Do people actually “fall in love” or is that something that happens more in movies and books?

just another friendly stranger: Do people actually “fall in love” or is that something that happens more in movies and books?
I’m 20 and I really really want to fall in love with someone, but so far I haven’t felt anything near that for anyone. So, I’m waiting for that special someone and that special moment, but am I just wasting my time and that sort of thing rarely happens to normal people? Or if I do go for some guy I don’t feel like I’m “madly in love with” am I settling and making a mistake?

Answers and Views:

Answer by Into the Mystic
I fell into something……. I just have not figured it out yet. I am only 33 and been with her for 12 years.

Answer by monie
You are a young woman and should continue to stay focused on school and a career. When love comes, it won’t be something that you had to force. i believe that you should not have to do a whole lot to find a true love. if you find yourself putting too much in and getting nothing out, love is not there. Good Luck!!!

Answer by azmac229
It happens sometimes. I do agree with the term FALL. It is as if you have lost your mind.

Answer by Tim
YES, people do fall in love. Wait for it, it’s not fair to the other person if you don’t feel madly in love with them. The Love of Your Life is out there. You will know it when you find it (or it finds you).

When I met my wife, I was planning to marry someone else. Meeting her changed my mind, and my life forever. If I would have married the other woman, I would have been cheating her out of the opportunity to be truly loved.

Answer by Suganspice
does happen, don’t wait around for it, geton with your life, that person will come into your life when the times right. hope this helps. x x

Answer by Megan
DON”T SETTLE! true love is out there and you will find it yes people fall in love too many people assume love is a fantasy and marry the wrong person and never find love or happiness because of it. don’t give up hope, dream guy is out there looking for you. try reading this

Answer by zenobia2525
Don’t settle. Falling in love is very real and very amazing. You’ll know you’re in love when you just can’t get the other person out of your head. When you catch yourself walking around with a big grin on your face. When you’re practically counting the minutes until you can speak to each other again. And you’ll know it’s more than just a passing infatuation when the other person’s well being matters more to you than seems possible (for example: I have a mountain highway commute to and from work and one day hit black ice and spun round 3 or 4 times. After calming down, I felt so awful for the pain I would have caused my husband if something had happened to me because of going a bit too fast on bad roads.)
Keep in mind that at 20 you’re still learning about who you are. Dating and having relationships helps you to learn who is the right person for you. And most often it isn’t love at first sight. It’s more “like” or even “like a lot!” at first. It usually takes getting to know each other for love to grow.
My husband and I have been together for 7 years now, married for 2. It’s second marriages for both of us and because of life, kids, the economy, etc., it definitely hasn’t all been smooth sailing. And yet I am more in love with him today than ever. It seems the longer we are together, the more layers get peeled away and the deeper the trust and appreciation in each other grows. At the same time, the deeper the trust, the more you feel free to be your self.