrior… lol

Answer by Greg M
If she cant find a guy emotional enough to handle her virginity, she needs to find someone else

Answer by OMG!DiS iS sO kEwL
idk..im a virgin too…lmao!

Answer by natalie
Different girls feel different amounts of discomfort or pain their first time. For most girls there is some pain, but it isn’t huge. For me the pain was about as much hurt as breaking a blister, or getting a small accidental cut on my hand. It stings, but the pain is not what the experience is about; it’s just a distraction. If she holds still for a minute, to give the pain a chance to die down, then she will be able to concentrate of how it feels to have him inside her.
As for waiting until marriage, not doing it until sure, blah blah blah, that’s just the standard unrealistic knee-jerk reaction of the repressive prudes trolling the internet. Don’t pay them any attention, they are out of touch with reality.
The longer a girl waits, the more scared of sex she can get, and the bigger it looms in her mind. Some develop neurotic obsessions and other mental or emotional disturbances that can have permanent effects as bad as those associated with rape. I had sex the first time in my early teens and I do NOT regret it at all. It is a very special romantic memory that I will treasure forever. The pain was only a very minor part of the whole experience, and it’s important that your friend knows that.

Answer by pavelkam
tell her to use a dildo or vibrator before she loses her virginity. It wont be the same but it will give her an idea of the feeling

Answer by Cindy R
When she finds the right man, he will KNOW what to do to make it the best experience. I found the best sex, or love making I have EVER had was when he was super affectionate, lots of kisses and touching. And he was so gentle, pleasing me all over. Once you are pleasured and loved on like that, than you may not even notice the pain when the intercourse begins. Plus they could take baby steps to avoid the passing out part…

Answer by Denise W
take a Xanex and lay there like your dead it’ll be over soon!!

Answer by slfp
I don’t agree with marrriha. It’s not all about if the guy is gentle or not. If it is big or small. It’s about the feelings you have for that person. If she is not ready just don’t do it period. It’s not about the experience either. Why if she finds someone who has experience but don’t know him good enough, she won’t just do it because he has already done it. First, she has to meet that guy that she wants to spend her entire life with, get to know him and later on think about sex. I have been with my boyfriend for years and we waited a long time before doing it because I wasn’t sure. If she is smart enough she will wait until she feels she is ready. When you love someone, pain is nothing.

Answer by sue t
tell her to suck it up and make him have that tounge moving on her!

Answer by SuperGurl78
Alrighty, in my opinion, the first time wasn’t painful for me. Granted, I was nervous, but it didn’t hurt. It must hurt for a majority of people because I hear that alot. If I were you I would tell my friend that it can be a pleasant or unpleasant experience depending on the person and the situation. If she feels ready and the person she is with has nothing but her best interests at heart, it will most likely be an enjoyable experience.
Also be certain to stress the importance of protection. If she is that scared, she’s not ready, and that’s okay, she doesn’t have to be.

Answer by teamosmurf
This is what she wants, GO SLOW, cuz then it will open up real slow and it wont hurt as bad as if the boy just pushes it in, the first couple times will hurt, but dis is just me tellin you…

Answer by Reha S
it might not pain but it did pain for and it hurts alot but after haveing twice or trice u get use to it and u enjoy trust me

Answer by Pettle
first of all lub or something is definately needed if foreplay is not going to be used!! my first time was not as sore as a lot of girls make it out!! if ur not ready dont do it! ur brain needs to know that putting it bluntly that u r horny so that u will become moist!! DONT try it without no lube or ‘dry’ as it would be extremely painful and u could hurt urself. make sure the boy takes his time and is gentle as this will help her sooo much. and remember dont jus do it for the sake of doing it make sure its someone special cause remember once ur virginity is gone that it u cant get it bk!! let me no how ur friend gets on tell her not to be nervous jus be calm and things should run smoothly