What should a mother do when her six year old daughter says?

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What should a mother do when her six year old daughter says, I want to live with my daddy and if you ever take me away from my daddy I will hate you for the rest of my live. But I still want to spend a lot of time with my mommy, only if I can live with daddy. The child is not brain washed by her father.

Answers and Views:

Answer by Steven F
Your the mother, you tell her what she HAS to do, cause you make her decisions at 6. She doesnt. That what i would say

Answer by Lilly J
she probably misses her father. But dont worry. Kids at this age wont remember anything as they reach teenager hood or anything like that.

Answer by Timid Women Rarely Make History
Are you a strict mother? And I don’t mean that as an insult. I mean in the sense that you have rules and consequences for when she does things she’s not supposed to do? If could be she thinks she will have a lot more ‘freedom’ when living with him,and not have rules…
And thus the verbal tantrum..?

Answer by AWESOMECHICK
you should gently ask her why you feel she feels this way, if you strongly disagree, you may have to live with it. You can have a family discussion, with the dad too, but the important thing is to let her make her own decisions. Don’t try 2 change her mind.

Answer by Emmoni
Let her live with both. My 7 yr old wants to live with my mom so i let her stay out of town with my mother every summer.

Answer by Sweet Stuff
Tell her that you are sorry she feels that way and give her something to do. Sometimes as parents we make way too big of a deal out of something a child naively says. She probably really has no idea what she is talking about. Next week she won’t even remember the fact that she said this. Just disregard it. Try not to take it personally. And move on with your day.

Answer by slither
for a child of 6 she has a great inner prospective if she truly feels that way let her give it a try…because in some cases by denying her now it may back fire on you later when she can rebel and really understand the impact that will have on you

LET’S RODEO SAN ANTONIO YEEEE….HAAAAA

Answer by Beba
if possible let her spend the weekends with her dad and explain to her that you and her dad don’t want to live together but that she will see her dad this is a change for her and its going to take time for her to get used to the idea that mom and dad don’t live in the same house

Answer by Jen C
She is only 6. Kids will say what they have to in order to get what they want. She wont hate you.

Answer by mommy of 5!
Well, since the family has already been torn apart, and if he is in a good atmosphere and has a healthy mind, and good income, then you should let her. This is what she wants to do, and she needs to find her stability.

Answer by Lisa S
This requires love and courage both.

If you are divorcing, she is probably afraid of daddy being “alone”.
Six isn’t terribly logical, so she is hoping she can keep things as “normal” as she can.

Tell her that for different reasons, she will be living with you (not sure what your situation is), but she can always see, and talk to her dad.

I would also suggest you get a webcam, and ask her father to get one as well. She can use it to say good night, and have the added security of “seeing” her father.

If you are both patient, it will pass…but forgive her. She’s young, and scared, and divorce is so hard for kids.

Good luck, little momma…