Im depressed. I know that “one day ill be a beautiful girl with normal breast”but im ready now, Help

hi: Im depressed. I know that “one day ill be a beautiful girl with normal breast”but im ready now, Help
Please answer quickly! im tired of being a guys friend and not his girlfirend! Im ready for my full grown breasts or at least a little pump there. Im probably a 34a or 30b(not sure cant get acurate measurments from my measuring tape) and most of my frineds are bigger than me and keep on saying “oh those are breasts i thought they were bug bites” and get dates. Im so afraid of asking my mom to go bra shopping(im the smallest of the family and the yougest(14). I know i can be beautiful but if my friends and family could see me as a woman and not a girl that would help.

Answers and Views:

Answer by Margaret J
ur 14…..ur boobs are still growing….u can go to walmart and get boob inserts to put in ur bra to add a cup….i suggest doing that after summer break tho lol….but anyways ur 14….i got boobs in the 3rd grade and thought i was done growing when i was 18 (38c) well im 19 now and im now a 38d….ur not done growing by any means. boobs arent everything anyways. also my cousin was flat till she was 18 and BAM shes a d now!!!

Answer by Rach
well, im 14 too and i can see why that’s hard. but i also know that a LOT of girls only have a or b cups. it’s no big deal. if you want your boobs to look bigger it rly depends on the shirts you wear. in some shirts boobs look bigger than in other. oh, and as for shopping for bras- ALL WOMEN SHOP FOR BRAS so you’re mom will understand when you ask her to take you. or, you can go with you’re friends (not one’s that will be jerks tho). hope that helps :]

Answer by Jewelry Queen
the next time you go to Target or Wal-Mart or any where that sells bras ask…say mom i need some bras can i get a few… that is what i did

if you dont do that then just ask causualy dont make it a big deal

good luck
hoped that helped
xoxoxoxo

Answer by DonJuan
Some guys dont really care about breast size to be honest..I for one dont and I’m 16 soo I’m not like an old goat.. You have to work with what you got. Get push up bras if it helps, wear clothing that bring out your best features. Always be outgoing.. I can tell you one thing a part of sex appeal is the attitude the girl has.

Don’t worry so much..worrying isnt attractive, not giving a shit is =).. Enjoy life, have fun

Answer by Waterlily
Don’t worry sweetie, You are only 14 and You still growing!
Don’t worry so much about what everyone else says. I’m sure you are beautiful in many other ways. Don’t let something like the size of your breasts bring you down!

Answer by eMi HuBes
don’t worry about it. A guy that truly likes you won’t care about your breast size, as long as you have them. 34a isn’t as small as you think. Most girls these days have abnormally large breasts these days, but it’s mostly because of hormones they get from food, or being overweight.

Answer by ♥ღ Blue Rose ♥ღ
I’m sure there are guys out there who don’t think big breasts are everything, you just have to wait. Plus, why should you be embarrassed to go bra shopping with your mom?

Answer by Bacie S
you’ll grow. its totally fine. Depression is not fun. Sometimes being bigger is not totally fun either. think of it this way, the smaller the bra the cheaper the price! don’t worry and don’t stuff!

Answer by David D
What was your question?

You’re going to grow up… Have some patience.

You really aren’t going to have *serious* relationships until you’re in your twenties anyway. I was dating at your age too but when you are in your twenties you’ll understand how much different things are.

When you don’t work full time, haven’t finished schooling, aren’t pursuing your life-long goals, aren’t living on your own, and so on, your relationships just don’t end up developing as much as they will when you’re older.

It may seem like forever but you will grow… Try to enjoy life and be grateful that you’re not in Africa, Iraq, North Korea, or some other horrible place in this world!

Answer by Johnny B
Beauty comes from within you and its not what people see physically that really matters. Its how you treat other people.
You can shop on your own or go with some friends your own age. There’s no rush so take on some other interests for the moment instead of trying to compete with your friends.
You can’t rush growing up.

