How can I embarrass my father after he insulted my breast size?

peaceflygirl: How can I embarrass my father after he insulted my breast size?
I’m nine months pregnant, but have managed to keep a slim figure because prior to being pregnant I ran 3 miles a day and ate healthy. Everyone in my family comment a lot about how skinny I look even though I am pregnant. They also know that I want to nurse my new baby. Yesterday I was visiting my father, and out of the blue he looked at my body (obviously my breasts) and said, “Are you sure you’ll be able to produce enough milk?”

This was very AWKWARD and totally inappropriate, and I let him know that. He also said it in front of my mom and HUSBAND. We are a young couple, and all my husband could do was laugh hysterically out of embarrassment and being totally shocked. I let him laugh instead of yell at him because I wanted my dad to feel the impact of what he said. Needless to say my mom was really mad at my father. My dad said he was sorry, but it still didn’t seem like he was really remorseful. Knowing that breast size doesn’t determine milk production, I told him before I left “don’t worry Dad, if I can’t produce enough milk I’ll get some breast implants.”

I want to embarrass him even more so and make him feel like a jackass. What should I do? I was thinking of posting this account on a popular online site, but I don’t know any. Any suggestions about online or offline stuff would be helpful, thanks!
Thanks everyone for your answers.

For starters I would like to say to all the people that didn’t fully read my question, I wrote that I knew that breast size doesn’t determine milk production, so I KNOW that breast implants will not INCREASE milk production as well!

Secondly, this is not something I can just LET GO. I’ve done this most of my life with my family and friends, and I will NOT continue to be the butt of peoples jokes and a pushover. If I just let this go with a small “that was mean” comment, things like this will continue, as they always have!

This is NOT a small joke a father says to his daughter. This is totally inappropriate, beyond the normal joking medium.

And to “TIME TO LIVE”, Ima Stabyu, MsHouston and others who feel the same way, I am not overreacting. It’s not everyday
that a father looks at his daughter’s breasts and questions her “womanhood.”

Answers and Views:

Answer by Ima Stabyu
Hahahhahahahahahahaha….

That’s freaking hilarious…!!!!

Answer by Picky
I can see why you are very embarrassed, however, why would you “dummy down” to him? I would just let him know, next time you are all together again, that you thought his comment about your breast size was very immature and perverse and that it won’t be tolerated again. End of story.

To the man below: Why is it men are always using the excuse of ignorance? *rolls eyes*

To OP: It isn’t acceptable for anyone to make comments about my breasts. Why would anyone think that is OK? It’s called lack of class.

Answer by SpaldingJag
Perhaps your dad didn’t realize that he was embarrassing you by asking such a question. Us men often don’t know the workings of the female body. He did apologize for it, right? So, forgive your old dad for being ignorant and let it go. If you go for revenge you’ll just make matters even worse than it is.

Answer by CEO
haha. just laugh it off. take the high road and let it go. your father was probably just joking around, yeah it might be a bit embrassing, but its the past. hes your father, and whats the point of embrassing him back? revenge is for the low landers. you guys are one family and just let it go. you should laugh it off too (:
afterall, it takes less muscle to smile. be happy. dont let these things bother you and just let them go. you will be a happier person and you will live your life according to your thoughts. dont let other people ruin your day or make you upset. He apologized, just let it go (:
good luck

Answer by Katas
Your milk will produce gradually when you first milk your baby. Trust me.

Never embarrass your father. You will make a big problem in the future. Just concentrate with your pregnancy and plan the future of your child

Answer by Time to live
I don’t know what kind of a man your dad is. But it could embarass him if you don’t try to cover up while feeding the baby! Even just pull them both out and make it really awkward for him.

Secondly it might have been an inappropriate comment, but make sure that you don’t go overboard because of some stupid comment. I have had 3 kids and my wife overreacted to alot of things when she was 9 months pregnant.
But like I said I don’t know your dad at all.

Answer by ịcąгυѕ
Water off a ducks back. He apologised and obviously got a real telling off from your mother seeing as she was real angry at him. I think he realised he hurt your feelings. Let it go.

Answer by John
I think punishing your own father on something like that seems a bit over the edge. I’m sure he didnt mean it to come out like it did, and just so you know, breast implants wouldnt give you more milk, it would add more material to your breasts to make them bigger. Your father is a man and alot of times a man can say stupid things like that, not knowing that it would insult you that much. Either way, getting “revenge” on your own father is pretty harsh and in order to avoid any future conflicts or bitterness between you, you should probably just let it go. You should concider if it would really be worth it. Thats just my take on it though, you can do whatever you feel like doing 🙂

Answer by rueben GO AUSTRALIA
haha well for starters ya cant breast feed if ya get implants ………….

good revenge ideas hmmm
next time he makes a crack at you or next time an oppertunity comes up make a crack asking wiether or not he can get it up with out viagra lol or if he finishes quicker then 2 minute noodles
or another idea bring one of ur friends around and start talking about how much of a great lover ur husband is and make some bullshit up about how fun sex is and wat possitons u tryed like reverse cow girl haha if i talked about sex possitions when my dad was in room and about how long i last he would be extremely embarrrased . or make a prank phone call to ur mum using one of ur friends and say … this is michael from asian lovers hotline and im just ringing to ask if mr … ( ur dads last name ) would like to renew his subscrition to asian lovers phone service ……

Answer by MsHouston
I say leave it alone. How is embarrassing your father going to make you feel any better? Your abuot to bring a child into the world , would you want him or her to want to get revenge on ppl just because they got a little embarrassed. You breasts are small – get over it!!

~Jus my Opinion~

Answer by gleakit
Your father has created anger within you.
Your anger will affect You more than your Father.
Fathers say some very dumb things ( their mouth starts to work before their brain is engaged.
I’m sure that he didn’t say it in a purposely, .hurtful way.
Unresolved Anger, Boils the Brain Chemistry, and does more harm to the angry person, than the target of their anger. Rise above everyone else in the world, be bigger and live on a higher plane than all others.
Learn to Forgive. not to forgive the offending individual, but to eliminate your connection to the event.
you don’t have to forgive face-to-face, only within Your mind. You are the one we are helping and concerned about.
To react as you have expressed, brings You down to the same level as your target, and We all know that . You will see more Silver Linings on the Storm Clouds.You are above such things, it is only the anger that is creating this kind of thought activity, within your brain chemistry.
Don’t fall victim to it, Rise above everyone else, for You and Your New Baby to come. search out ” The Forgiveness Pyramid, for a more eloquent description.

Answer by Roary
It was just an incredibly stupid thing to say, and he probably doesn’t understand how much it hurt and embarrassed you. I doubt that he knows much about nursing babies, and so was just curious but it was utterly inappropriate. Tell the story to family and friends, if he knows that everyone thinks he was stupid for saying it he might just feel some remorse.
Good luck to you, your husband and your little baby 🙂