How can I get my mom to punish my younger sister?

aaron_esq: How can I get my mom to punish my younger sister?
I am 23 years old and my younger sister who is 16 is being suspended from school and taking my mom’s things without asking. My mom is not taking away her priviliges (phone, computer, etc.) for a good amount of time. What can I do to get Mom to punish her?
If something has not been dealt, my younger sister might wind up being a high school dropout, being a prostitute or in a gang, etc.

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Answer by shearhona
If your mom don’t want to do it then you do it.If your mom ask you why you did it tell her that you love your little sister to much to let her go down the wrong road.

Answer by littleluvkitty
i understand how you feel i am 22 and have a younger brother who is 16 he is great but my sister who is 18 was treated like a princess even though she was getting into trouble at school when she was 16. They did not care like they did when i was in school. i would be grounded if my grades went down i had a nine oclock curfew and was not aloud on the phone past 6, however my sister and brother live by different rules. thankfully my brother is fine but my sister moved out married i guy my age when she was 16 and moved to NC . So yeah i think you should say some thing to mom about this. she needs to know that she could be causing sister more harm then good. Just be care full as to how you word what you say. Don’t try to critises her. Tell her what you think and how you are worried and ask that she remember that how she reacts in this sitiaution effects how you sister will live the rest of her life. Thank her for what she is doing as a mother and just let her know that you care about your sister and just want her to be raised right. Good luck.

Answer by macdoodle
good someone is concerned.
try talking to a school counselor for your sis.
or asking family to go to family counseling.
you can ask you r m om and explain why you think things are going down the tubes and detail your concerns
do it away form the house if you can.
but you cant control your mom.
is dad in the picture anywhere , if so talk to him too.
also sit your sis down and say you care and are concerned and why.

Answer by RiverRat
Set her up to be the fall guy… I think unless you are the parent that it just may not be any of your business… If you wish to help your sister you need to adopt a positive plan of attack and then
help… not attempt to undermine and negatively deal with the issues.

Answer by onbelay_belayon
I think it is fantastic that you are showing concern for your little sis. It would be great if more people did that.

Have an honest chat with your mom. Tell her that your sis is in danger of suspension, dropping out, etc.

Answer by timetopopnow
Unfortunately it’s a tough thing to tell your parent how to be a parent. Maybe you should tell your mom your observations is all and that maybe some stricter punishment is in order.

Answer by JD
I sympathize with you, I also am 20 and has 3 younger siblings who really need to be punished, but it never happens. I have tried doing everything I possibly can and to no avail, but like I think someone else said, I know for SURE that nagging won’t do it. Anyways, if you do find something that helps, I’d like to know too. Good luck

Answer by Mutchkin
You can’t force your mom to punish her.

All you can do is talk to your mom and talk to your sister.

Your sister is old enough to know right from wrong. It is her own fault the direction she goes on. She has to learn on her own sometimes by living the consequence. If that means she goes to jail, than mybe jail can scare her enough since suspend and lack of parenting won’t.

Answer by reds_777
I have been through the same problem. My mother did not like that I was telling her how to parent, but if you can find a very tactful way to tell her your concerns for your sisters well being, that might work. Tell her you want to talk to her privately about something important. If you have the means, maybe you can try to help your sister by being in her life more and try to set a good example by your actions. Treat her like an adult and help her make better decisions.

Answer by Linda D
It is the parent’s job to punish or not punish not a sibiling’s job. The only thing you can do is NOT do anything.

Answer by greylady
I’m sorry your mom isn’t doing her job well. She might be sick. Can you tell your dad about your fears? Also, you’re a great big brother to be so concerned about your little sister. Can you sit her down, first, tell her that you love her and are concerned about her well being then explain to her why the way she’s acting is going to get her in trouble and she needs to stop it.

I would be concerned for your mom and your sister.

Answer by Alexandria
jUST LET UR MOM DEAL WITH THE HEADACHES.GIVE A ADVICE TO UR YOUNGER SISTER.

Answer by conniechung
Don’t mean to sound rude, but you’re 23 move away, and don’t worry about it…If ‘MOM” wants to raise a brat, let her, but if I were you, I woudn’t stress myself out over it…The reason she was harder on you is because you are a “male” and society dictates how you raise your children, boy’s are tough, so BE firm! Girls are weak, so be soft??? Messed up huh? but really, since you are “just a kid” to your mom, she won’t listent to anything you say, so you might as well just stay out of it….sorry!sounds like your sis is gonna be a handful! THANK GOD I HAD A BOY!

Answer by Boo Boo kitty
Call a local jail and ask if u can scare her straight see if she can spend 1 night with the real criminals!