Co-worker attractions?

shutterbug883: Co-worker attractions?
I work closely with a guy I have been attracted to since I first met him. He is kind of a walking soap opera, he has had a work place relationship that ended his marriage, and he may or may not be seeing that person still. We have known each other for five years, but we have only been co-workers for the last few months. I don’t think he really knows I have feelings for him and I’m thinking that is best. I have spent so much time getting to where I am in my career, and now that I’m looking at turning 25 and I want a relationship but I don’t have a lot of experience in that area. He’s five years my senior, my friends think I should go with someone my own age. I need help!

 
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Answer by favrd1
Never Ever Ever mix a relationship with work! It will be detrimental to your career and you will end up losing any relationship you have most likely. I’ve done it myself (when I was much younger I’m a bit older than 23) and I’ve watched others do it….It ALWAYS ends up the same way.

To be honest, you’re probably just infatuated. I know that sounds cold but it’s probably the truth.

Try to find a relationship in a different place….. It’s tough, but hang in there! Good Luck to you!

Answer by alamoblue2003
first of all guys are mostly 8 years less mature than women
so age aint a problem
but he cheated
so he may cheat on you
does he demonstrate the desire to get commited and be responsible
un less you just want a fling?

Answer by princess
co worker relationship is not a good idea. it usually is never something serious, why would you want to get involved with a walking soap opera. Unless you want a drama full life. He sounds very complicated, and should be left alone. remember you are not sure if he is in a relationship with the woman(the co worker)still. so be care full! You sound like a very decent woman, who have not been exposed to those charactors out there, keep it that way, until Mr. Right comes along, and you would know, when that happen, because he won’t have all the baggage that this guy have.
Your friends told you, that you should be with someone your own age, its more like you should be with someone with less complications.
I’m 40yrs old, attractive, educated and single and i’m still waiting for Mr Right. I am not settling for anything less than i deserve,just to satisfy my desire to be in a relationship.