Does my mother do this to me on purpose?

uglyvanity: Does my mother do this to me on purpose?
Welp, my sister is 3 years younger than me and she is probably a ‘c’ cup. I am 34 B, but I am also a petite lady. My mother had big chest and she always “Teases” me about them. She looks at me “you are soo small” like I’m sick or something. And to be honest, I really wish I had bigger but they do fit my size very well and they look ok. She always finds a time to say “my bigger sister was the flat-chested one too and I was the one that had breast” and laughs it off. One day I just finally said “well, who’s in shape now you or aunt?” Knowing what the asnwer was, she said her sister and she got very frustrated. My mother is fat, just so you’ll know. Was I wrong for saying that? I just could not take it anymore, her always talking about my chest, but then turning around and telling me “you have a nice figure” etc. I don’t understand. Does it sound like she is doing this to hurt me? I think it’s pretty childish if you ask me. She does it everytime.

Answers and Views:

Answer by whizitincognito
Sounds to me like she is teasing you.

Answer by Becky F
i do not think she realizes that she is acting like a 10 year old
and her cruel words are so hurtful

Answer by just_hanging_out
How do we know? Maybe her brand of kidding is not your style. Have you told her that she offends you by talking about your boobs? Maybe she doesn’t know, and will stop if you tell her.

Answer by itsme!
Yep sounds pretty childish to me. I’m guessing she might be jealous of you too….maybe you remind her of her sister….her thinner sister…
Moms suck sometimes…mine can be very critical too

Answer by darkling1k
shes jealous, and probably just half way tryin to hurt you half way not.. you got a hell of a figure they way you tellit that any woman is jealous for,, hence.. the reactions..
be proud your a goddess

Answer by Conrad
People who are overweight are often very insecure about it and try to make themselves feel better by putting others down. The comment you made to your mother may have been less than sensitive, but it did let her know that you don’t approve of what she is saying to you.

Next time she makes a similar comment, simply say, “Mom, it makes me feel bad when you say that.” If you’re always snapping back at her you’ll just make her madder. But if you’re very direct with her and tell her exactly how you feel, she’s more likely to catch on.

Answer by midnite
maybe she isn’t happy with her looks and you are an easy target take it from someone who has been in the same boat,my mom does the same thing but she does it to all 7 of us like she isn’t happy with something
me i have decide i would rather have a hand full and no back problems…

Answer by donna
I wish I could give them too you. Your mother is not really a true cup size that she is wearing currently. If she were a healthy weight she would loose a size or two. I personally was happier with a B cup by the way when I was a teenager. I am now a DD or E or whatever comes after a DD because I live in a small town I have to go to the next small town over to buy their biggest DD to try and fit into it. furthermore your mother will likely have serious back aches and indents in her shoulders. I wish I wish I wish I wasnt so big. It is annoying and I dont find it flattering whatsoever, clothes dont fit right and I cant get a suit that comes in two pieces because I am two completely different sizes top and bottom. They may be laughing now but and this is a strong but you are the one in better proportion and probably perky and not saggy. am I correct? let them laugh I envy you 100%

Answer by M.I.L.F.27
I don’t think that she is purposefully trying to hurt you. But she is being thoughtless while being under the impression that she is actually funny. Sometimes people say tasteless and hurtful things without meaning them in that context.
Since this really bothers you, I think that you should sit down when you are alone with her and have a serious talk letting her know that this really bothers you and hurts your feelings. It is better to do this now instead of letting your relationship with her become strained because of this.
If after you have a talk with her and she is able to realize this, then things will be better. If not, then you’ll just have to grin and bear it until you are old enough to move out.
She might actually be projecting her jealousy of her sister onto you and that is why she says the things she does.

Answer by FriendlyHelper
She is likely just teasing and does not mean to hurt you, but like all types of teasing, it can be done badly. In particular from a mother to daughter.

34B or 34C… you are just fine however God created you.

Answer by mah
In her mind she is “just teasing” but from your reaction I would guess that her behavior hurts your feelings very much. Maybe trying to tell her how much it hurts your feelings would be better than responding in an angry way. She can’t learn to stop the behavior, if she doesn’t know that it bothers you, and that it hurts.

Answer by Art The Wise
She deserved it. Maybe she will stop harassing you.