How does a Wife get her husband to choose between her and his mistress after he moves out?

Starla: How does a Wife get her husband to choose between her and his mistress after he moves out?
My estranged husband has been having an affair for 2years. He decided he no longer wants to be with me nor does he want to file the divorce. He hasn’t had any intimate relations with me and doesn’t live in our marital home.

Why does he do this? Do some men enjoy having a wife waiting for them and a mistress too?

Answers and Views:

Answer by lemonloveless
he may not want to file for divorce but I dont understand what is stopping you from filing.

Answer by ideas
If he has a mistress, he’s chosen.

Better luck next time.

Answer by AhManDuh
Why dont YOU file for divorce? That can be done you know…?

Answer by Miko L
It’s over, and it’s time to move on. Not all men want a mistress, but men who don’t have a sex life at home do !

Answer by Alyssa
i would file for divorce and sue the hell out of him for everything he has.
but that’s just because i’m a spiteful bitch.

Answer by raj201
sounds to me he made the choice when he moved out

Answer by High Harry
Who cares? Divorce the idiot and move on.

Answer by lindzsea
See a lawyer and what your options are. Dont ever be at ANYONES beck and call, you need a life of your own…he’s old news!

Answer by “HOT SHOT”
why are you waiting for him ?

Answer by Q & A King
So he’s out banging this other chick, but married to you and you are waiting for him?

Yeah, sounds perfect

Answer by happy 1
i tink it’s time for you to file for divorce. let her have him.

Answer by Belinda
you can file as well

Answer by mrs_g2
Of course! By not divorcing, he doesn’t lose half of the marital property. It’s the money, honey, not indecision!

See a lawyer and get the divorce started…and don’t be fooled when he begs for “another chance”…that will be the money talking, too.

Answer by marypoppins
have some diginity. don’t beg. if he wants her, let him have her.

Answer by V
I think she sees a psychiatrist, because she is insane to think that is in anyway…okay. You can petition the court for divorce all by yourself. I do not think he could be any clearer to the fact that he doesn’t want anything to do with you, if you have never lived together or had sex, you can get the marriage annulled. You have already lost this one to the mistress, nothing to win.

Answer by MaiyaS
If you really want to get his attention, file for divorce and alimony!! Trust me sista Money talks!! Nothing will divert his attention away from another woman like the possibility of losing a large portion of his assets!!

Answer by Daisy in the Sky with Diamonds
Don’t stop you life waiting around for him to pick you. He just doesn’t want to pay alimony. You can and should press the issue. What he’s doing is not fair.

Answer by Ebm7-5
To answer your last question: some guys consider twice the nagging as twice the lovin’

Answer by ah-ight
“How does a Wife get her husband to choose between her and his mistress after he moves out?”

he left you sweetheart. i know that hurts, but it is what it is. he’s gone. done. el fin.

start accepting that fact, so you can continue life.

good luck.

Answer by sheloves_dablues
Honey – he already made his choice.. And the mistress won…

Of course he doesn’t want to file for divorce. If you divorce, he will not be able to have his cake and eat it, too. You will be entitled to half of all the marital assets, child support (if you have kids) and possibly spousal support (alimony).

DON’T WAIT for him. He’s betrayed your marriage. File for divorce, take him to the cleaners and move on with your life. You deserve better.

Answer by I’m pretty blunt
I think he just doesn’t want to deal with all the crap of a divorce and you getting stuff out of him.
I don’t think I’d want to be with this dude if it were me.

Answer by .
If you want a divorce and he wont sign the papers. All you have to do is put in the newspaper. If he doesn’t respond in 30 days. There’s your divorce.

Answer by sweetiegrl04
this is not a marriage it is a sad arrangement.

I am not quick to say divorce in many situations, but this is one where you would not be smart to try and hold onto this man.
File the papers, and get on with your life

Answer by Debi
I don’t think you should torment yourself with wondering what your husband’s motivations are. File for a divorce and get on with the process of healing. Rebuild your life the way you want it. He’s moved on, now you need to do the same.

Best of luck to you!

Answer by Darcy
Im sorry but if he has left you the he has already made his decision.

File for divorce yourself. Dont wait for him to do it.

Answer by Poppy
No yours is just lazy and doesn’t want to pay the cost.

Answer by wazzyrobin
He only does these things to you because you allow it …You go file for divorce and good ridence to bad rubbush.

Answer by raynestar3
Why would you want him back? Do you enjoy the misery he puts you through? Do you think you deserve to be treated this way? Divorce his butt and then move on with your life.

Answer by Mr. Puddy T
Simply in a word…. YES…!

Men immature men want their cake and want to eat it too.

Answer by ablex
Sounds like he’s made his choice.
What are you waiting for?

Answer by Ralph D
1 your lettinh him do this.2nd yes some men do.3rd go out an get laid.

Answer by jude
he will eventually file for divorce when the other woman gives him an ultimatum. he just doesn’t want to split the as setts with u. he does it because u allow it. when a man leaves for another woman he made his choice, and u can do cartwheels, u can beg and plead and it won’t make a difference. unless she dumps him there is no chance.