How to get my dad to lighten up about the mall?

Volleyball chik!: How to get my dad to lighten up about the mall?
Im 14 and all my friends get to go to the mall whenever they please with no hassle. Well my dad lets me go to the mall sometimes but every time I ask its this big hassle. He has to know EVERYTHING!! You see he is a cop so he is all paranoid about the mall but don’t like having to go through all this waiting for him to decide and having to tell him every detail. So how do i get him to lighten up about it?

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Answer by Sam Carner
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Answer by skye
He will lighten up eventually don’t worry about it. He is just a concerned father but before you know it you will be driving and then can go to the mall whenever you want.

Answer by James
You won’t. As a father of 2 girls who are now young women, I was protective too. It sounds like he loves you and wants you safe. You are only 14 and that’s stressful for a father…trust me.

Answer by Poppy
Your dad is right, nothing good comes out of kids hanging at the mall. Some malls even have restrictions on kids hanging at the mall. Get your friends to do something constructive instead.

Answer by MistyM
You’re 14 and he’s just trying to be a good dad. Ever consider the fact all your friends who get to go all the time are not fortunate enough to have awesome dads who worry? I will tell you from experience, I’m 22 and I have never in my life sat around remembering my teens and thinking man, I wish my parents would’ve let me go hang out at the mall that one day, I really missed out. But I do think about the times my mom would let me do whatever I want with her not knowing hardly anything about where I was or what I was doing and wishing she wouldn’t have let me go because some bad things happened to me that I’m still not over. You have your whole life to go to the mall or where ever you’d like to go, let your dad be a dad for now. For your own sake.

Answer by Tiny Jr.
Be happy you even go to the mall. I use to let my girls go the the mall every so often and a sick person kidnapped a young girl and killed her. Her friends so him take her and were helpless to help her so I don’t blame him…

Answer by kelsey
Good luck with that! If he’s a cop, he’s going to be paranoid and very protective of you because he knows what goes on when kids are without supervision. Trust me! I’ve been around police officers all my life and it will take some time before he will let you go without hassle. My mom was a cop and was very protective of me and of my decisions. She just wanted me to be safe. Now I’m dating a police officer and it’s the same type of deal. There’s a lot of terrible people out there in the world and your dad wants to protect as much as he can. Try to understand where he’s coming from and be patient. Maybe he’ll lighten up eventually when you get older and when he knows that you can take care of yourself.

Answer by sashtou
Given that ”He knows a Great Deal More than you Do”, why should he ‘lighten up’.

Why not turn it around, ”Why don’t you not take on some of the gravity of what it means to be a Parent & a Cop”?

Why should you get a ‘light ride’ on this, on life? Just because you friends do things doesn’t mean that it is Okay, safe, secure and that their parents give a damn about them and their safety, does it.

Your Dad is being a ‘Dad’.

Just think, one day you will likely be the Mum to a kid or two, and then you’ll be told to ‘lighten up’ by your own kids (and you’ll remember this) who ‘think’ that they know more than you.

What goes around comes around, kid.

Sash.

Answer by ₰ße∫∫e◊ßby▫
Youre still young, and predators are still out there. He is a good dad. If he just let you roam around a mall where pedophiles may lurk then he is doing you injustice.