“Oh my! She is fake because she had a breast implant!”-the heartbreaking comment I never want to hear!?

Quiana: “Oh my! She is fake because she had a breast implant!”-the heartbreaking comment I never want to hear!?
Hello! My name is Quiana, and I am 16 years old. In a few more years, I want to get breasts implants. I am sick and tired of being afraid to wear a strapless bra because I possibly can not hold it up and not being able to choose any bra of my choice at Victoria’s Secret because I will be flat chested! I want to do this secretly while I am in college, but I am kind of afraid that when I come home it will be very noticeable. I am also kind of scared that people will label me as FAKE, but I know this is something I have to do. I know I can not do it naturally because that only goes so far. I want to move from a 32A to C or D cup! Do anyone understand what I am saying? I really want this, but I do not want to be judged by my friends, strangers, and family. I am still going to be the same person, but I am just going to actually fit a bra of any one of my choices. While you are on Earth, you might as well do some appearance changes that will make you feel good about yourself. Just don’t over do it. Right?

Answers and Views:

Answer by Jordan
I kinda get what you’re saying. While I would never, ever get breast implants I don’t judge people who do get them. I wouldn’t label you as fake just because you got a breast implant, people who do that are just jealous that they don’t look as good. Anyway, I think you should do what you want and if you feel confident about yourself and your appearance then people are less likely to make fun of you. And if they do, just ignore them. Simple as that. But, if you’re having second thoughts don’t do it. It’s all your decision; if you really want this, go for it.

Answer by Charis N
Most doctors won’t change the size more than 2 cup sizes. So the biggest you could go is a C. (those women that have HUGE implants have to have multiple surgeries, going up only two cup sizes each time). I understand what you’re saying about wanting to get bras and clothes that fit and are more flattering …. I am a DD and that’s not huge but I have a horribly hard time finding bras (next time you’re at victoria’s secret, look at all the cute bras then search for one in a DD size. You’ll see that the design is usually changed a little and they never look as cute because the straps have to be bigger and there’s more latches in the back… just ugh it’s hard to find sexy bras in DD. for real). anyways… so yeah I get what you’re saying. I want a reduction really bad and I’m hoping people wont judge me for that either.

If you just go up to a C then I doubt strangers will judge you because it won’t be likely that they will even know they’re fake. Breasts implants have improved DRASTICALLY in the last few years. They are VERY realistic now.

If this is something you want to do, then do research on it and stick to your decision and stand strong against people that judge you. It’s your body not theirs.

Answer by STimmR
You can’t honestly say that you will be the same person after the surgery. You will suddenly have a self confidence you didn’t have before. People say things like that becuase it is true…rather than learning to accept what you were given, you take the easy way out and spend thousands of dollars to make yourself look like someone you aren’t (fake!). You are only 16!!!!!!! you body won’t finish developing for 2-4 more years and by then, you could have a whole new outlook on life. Quit focusing on your chest…it isn’t going to help or keep you from getting what you want out of life. Clearly you are a vain teenager who just wants boys to notice her.

Answer by Sam
I know exactly what you mean. Trust me I do. But as for me – I would never get breast implants because I believe in natural beauty. But then again everyone thinks differently. If you think about it, you will kinda feel the same either way – if you don’t get implants you will feel insecure that you have flat chest, but if you do get implants you will still feel insecure about getting implants because of what people will think of you. And it will probably be noticeable since you want to go up 2 sizes. Before you really decided to get this done – think about the results and whether or not it will be worth it. I think the best way to deal with it is just embrace your body (I know this may sound lame, cliche or you might have even heard this 1000s of times but its true). I am not trying to dissuade you or anything, I’m simply giving you my input and opinion. Hope this helped. 🙂

Answer by Zu
Honey, what are you asking?

Do you want people to say that having breast implants doesn’t make you a “fake” person? You’re right, it doesn’t. Any person is about much more than any choice, however drastic, they make about their appearance.
No one has a right to make that judgement about you based on your implants. Your body, your looks, are not your essence as a person. What you choose to DO with it does say something about you as a person – just like a tattoo – but when I see someone with a terrible tattoo I don’t think, “what an idiot”, I think, they went through a time in their lives when they thought that was a great idea – good for them for owning that!

