How do I stop my wife from doing something that I am not comfortable with?

rizwanholo1: How do I stop my wife from doing something that I am not comfortable with?
My wife want’s to travel to a country where things aren’t going so well economically, politically, and over all there is no security. She wants to attend her cousins wedding! I just came back from there and almost got shot at in the head after getting mugged! I don’t want her to go but she just doesn’t want to listen! I am asking her to go anywhere else but that doesn’t work.
Please Help!

Answers and Views:

Answer by DM
Sit her down and let her know that you are not trying to control her but instead fear for her actual life.
Remind her what happened to you and ASK her to please have a change of heart about this.

That’s all you can do. The rest is her decision in the end.

Is there a way her cousin could come to you guys?

Answer by Steph
Is it possible that you can go with her?

For some people, family ties are extremely strong and she may deem the risks as less important than the bond she has with her family.

Answer by ablex
Well, that’s where her cousin’s wedding is, so going anywhere else isn’t really an option.
She is aware of your concerns, I’m sure, so there’s nothing else for you to do but wish her bon voyage.

Answer by John M
See what the Embassy says as far as safety. If it’s TOO dangerous, she might be prohibited from going. Good luck! Blood is thicker than lead, so some have no fear. 🙁

Answer by Sausage Mahoney
She wants to get to her cousin’s wedding. She can’t just “go anywhere else”.

You’ve told her your concern about the dangers in her trip. She has heard you, but decided that despite the danger she wants to go to this wedding. That’s all you can do.

Tell her to be safe, don’t go walking down allies alone, etc. But she’s an adult, she has the right to make these sorts of decisions for herself.

Answer by Tina Westwood
You cant forbid her to go.
go with her

Answer by 10 gauge
Just let her watch the news. That should scare her out of going.

Answer by Livingthedream
is she wants to go, let her go, just ask her to leave the credit cards home, and be ready to pay for the ransom.

ur wife should think in terms of her husband and child, not her family in the third-world from where she was lucky to escape from.

If something happens to her, it will b you and your chidlren who will have to pay for the consequences, not the fu….ing newly married.

Answer by Ivanna Pusse
Easy, have an affair with the cousin, and tell her fiance so he calls off the wedding.

Answer by Dave Davis
Beg her not to go if that doesn’t work go with her or hide her passport a couple days before her flight.

Answer by pearl
well, she is not the only one going. Her cousin, cousin’s fiance, all the guests are going. Can all of them be fools and you the only wise guy ? Your fears are natural considering you got mugged there. But mugging happens in almost all countries.

In this particular case, your wife is right. Its her cousins wedding and she can go only where its taking place. So you can only convince her to be careful. ask her not to go out alone.travel in big groups and avoid being out late.

Other options :

Convince her cousin or cousins fiance to change the venue of wedding. After all, they wouldnt want their wedding to be ruined. If the country is not politically safe now, there is a big chance wedding plans can go for a toss due to riots or curfew or terror attacks whatever.

If your wife is not the type to take safety seriously, you can enlist the help of her family members who do and who will be travelling with her. Hopefully they will take safety measures.