How can I get my boyfriend to “make love” rather then “have sex?”?

happy_mommy1245: How can I get my boyfriend to “make love” rather then “have sex?”?
I am such a loving, cuddly person that I would really like some of that type of attention to be given to me too. During sex, my partner is very, very satisfying but sometimes I wish he’d be just a little more loving. I dont know how to bring it up in a conversation because I think as soon as I start talking about it he’ll block me out because it’s mushy.

Answers and Views:

Answer by Nessa
Dominate…in a romantic sensual slow way.

Answer by Do you want the truth?
You should be able to talk to your man about anything so just tell him that you want him to be more loving in the bed

Answer by Joshua B
Cuddle with him after sex, if he tries to shy away.. then there’s nothing he can do, but if he doesn’t.. after a while, he should do it willingly.

Answer by CB
Just try slowing him during sex. Let him know you want to go for an extended period of time and he will want to slow down so he can last longer.

Answer by BallerinaGirlie
If he really cares he wont just block you out, he’ll listen to you… you should either talk to him or give him a card or note and hint at it…. but talking is my best advice. What type of relationship are you in if you cant talk about stuff like that?

Answer by sunshine23511
To make love you need to have good communication when comes to sex. Maybe you need to work on communication first, so you can have love making.

Answer by Eli
tell him that you want to be in control next time. and then make it tender. or just tell him in the middle that he needs to slow down and find the love. tell him its not all about lettin a load out, its about becoming as close as possible with your other.

Answer by xplayboibunnix20
start out by cuddling and make it seem like its not going to lead to sex hell be presently surprised when it starts to turn that way but just go slow and steady and make sure he doesnt get too aggressive. when things are getting hot and heavy you can get ontop of him and go slow and do things romantically and then once you get tired tell him to do the same to you and explain the pace and speed you want it and when hes giving it to you like that tell him how much you love making love to him ect… tell him all the things hes doing right… if he hears hes doin it right he will make a mental note for doin it again in the future.

Answer by Herb
Marry him.

Answer by Mrs Johnson
i honestly think loves comes in a relationship where love is present. my husband and i cant help but make love, because love flows through all we do. he really needs to pay attention to your needs, because it will be less desirable if you wont enjoy it the way you would like. but just tell him to put his heart in it. it sounds pretty self explanitiory, so just force him to listen

Answer by MARIO
do this ONCE: take the lead and do all the loving things you would like to be done to you, and SAY IT, yes, say it: “honey you don’t know how much i’d love you to do this, or do that”…etc We men are not as perceptive as girls are, so there’s nothing wrong in you pointing out what you would like or even exactly what you want. Don’t just hint him, tell the dude, otherwise you will keep having this trouble cause maybe he thinks being sporty in sex is all that makes you rock, and he probably doesn’t even realise you’re not completely satisfied.

Answer by love sucks……
just bring it up! or dont if you dont just be that little bit more ‘mushey’ during sex your a couple he shouldnt block you out when you try to talk to him..

Answer by Bigshow
Take charge, show him how you’d like to be made love to. Go slow, make sure he sees how much more you enjoy it. If he knows it will please you, he’ll do it both to satisfy you and to stroke his own ego for being a better lover for you.

Answer by Manfred
take it in the butt. that’s where the love is hidden.
innnn yourr butttttttt

Answer by i love chopin
try to let it be a while before you do: it’ll drive him nuts. it’ll make him wondering why you aren’t having sex with him and when you finally do: just kiss him softly. make sure you say while your kissing: “oh, gosh, i really want this…i really want that…” it’ll make him do it if it means sex, sex, sex…
then explain to him that you want to be in the lead and take it slow. make all the things you want him to do to you, do to him and he may love them so much that he wants to do it to you.
kissing his chest softly, too, will work. and while your hopefully making love, whisper sweet things to him. and tell him how much you love him. this wil do two things:; make him want you more and not just for sex and he will also want to you so badly, hes actually making precaution to love you more deeply.
i hope answered your question thoroughly enough!!! 😀