Is loving someone too much a form of abuse?

C: Is loving someone too much a form of abuse?
I don’t mean someone who engages in stalking behaviour.

What I mean is that by loving too much, could it be argued that it is treating the loved one as an object. Could it be argued that it is putting undue pressure on the loved one to make the other happy?

Answers and Views:

Answer by Jill B
That’s not loving someone too much. That’s neglecting their feelings and their standards.

Answer by PEGGY S
Absolutely.

When you put them on a pedestal, it is just a matter of time before they fall off. It is a serious pressure to live up to other people’s expectations of you.

I have a motto, “What you see is what you get”. That way if anyone is disappointed, it is their own fault.

Answer by gurushabad1
To much is everything is bad…Keep a healthy balance in your life whatever you do.
Good luck.

Answer by Najir
No. I’ve been through it.

Because the fact is no-one hates for being loved no matter how ugly or annoying the lover is.

Answer by jello
neglect is a form of abuse
objectifying a person is cruel too

treating someone as an object isnt loving behavior at all and causing another person to be clingy or insecure isnt loving behavior either.

there is definitely something wrong in the relationship with one or the other or both

Answer by Allanis
Everything too much is bad. Everything.

Now, I agree with some of my fellow ‘answerers’… Love is about freedom. If you are trying to manipulate your loved one, treat him/her as an object, live their lives or dictate how they do it… You are mistaken: that is not love.

And, if I might add, if this ‘too much love’ is your current behaviour, be ready for it to cause your loved one to complain and eventually ditch your controlling ass.

Oh! Wait! This is happening already, isn’t it? That’s what triggered the question in the first place!!! Got it!…

Ok, on the “no one asked but I’m gonna say it anyway” section:

The problem is you, not the so called ‘too much love’ you have. Go fix your insecurities and set your loved one free. Maybe it’s not too late and you two can have a healthy relationship.

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