Or do you want people to say it’s a good idea, it’ll look great, make you happy?
I’m afraid I can’t say that. It’s a pretty brutal procedure to go through just to wear strapless bras. There’s always a risk of complications from the general anaesthesia, the cutting of skin and nerves and bloodvessels, of lasting pain, lasting swelling, infections, bad scarring, hardening, lupus, and that you lose all that wonderful sexual sensitivity that make breasts so sexual.

There are also a lot of women who don’t end up very happy with the results – they can be uneven, or point in the wrong direction, the nipples can seem “off”, they can ripple, and they just will not look natural. They never really do, but especially not when you’re lying down.

Any honest plastic surgeon will tell you that if you have low self confidence, low self esteem, if you’re thinking that this surgery is the thing that will make you confident and happy – you’re making a mistake. Sometimes people like that who have plastic surgery have a temporary boost in confidence, but they’ll soon enough find something else to obsess over.

On the other hand, if you have a good self esteem already and know you could life a perfectly happy live with the breasts you have, but you’d still rather have bigger ones, and you have realistic expectations – in those cases it seems like it can give people some satisfaction.

But your explanation for wanting this – that you want to be able to wear any bra you like – is clearly not the whole story. I’m the same size as you and I agree, Victoria’s Secret isn’t for us, but I have a million cute lace bralettes and camis from Urban Outfitters, Honeydew, Belabumbum… Spend some time on Azaleas’ “smaller cups” section and you’ll never want to shop Victoria’s Secret again.
The thing about small breasts is that you can wear these very thin, very sexy little things with no bulky hardware or foam messing up your silhouette, that show off as much nipple as you choose… That’s right, let me tell you a secret: when it comes to being sexy, nipple trumps cleavage every time.
So, bras are not the problem. Being attractive is not a problem.
But believing that what you are, the way you are now, is enough to be liked, adored, desired – can you do that?
Because you know what? It is.

Answer by k h
No, wrong!

All those excuses and explanations. You won’t feel better about yourself by having big round genderless foreign objects squeezed into your breasts. You’ll just have to put on a show always, and what you really wanted, you won’t get… and you look and feel unnatural, yet will be compelled to tell everybody that you are so happy about it, even when you aren’t. That is just sad and weird.

The best and only way is when you are liked for what you are. You don’t believe that is possible, but that is exactly why you will be so happy about it.

Don’t do that “the grapes are sour, I don’t want them” (…said the fox when he couldn’t reach them).

You do want to be liked. Don’t start saying that is not it, and all you want is to trick yourself in front of the mirror. Because you won’t even really believe that yourself. But once you’ve done the implant thing, that’s what you will be forced to keep saying always. That is not being happy. That is putting on a show. And not for yourself, exactly for those people you claim not to care about. So it would not be true that your personality hadn’t changed. That would be a huge change.

But relax – like you say, you have a few years yet, before it is even an option. Maybe your view on the whole thing will have changed dramatically before then. That is nice thing about teen age… the reality can change from one day to the next ;o)

Answer by The Stylish One
Men honestly do not care. I went from a 32B to a 32D and the guy love the way they look.

Answer by Andy
in my wife’s case she’s a teacher, had her procedure done over the summer, and no one, not even her closest friends, have said a THING, she went from a saggy 34b to a small but perky 34d

Answer by ilikebraids
I have a (natural) C cup and i really dont like it. theyre too big. i wouldnt jump into something like that decision by yourself without anyone knowing.

i realize youre doing it to be happy and enjoy what you have but really- you need other peoples imput(like your moms or your grandmoms..you dont need the guys advice). if you mess this up you can mess up your life and feel worse about yourself. go to the women in your family and tell them about this.

it might be awkward but do it. be willing to hear their side of the story- why or why not you should do this. maybe they know something you dont even after years of research on it. so make sure you talk to some women in your family and get some imput..

thats not something you just go out on a limb and do yourself. get imput and listen to other people. im sure if you are open and calm about the situation people would want to help you!! noone in your family wants you to feel miserable about yourself!!!

and im sure noone will label you as fake… just remember to talk it over!!

HEY- also one more thing!! im turning 18 in a month.. i am a c cup. my boobs didnt really start growing until i was 16-18. so dont worry, you might need to wait a little bit but i assure you theyll grow and you might even be happy with the size!