Why do adults distance themselves from family members and friends once they start their own family?

Curious: Why do adults distance themselves from family members and friends once they start their own family?
I notice this about people once they become adults, get married, and have kids. The phone calls stop. The times of going out on a Friday night and having drinks with buddies comes to an end. The only time you really see them is around the holidays. Its depressing actually to say the least. Why do adults distance themselves from chiildhood friends and their family members once they start to have families of their own?

I notice this also with parents. Seems once the kids are raised and move out on their own the parents distance themselves more from their own children.

Answers and Views:

Answer by Christina
Its a matter of having their priorities in check. Obviously when someone starts a family, their family is going to be their number one priority. And obviously when a parent’s kids are grown, they are going to begin to focus on themselves again. Its normal, and its healthy.

Answer by anima sola
because we all have our own lives to live and sometimes people bring other people down and your own family comes before any friday night drinks or buddies you will learn this as you get older

Answer by 7
I distanced me and my immediate family from the rest of the family because I did not want my children growing up around people who would pass out on the floor at Thanksgiving dinner where everyone had to step over them. It was not an environment I wanted my child to be around. Everyone has their reasons.

Answer by channy47
Their priorities have changed. Being in a serious relationship and having a family takes A LOT of time and effort. They work during the week, and the weekend is the only time couples have to be intimtate with each other. It’s honestly very nice to have some free time to catch up on chores and relax with your partner.

It’s not a bad thing though! Don’t think that friends aren’t important anymore, they most certainly are. It’s just that time management takes priority – partner, children, chores, errands etc.

I’m 23 now, starting to settle down. Going out drinking isn’t that much fun anymore. I’d rather sit around with a nice social drink and relax.

As for parents who distance themselves from their children – of course! I’d have a party haha. They get time for themselves now, instead of constantly looking after their kids lol.

Answer by a
It is really because they are tired and because usually these people know that their families come first. After doing homework with kids dealing with siblings fighting with each other giving baths and showers and keeping an organized home life things get too hectic and unfortunately people forget about another life out there. Really, we all need to remember we are human and need friends too even if they are family as well and this goes for parents especially.

Answer by Spooky1
I suppose they get busier and with their now immediate family, obvious isn’t it?. Babies need stabilty and new parents usually like to stay in more to see them grow up, be there etc.