Children????

Christina F: Children????
If you have kids?
Did you plan on it?
If so, how have they changed your life for the better (or worse).

If you don’t have children yet, but want them in the future:
What are your reasons?

If you don’t ever want to have children:
Why?

Personally, I don’t want to have any. My reasons:

1. I can’t find a man worthy of being my “baby daddy”.
2. I’m 26 and still living at home and struggling to pay off college debt…. I CAN’T AFFORD ONE!!!
3. I’m wanting to go to grad school and further my career.
4. There are too many people in this world already.
5.. Since there are so many people in this world and unwanted kids, I’d serve the world better by helping them through mentoring programs and such.
6. ALL my friends already have kids and I am a Godmother 2 times over.
7. I love babies and older kids, but I cannot stand toddlers and teenagers, so I’d hate my kid for half of their childhood.

Answers and Views:

Answer by Lacey
Well…
atleast u thought out ur reasons well enough.

I dont have ne kids but cant WAIT till i do!
But thats just me =]
Good luck

Answer by whitexsaucer
You wouldn’t hate your kid when they were a toddler r teenager because they’d be yours. And I haven’t made my decision yet. I will when the time is right.

Answer by dad
I have kids, they are grown now and have all been such a blessing in our lives. If we could do it all over again we’d have a thousand kids.

Answer by kconnor52
I have four children with an ex-husband. You are right to wait until you are older and more stable. It is smart to think ahead of the future. If you meet someone that you fall in love with, your attitude may change. It is a beautiful feeling that I would never give up for ANY amount of money. I am blessed to have beautiful, respecful, well behaved, fun children!

Answer by Mr Gow
I dont want to have children becuase of the pure fact that im afraid…. Im afraid im not going to be a good role model or father. Im afraid that they will see all the bad in the world… Im afraid that my child will one day grow up to leave me….And last but not least Im afraid that they will think there father is a failure becuase he cant afford to take them to DisneyLand

Answer by kimberb8
HELLO I AM A MOM OF TWO BOYS AGES 2 AND 3 I AM 26 YEARS OLD ALSO IF YOU GOT THINGS GOING ON IN YOUR LIFE SUCH AS COLLEGE AND DEBT THEN IT IS BEST THAT YOU WAIT ON KIDS ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE NOT SURE ABOUT HAVING ANY YET OR IF YOU ARE STILL LOOKING FOR MISTER RIGHT ITS JUST BEST IF YOU WAIT UNTIL THE WRIGHT MOMENT AND TIME AND THEN YOU WILL NO IT IS A GREAT RESPONSIBILITIES TO RAISE KIDS TRUST ME I NO IT DOES GET ANY EASIER BUT IT IS WORTH EVERY MINUTE TOO GOOD LUCK TO YOU AND HOPE YOU HAVE A GREAT WEEKEND

Answer by JD
i don’t have a kid yet. i’m 26 also i don’t want one now but my preference is a little girl. the way they act and other stuff. i have a 2 year old niece and right now she is so part of my life. everytime i get home she screams my name and open her arms, runs toward me to hold her. that’s an amazing feeling. looking at her face with a wide smile is something that keeps you going.

Answer by Faith .
Yes, kids can absolutely change your life significantly. It is the hardest, most challenging job, but at the same time it can be very rewarding if you do your job as a parent the best you can. It’s never perfect, because kids don’t come out with instructions, but it’s about giving it your best effort in rasing them. Your life will never be the same, but you will love them so unconditionally that their world becomes yours and you learn the things that you will do in order to protect them, even if at one point you wouldn’t imagine you could ever do.
I did plan it, but the middle one just snuck by and I adore him just as much. (have 3)

