How can you discipline a teenager who refuses to go to school?

: How would you discipline a teenager who refuses to go to school?
My sister is 14, and is suppose to be getting ready for summer school right now (based on my time area). But she said she’s not going, and rather repeat the 8th grade. My parents aren’t allowing her to go outside. I don’t understand why they’re not forcing her to go. So she’s basically doing nothing right now. If she was my child, she will be going, rather if it involves a belt! How would you discipline a teenager who refuses to go to school? Are my parents doing the right thing?

Answers and Views:

Answer by Jasmin B
ruin her summer till she has to go LOL
like take away EVERYTHING entertaining, dont let he go out, dont let her have fun 🙂
BAHAHA cruel 😀

EDIT: i like their answer a lot better than mine ahaha
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Answer by Perki88
There are many reasons a child might refuse to go to school. Agoraphobia is one, but there are many other psychological reasons and perhaps your parents are aware of something you are not. I find it more disturbing that you think it is right to resort to physical assault. Your sister’s refusal to go to school might indicate that she lacks the maturity to move on to high school and being held back a year might make the rest of her education more comfortable. Are you able to sit down and discuss this with your parents?

Answer by Snowbarbie
If my daughter needed to go to summer school, but would rather repeat grade 8, I would find work for her to do so that she would rather be in summer school!

When I was working full-time and my kids were 15 and 11 years old, I hardly had any housework to do – they had a list of jobs each day. They could sleep in if they liked, but I wanted dishes done, laundry washed, dried and folded, meals prepared and cooked, grass cut, windows washed and the basement cleared out.

My kids would have been happy to go to summer school – but on the other hand, I do have two hard-working, responsible, employed adult kids, so getting them to work when they were teens really paid off!

Your parents should do the same – if your sister is not going to go to summer school, she should be kept fully busy throughout the summer months, for at least 4 – 5 hours each day, which is about the same as summer school would be.

Answer by Ashlee M
I agree there could be an emotional reason that nobody knows about. But if she’s refusing to go to school, I think your parents can call the police department. There should be a truancy officer to enforce her attending school. Here I know the options are school or juvenile detention. Maybe the fear of being arrested would get her motivated.

But I’d suggest your parents check into getting her some therapy because her attitude doesn’t seem to be the best. And I’d also give her chores with consequences and punishment if she didn’t complete them.

Answer by miss_ruby_topaz
It depends whether you want a teenager who feels accepted by their parents or one who eventually turns against them and rebels. At 14, you are asserting your independece and decision making skills. It is important not to stifle these natural progressions. If we never let our children makes mistakes they dont learn. I’m not suggesting letting her do whatever she wants, but there should be reasoning, discussion and compromise. Certainly not force.

Answer by jzmsmom
I wouldn’t beat a kid with a belt just because she wouldn’t go to summer school (or ever for that matter, that’s just wacko!). BUT I would make her summer sheer hell, talking away ALL electronics (phone, computer, TV, gameboy….EVERYTHING). I would make her do workbooks and read I would make her repeat 8th grade, maybe she really does need to stay back, it’s not the end of the world that some parents would have you think.

Answer by Skygazer
Make her clean. She can wash walls. Then she can take every dish out of the cupboard, rewash them and put them away. I’m sure they can think of chores that are equally miserable. Start doing this now so she will be encouraged to go.

Answer by VoiceofCommonSense™
Grab her and throw her in the car. If she was disciplined in the first place, she wouldn’t have to repeat 8th grade.
Parents who are easy on children, have children who are hard on parents.

Answer by william
They should spank her little heine