My wife plans to file for divorce. Would sending her 12 dozen roses at work help me any?

rlc_60504: My wife plans to file for divorce. Would sending her 12 dozen roses at work help me any?
My wife is planning to file for divorce. I love her, but have neglected our relationship for the past 3 or 4 years. I didn’t get it, but now I do and I’m trying to save things and move forward. Would sending her 12 dozen roses to her work help any? I want her to know that I love her. She says she is angry at me for historical things and can’t get past it. Tried to go to counseling, but she quit after four sessions.

Answers and Views:

Answer by Mr Garrison
She’s probably given up on your sorry a$ $ . Leave her the hell alone and let her find someone who will pay attention to her.

Answer by Oliver Clothesoff
No, send a nice “F*CK YOU” card to her.

Answer by ANDRE L
The bad news is that if she doesn’t want to do anything to help rebuild the marriage, you cannot make it happen all on your own.

I’d send a dozen and include a card saying something like ‘I love you, and I am sorry for the past.’

Answer by alialoggi
Flowers are going to seem like an easy fix and a bandaid remedy. You need to try to talk to her and hope that she hasn’t given up on the chances of trying to reconciling.

Answer by Alison
Don’t bother with the roses, but try to find a different counselor and get her to try again. The only way you can work through past issues now that you’re on a different page is to talk, explain what you are going to do differently then follow through.

Answer by Wolfpack
I think once either party sh*tcans the counseling, you pretty much have your answer. Grant her the divorce and move on….just be the best parent you can be if there are children in the picture.

Answer by morati m
Be a man and pick your self up…..

Answer by Robert in Toronto
Don’t waste your money. Get a lawyer. She doesn’t want flowers, she want’s to take your money (all of it).

Answer by Martin
No you probably fucked up too many times already

Answer by thebigB
Okay first of all DO NOT SEND HER 12 dozen roses. It a waste of money and the thought is nice, but not enough to save a marriage. She would probably appreciate YOU asking her on a date. Telling her you are sorry and that you love her so much and that you cannot see another day without her. That you appreciate everything that she has done for you and that you will do whatever is necessary to keep this marriage.

Answer by thejellyprincess
It’s worth a try. Include a message with the roses, explaining how you’re feeling. It is probably too late to save your relationship though and she will probably still file for a divorce. Some roses can’t make up for 3 or 4 bad years.

Answer by Violeta A
for some women 12 it’is ok for others 120
it is worth to try.

Answer by openminded
You dont waite until someone leaves you to try and make it work. The flowers at this point would only annoy me so I say except that its over and move on.

Answer by Herring In A Coat
Flowers and a last-minute show of romance and affection aren’t going to help you any.

I would have a serious talk with her if you really want to repair the relationship. Lay it all out. Show her that you really care and tell her how you really feel – not that you can spend $ 50 and make a phone call. That doesn’t do anything.

And don’t expect miracles and for her to suddenly fall all over you. You have 4 years of neglect on your record. One anything isn’t going to override that or take that away. You have to build the trust and affection back up, and it will take time. But if you intend to stay married to her, you’ve got the rest of your life. Start now.

P.S. I do question why she stopped going to counseling though. Maybe she gave up on you a while ago and doesn’t even want to try anymore.

Answer by Sue C
Please save allll that money on the roses! I’m sure if it’s gone this far, the roses are NOT going to have any meaning at this point. I feel if ANYTHING is going to be of help, counseling would be the ONE THING that would do it. I’ve done my fair share of counseling in my lifetime. Yes, there were some far better than others. My last “ditch” would be to see if she’d be willing to try another counselor as quite obviously that one wasn’t of much help to the cause. IF she’s not willing to try it, sorry but you have NO control over what she’s made her mind up in doing. I trust she’ll be willing to give it one more try for both your sakes…the very best to you…:)

Answer by Good
It’s over!

Answer by Jammy
well, women get pretty fed up and give easier than men in some cases and it sounds like shes fed up, you can still win her over but u really so need to put in effort and show her every single day how much u love even if u dont get the same feeling and emotions back from her, even if she tells u she doesnt feel the same u need to be persistant and show her and prove it to her! She doesnt wanna hear it she wants to see it because for the 4 years she hasent been seeing it and has reached a point where she just doesnt want to have to deal with bull. Goodluck

Answer by Darlene Price
face it dude you blew it.