Answer by }}i{{fallrain
LMAO! I have a little boy that will be 4 this month. Wasn’t planned, and my baby’s daddy hasn’t seen him since he was 6wks old. Im 31, I’m a full time student. It’s tough, but I do it. Finish grad school. It’ll be so much easier without a kid. You’d be able to do it, but don’t. I wish I would have finished school sooner (prebaby) but that had nothing to do with him, just my list of priorities were screwed up.
I dont know much about the teenage yrs, but I will say this…the toddler yrs are so much fun! Him and his little friends say and do some of the funniest things

Answer by mamanook
I just have to address your reason #7- you would SO not hate your kid for half of their childhood. My niece was NEVER fond of kids- didn’t babysit when she was a teenager, etc., but she has three kids now and is the most loving, best and all around awesome mom I know- and I know a lot of moms. I have two children, and I quite honestly can say that they have made me a better person. I cannot imagine my life without them.

Answer by zajucomom
I have 3 sons. I wouldn’t be here today if it wasn’t for them. I was in a car wreck when the 2 oldest ones were 4 and 18 months. My 4 y/o got my 18 month old child out and was wondering the country road when someone drove by stop to see why he was there and found the wrecked car. They are my heroes.

Answer by ♫♥♀SILENTRAGE♀♥♫
I have two kids. One was planned the other was a surprize. When having children the one thing I recomend, making sure your ready to give up your figure, your personal time alot of time with your friends and being able to do things you want spontasly.

Answer by Joel
dont have kids,… in fact nuter yourself,, and become as unwomanly as you are able… so that you never get the urgg to have sex and stay away from men entirely…take your no money and spend it only on yourself, and do only things that gratify you.. that should give you enough fofillment,, love, excitement, advenute and enough “awe” of the miriclas of life to complete your life……….

when you look back on your life fr the most fofilling moments it will be the victories of difficult times, and the people who were there in those times…. the things you did that you never thought you could, and the miricals that you watched unfold before you… the satisfaction in being and living the life you were created to live.. in abundance of love, joy, excitement

I have my 4 kids full time for the past 7 years.. the 2 youngest in diapers at first….. the greatest gift of my life….they all eat, i have started severaal businesses, we are the closest family we know, yet are huge in that we are outgoing, and a ton of fun…. I would respectfully ask you to get out of yourself, and once you realize your purpose here is to serve you will find fofillment wheater you serve kids, a spouce, or others…. little young to get that yet, but if you can you will add an extra 10 years of joy to your life.

Answer by Tammy
I am 26 years old, and I have a 7 year old son.

I would love to have more children, at least one more.

My son has changed my life for the better. Having him changed my life in a way great way! He helped me to grow up, and he made me see the world completely differently than I use to!

As for your reasons to not have children, here is waht I think of them…

1…Fine, if that is how you feel. It is better to not have a child than to have them with a loser.

2…That is resposible. Good for you.

3…Again, good for you, responsible!

4…Eh, I dunno if that is a great reason. But, O.K.

5…That is great if you are going to actually mentor children.

6…Then fine, spoil them.

7…If you feel that you would hate your kids after half their childhood, then you shouldn’t have children ever. Until I read reason number 7, I was feeling like you were a decent, responsible person. Now, I am feeling a little sick.

Anyway, really, best of luck to you in whatever you do!!!

Answer by MR. meowie von schnowzier
I have 3 children. The first 2 weren’t planned, I was young when they were born and it was hard raising them and being able to provide for them. But I didn’t give up and I never allowed myself to fail. I went without A LOT to give them everything. But to me it’s worth it, I love them and they are great kids. My 3rd child was planned, I was in a point in my life where I just knew I needed one more, I can’t explain it… I really wanted a baby! But I have never used welfare, I have always worked and done with out so they could have the best life possible. It has had negative effects on life such as depression, financial hardships and lots and lots of stress… But the positives out way the negatives to me… They show me love, I am able to raise kids that are going to be our future and hopefully will contribute positive to the world, they keep me grounded and the tax refund isn’t bad either..lol!!!! but it is not for everyone, that’s for sure….