parents…?

i like turtles: parents…?
how do you deal with parents who are always criticizing you and putting you down and calling you a hopeless loser, and saying you can’t do anything in life?? you know how discouraging that is??

Answers and Views:

Answer by ladyxrussell
Suck it up and prove them wrong later. I know it is hard and I had to endure the same thing but I have a Bachelors degree and am a network engineer. I think that is pretty good for someone who would never amount to anything, now they ask me for financial assistance. Whose the loser now. Look at it as negative encouragement.

Answer by Brian B
Show them they are wrong, and make sure when you turn 18 or sooner if possible and walk out the door for the last time, you let them know they won’t ever see you again. You can put yourself through college if you really want to.

Answer by KrazyKyngeKorny
You think you are all grown up, but you are a foolish child. Do some real growing up. You want to be allowed to make your own decisions, then start making good ones instead of those that pleasure you. Don’t destroy your life for a few minutes pleasure.

Answer by Mexican Guy
I am trying to offend, but maybe they are right.

Answer by Sarah S
Talk to a counselor at school. Do not let your parents discourage you from making decisions but look deep into yourself at the same time and make sure you are making good choices. Being a teen is not easy but it will get better.

Answer by Ginger
My parents were like this too, there is nothing you can really can do at this time only to tell them how much this hurts your feelings, they probably won’t stop, just wait until you are old enough move away from them. The effects of emotional abuse last a lifetime,unless you deal with it.

Answer by sissy
you just look at your parents and say, well you say I’m a loser that’s one gene i wish i hadn’t of inherited from you two as parents.you are what you make of yourself.

Answer by JesusMyDelight
Maybe you could try to join a youth group or a club at school. Find a very positive, supportive group of friends and other significant adults who love you as you are and can counter the effects of what you are experiencing at home. You are precious and don’t deserve to be treated that way.

Answer by ViVo (:
Yeah.. it pisses me off too. Its very discouraging, but its actually THEIR way of encouragement. They are dilberately doing so to make you angry, to make you mad. They believe that if they do this, you’ll have the ambition to do better, to make them more happy. They dont see some people are more sensitive than others, and get pierced in the heart easier than others. Just live with it i guess. It’s working for me.. though sometimes i just wish for two words “good job.” :sigh:

Answer by Lisa
Any parent who treats their child like this should probably have never become a parent in the first place. How sad. Some people just don’t know how to be a good parent. This is emotional abuse, and any form of abuse… is abuse.