Is it safe to say that “falling in love” can ultimately destroy you?

Love is a fire: Is it safe to say that “falling in love” can ultimately destroy you?
Taking time to build a relationship with someone, making yourself vulnerable and opening up to them, spending time and energy on someone, and growing with them–emotionally, physically, and mentally is alot of work. When you find that love is what kept you going in life and gave you happiness and inspiration only to find that one day it was over and gone because your “special someone” felt like you deserved better. Why are you left feeling void, bitter and angry, in constant anguish, and abandoned? It is hard to put into words…so I just call it craziness. but in the end LOVE can be SELF-DESTRUCTIVE right??

Answers and Views:

Answer by Susanna (in rehab)
not really.
love is supposed to be a good thing.

Answer by MartialArtsGuy
If you want love, you have to take a risk. If you never felt pain, you would never appreciate love when you find it.

Answer by Tom
Love is really a deadly sickness

Answer by Яacђзℓ
If, and only if, he ever leaves you or cheats on you.

Otherwise love is beautiful.

But it does take alot of opening up, vulnerability, and hard work just for some guy to tear you down and leave you with a wall around you,

Answer by Pink Panther
Your absolutely right!
thats why
NEVER FALL IN LOVE

Answer by RS
Yes love can feel like that sometimes. Whenever I fight with my bf, i feel like m so much in pain, i can die of it. we have been together since 3 yrs now (touchwood). but wen the fight is over n he mollycoddles me again, it feels GREAT! So who you love and who loves you back is the key. but yes love is as self-destructive as it is inspiring.

Answer by Hoplessinlove
My parents were each others first serious relationship and they’ve been married for 20 years. and they still love each other. it really depends on the stupidity of the persons involved

Answer by lunatic
Love is not destructive.

Deluding yourself into thinking you are in love when no love actually exists is what can be destructive, but only if you can not accept the mistake was yours. If you use the experience as a learning opportunity, then while it is still painful, it will make you stronger and better able to recognize real love when it comes your way.

Answer by Moon_Prince007
If you keep looking and thinking of the negative aspects, yes.
But falling in love doesn’t mean i will ultimately destroy you. What will destroy you is letting the negativity go on constantly in your head.
Which brings up another question, since that is your thought or opinion…do you think a person wants to go on life alone, without the arms of another to support them and cherish them, even if it isn’t for very long?
The void, being bitter and the angry parts are apart of being apart of a relationship’s untimely end. It’s life for you.

Answer by bluekay
You can use these failed loves to learn about yourself. Learn what you want out of someone and learn things you don’t like or things you like. The heartbreaks suck, but in the end you’ll hopefully have grown or learned something out of it all.

Answer by Shy
Yes love can hurt a lot. But it’s better to love at one time then to never be loved.

Answer by Nicole
You take a huge risk on that person and when it ends you just feel like you as a person failed. so sometimes yes…

Answer by buffalobilljohnston
you may need a rebound relationship to tide you over after a breakup, but strive for a healing period of a year and start off fresh. loves are the building blocks of life.

Answer by <3 07182009 <3
I’m sorry about your recent break up. I know that it seems as though it isn’t worth all the effort right now but when you finally do find that just right person, you’ll know that it was worth all the risk and realize that when it’s right, you don’t have to risk as much as you thought. Love can be many things; It can cause self destructive behavior but then it is not truly love but a lack or or a false sense of love. True love is forgiving, unending, flexible…well…someone else has already said it better than me…

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserves.”
— 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

You’ll find that real love and by then, you’ll know that you had to grow through this time of pain and transition to truly appreciate what you have.

Answer by Gabrielle Spencer
some times it can and other times it won’t be destructive. I believe that it could become destructive even if “he is the one”. In your life this happens, don’t give up you will find him! 🙂

Answer by Amore
things you said aren’t of (falling in love) ..they are of love , or being in love.
this if you really meant (build a relationship with someone, making yourself vulnerable and opening up to them, spending time and energy on someone, and growing with them–emotionally, physically, and mentally).
when you do like this , love must be great and safe .
when (falling in love) , yes;LOVE can be SELF-DESTRUCTIVE.

Answer by Amethyst
I believe love should be part ideal part realism, and I like to think that love is what you make it. If you simply live in your own little world and don’t pay attention to the other person, then it might end and you’ll be wondering why.
You should appreciate what you had and move on. Yes, it sounds harsh but all things end and so does love. Guard your memories and try to do things differently next time.
If you lock yourself inside, stop eating and only cry all day long, then it is you doing the destruction and not love. Accept what happened and get on with your life, get a new hobby, go on a short vacation and get a new outlook on life.
There are people that don’t know the meaning of the word love, you should be luckly you knew even a small part of it.

Answer by ibrahim
No ,because love is something undefined .
It is a mystery ,but it is really a good thing .
In some cases .

Answer by Smurfy
No you it’s not self destructive but I grant you it does feel like it.
But it’s the feeling before it goes “wrong bad away whatever you want to call it) It is supreme bliss like nothing can hurt you or go wrong.You simply ache to see or hear from them. Their wellbeing is paramount to you. You make silly plans in your head, have daydreams where you and they are always together and nothing or nobody will change that.
It is quite simply the most wonderful feeling ever.
You feel it even if unreciprocated. Your feelings mean nothing to them.
It is still the best feeling. But here is the crunch along with that you have the knife twisting pain knowing they will never be able to feel the same for you. You see how they look at others and there goes that knife again.
All that said you are in love and you only want their happiness so you smile your smile and stand aside.
It’s a small price to pay for actually feeling love again
believe me