How to I get my wife to be more adveturous in the bedroom?

: How to I get my wife to be more adveturous in the bedroom?
I am a very sexaul person, much more so than my wife. To be honest I am completely bored with our sex life. It’s the same thing every time.
How do I get her to become more open minded about trying new things like porn, toys, new positions, etc…?
I have tried talking with her and nothing ever changes. I love her dearly, but I am thinking of straying to satisfy my sexual desires.
So Janet, I just said I was thinking of straying. I didn’t say that I will do it, I don’t even think I could do it. But, why should I have to deny myself what I want because she has no interest. It would be different if our sex life was like this before I got married, but unfortunately that’s not how it is. Like I said I am a very sexual person…my wife changed somehow and I am no longer happy. I know it’s not a rason to divorce. But shouldn’t she compromise at least??

Answers and Views:

Answer by Pearl
Join the club, my husband is the same.

ADD We’ve talked about it loads of times, he makes an effort for a while, then its back to the same old same old, you get tired of being the one making all the effort all the time.

Answer by Zoe
Instead of complaining about it, just do it. Bring a porn video and some toys home and go nuts! I would love it if my bf did that.

Answer by mm
they have viagra for women ask her if she will try it

Answer by sludgeman
You said the magic word, wife. Once they get married any such word as imagination, creativity goes out the window. But I bet she could get creative if you were buying her a new car, house etc.

Answer by lluucckkyy
talk to her and tell her that you not happy about your sex life,and ask her what she needs you to do in the bedroom,and explore with each other.you belong togethr,why get shy.foreplay can also help.you must know her turning point

Answer by EverTight
Does she climax? If not, then sex isn’t much fun for her anyway. Unfortunately, if you are trying everything you can to get her there, then I don’t have much advice for you…and if she does orgasm, then I can’t imagine why you wouldn’t want to do that all the time in every way possible!
I have the opposite problem. I want sex twice as much as my man does, and I am the one who usually initiates, and the one who wants to try new things. He sometimes makes me feel bad as if there’s something weird or wrong with me when I tell him to pull my hair or talk dirty.
I just don’t get why anyone wouldn’t want something so pleasurable all the time, and try different ways…good luck to you.

Answer by rpetch007
easy to fix mate ….. just do it…… but ..be nice about it … try helping her out ….. of her .. geer .. ..then its up to you..good luck…

Answer by K H
lol least you get her in the bedroom, think yourself lucky, no seriously if she cared she’d listen and i’d give anything for my husband to suggest things to me, some ppl just don’t care

Answer by Nice Guy Wants to Rule the World!
Stop complaining…at least u have sex with your wife.

Answer by morgan
Take her with you to adult store that sales toys.

Answer by Sweets
Well you could start it off by asking her what kind of fantasies she has had. That might get her to open up about her feelings and give you some more ideas. Bribery always works too. I started giving more oral when my hubby gave me a platinum credit card, one stipulation was to tell me everyday how sexy and beautiful I am. Other then that hold a gun to her head…..

Answer by Michael Walker
Maybe you also need to make sure that sex is satisfying for her also.

It is also possible that she has diminished sexual syndrome. A doctor may be able to help there.

Answer by Janet W
You don’t deserve to be married. When you have a problem in your marriage you don’t seek outside adultery…..wow, your getting ready to betray your marriage and lose your wife over this? I think you need help. You shouldn’t expect your wife to watch porn but using other things is something you can start. Buy the toys and take them to the bedroom and start using them, don’t ask just do it. If she doesn’t want you to use them on her then use them on yourself. Tell your wife your dishonest and want to cheat on her first so she knows who shes sleeping with. . . she probably won’t want any kind of anything with you again….but she deserves to know.

Answer by Alyssa
maybe she’s just shy or nervous. make her FEEL like a woman.

Answer by princess
I agree unless u know how to get her off it is boring like why bother. First of all think very hard before u cheat. Diseases, the girl falls 4 u, u get caught, the pain it causes its not worth it. U need to have a honest pow wow with her

Answer by Guess whos back
Here is your answer. If you want to see your wife change then it’s time to get serious. A lot of women simply aren’t comfortable with experimenting with or initializing sex. Take any and all of the responsibility off of her and shoulder it yourself. Read up and learn about D/s relationships. Start calling the shots. Stop asking her to do things and you start doing. Start by giving her the F-ing that she wants and deserves. Pull her hair a little, smack her azz, show her who is in charge. Just make sure to love and comfort her afterward. Make sure she feels safe and secure while doing this.

Take her in the kitchen, the family room, the entrance way, etc. You want new positions, quit asking for it and do it.

Good luck, and God bless.

Answer by Makemesmile
Give her my number hehe i know i can help her w this lil problem of hers

Answer by Daniel
There really isn’t much you can do. Most women only get into sex when the relationship is new. They like the thrill of being with someone new. Cheating isn’t the answer though! My wife is kinda the same way. When we first got together the sex was amazing. Now it’s still good but doesn’t happen very offten. As bad as I want the kind of sex we use to have, I could never cheat on my wife. She has stuck with me for 3 years even though i’m a dick and not always easy to be around. She could have been with guys that are far more succesful and better looking then I am, But she chose to spend the rest of her life with me. She chose to start a family with me. So if I have to give up amazing sex to be with her, it’s a small price to pay in eyes.

Answer by katgrl
I disagree that all women lose interest in sex once they are married. My husband and I had sex all the time before we got married. Now that we are married and live together, I am the one feeling deprived of sex more so than him. At any rate, for most women, sex is not just the act. She’s probably bored or not satisfied, so she has no interest. Foreplay doesn’t just have to start in the 30 minutes before intercourse. Foreplay can begin at the start of the day. Let her know you desire her, you think she’s sexy. Send her a text message that you can’t wait to pleasure her. Don’t always just tell her she’s beautiful, but also don’t always just tell her she’s sexy. We like to hear both. And I agree with another poster, just change things up how you’d like them (in a respective way) and she’ll likely follow. She may be wanting the same thing, but is also afraid to initiate. However, I DON’T think you should expect her to like or watch porn. Introduce other things first…there is nothing wrong with toys, different positions, or different places in the house or outside even! Good luck! Have fun!