Answer by kMaz
Hunny…I’m 21 and still wear a 32 a…….and since I can remember I have been fighting this battle. But at some point…I had to just kinda wake myself up and say, ya know what? Nothing can change this, so might as well deal with it. When people would say those rude comments to me, I would say rude ones right back, and once they say that it wasn’t buggin me when they said those things, they stopped. In fact, I’d joke about it sometimes myself and guys started loving how I could laugh at my own imperfections. But…I still did get a small bit of help. Water bras have been my best friend since I started wearing them. And I know people are gonna say that they will pop and blah blah blah, guess what….I’ve been wearing them for 6 or 7 years and have never had one problem, no leak or nothin! AND! the dreaded bathing suite season……I found this lil water bra inserts at walmart, that could be used everyday, or in a bathing suit!!!!! MY LIFE WAS SAVED! you just have to make sure your top have that lil space on it, ya know how if ya look at the top of the triangle on the inside it’s not sewn all the way? Just fold them up, insert and arrange them…..it’s not a lot but to me…I felt like a woman. Now I have a husband who loves me how I am and I’ve been wearing these things less and less. Best of luck sweetie, and please email me if you need anything. I know every trick in the book to make any top work with this type of curse.

Answer by Yuki
Girl, most of the time that doesn’t matter in the least. Trust me, I’ve been around guys long enough to understand how the think. Some are going to care, sure, but for the most part, the girls I hear a “She’s hot!” about don’t have especially big breasts. I have a very loving boyfriend who doesn’t care that I have small breasts (I’m Asian and fulfill the “flat-chested prophecy”. It’ s where Buddha stole our breasts.) and I personally think that a boy who dates your breasts isn’t worth it. He’s not dating you, after all.

Anyway, next time you go to buy clothes, mention that you need a bra. I’m sure your mom will go “My baby’s growing up!” and get you one.

Just to make you feel better: Having smaller breasts isn’t a bad thing. They don’t jiggle around as much as big ones (meaning you don’t have to find extra-support sports bras) and they don’t attract as much attention (think jogging and rude boys). They also won’t sag when you get older/have children. And from what I’ve heard, it’s easier to buy clothes (since, you know, they take up space in your top…).

Answer by darkangel_10804
I can relate. I am 19 now but my breasts stopped growing at the age of about 17. I am 5’5, 117 lbs., and I am size 36B. I am very popular with the guys because of my looks. They focus on me, not my breast size. When you go out, doll yourself up and show the guys what they’re missing. Trust me, they won’t even notice your cup size. But for future pointers, I started birth control at 17 due to severe cramps. My breasts grew one size. lol But you’re young and still have about 4 years of growing to do. So don’t stress it so much. Maybe if you gain some weight that’d help. Skinny females have a harder time growing in the chest area.

Answer by kfccarolinagirl91
aw hon, i know it’s hard being flat, i was too at 14. i still have reaaally small breasts and it’s annoying. yeah, it takes a while for them to fully develope. it seems that no matter how hard you want them to grow faster, the little buggers will take their sweet time. the best thing to do is just accept the fact that your chest isn’t your best feature at this time. you know what would help your friends and family see you as a woman? if you did; they will see that and start to as well. one thing not to do is to make comments about your small chest, that just draws attention to it and makes you look self-consious. and if people make comments about it, just give them a bored look and ignore them.

however, a padded bra might help. find a time when you can talk to your mom and explain to her that you would like to go get a bra some time, i’m sure she will be understanding and want to help. the hardest part is just getting up the nerve to ask, but you will feel much better when you do.

about the guys. yeah, i don’t have a lot of great advice about them. the only thing i can tell you is that if you stop looking for someone and just enjoy yourself, you will be much happier. wishing never made anything happen. have fun and be thankful for what you’ve got! and don’t worry, a guy will come around, but they’re not worth worrying about.

good luck 🙂

Answer by childofhistory1
Well, I know it’s hard to be 14 and be teased by your friends. But just so you know, guys like girls with all sizes of breasts. There are a LOT more than you think that like small breasts. Having said that though, try not to focus on your breast size and instead just focus on being the very best you, that you can be. In other words, enhance the assets that you DO have and focus on those instead of what you don’t have. I think that confidence and a great personality attracts guys just as much as breast size. There is a LOT more to being a woman than having breasts. And honestly-do you REALLY want to go out with a guy whose only interest is your cup size? Those guys arent worth your time anyway.