Would you be upset if someone gave your 2yr old a fastfood burger without your knowledge?

Green Is Sexxxy: Would you be upset if someone gave your 2yr old a fastfood burger without your knowledge?
specifically a Krystal’s burger and she knew i didn’t like my kids to have fast food/junk food.

How upset should i be. It was just one time.
But dd1 started role playing that she was ordering hamburgers from a fast food window. That’s how we found out.
it’s my MIL. who i love dearly. but this upsets me a bit and i’m not sure how to approach the subject with her. there have been a couple “little things” like this that happened and it makes me feel like i can’t trust her…like she’ll do as she pleases behind my back. i don’t think she means to be malicious, but i think she really thinks it’s ok to do stuff like this.
i really don’t think a toddler ever needs that kind of “treat”

she gets plenty of healthier treats that she *LOVES*.
at 5 or whatever age that she has a group of friends at a b*day party serving hamburgers and hotdogs…that’s a completely different situation and i would be ok with it.

btw, she *does* get some kickazz burgers that daddy grills at home. i just don’t like her to have crapfood. i want to keep that away as long as possible.

thanks for everyone’s input so far! ☺
MIL just admitted to me she had a burger
all thumbs from btw, i appreciated everyone’s opinions
that last edit was supposed to say
“all thumbs up from me” LOL
time for bed…

Answers and Views:

Answer by reddevilbloodymary
It depends: if someone was watching my kid as a favor, I might get upset, but I wouldn’t say anything about it. If it was someone who would be spending lots of time with my kid, I might say something or try to curtail the time spent.

Answer by Lucas Allen is due in April!
if someone KNOWS you don’t feed your kid fast food then you have every right to be mad!! don’t let your child go with that person again if you can avoid ti.

Answer by ARMY*WIFE[brody on board]
i wouldnt be upset at all. its one little burger.

Answer by christina j
heck yea, i dont want my kid to eat junk/unhealthy food so if someone went behind my back and fed her one id be very upset

Answer by connie
I wish someone would feed my 4 boys a few. LOL

Answer by tardis_mom
I wouldn’t make a big deal of it. It won’t kill her if she has it once or twice. Get over it.

Answer by greenjellybean
I would probably be mildly irritated.

Answer by sammi
no it’s a burger chill

Answer by Tammie N
I wouldn’t freak out about it. It was one time, if you had spoken to this person before and he/she did it anyway, then I would be upset. Just because your toddler is pretending about the fast food window doesn’t mean she ate one. She could have just been in the car.

Answer by D84mum
I wouldn’t worry to much, i just wouldn’t trust who ever have it to him/her. they truly had no right, but im sure they knew what they were doing. It’s not a big deal that your child ate the burger, its the damn point who ever it was would go against your wishes, but least you realize now you cant trust them. its like saying have one candy mommy wont know, it already teaches your child to go against you. and thats WRONG!!! you have ever right to be as mad as you want, just don’t let yourself get over stressed about it.

Answer by Shutterbug_Mama
Seriously? No I wouldn’t be upset at all.

Now if someone was giving my child beer or something without my knowledge, then I’d be upset. But fast food/junk food occasionally won’t hurt your child. And, in fact, if they get it occasionally, they won’t go all rebellious and eat nothing but junk food at friends’ houses and at school. When the time comes of course.

Remember, moderation is the key. They need to be taught that from an early age.

Answer by *Chick*
I won’t do her any harm !! It was probably nice for her to have a treat, don’t you think?

Answer by Ck
I would be a little upset and I would always ask the parent before I did anything like that, because you don’t know if that kid as allergy problems or not. Anyways that’s my opinion… I am not a parent, but I am an aunt of 10 and I always watch out for their safety…

Answer by bjoy
ONE fast food burger and you are this upset? If your child is not on a special diet for health or religion reason then having one burger shouldn’t be that big of a deal. When we completely cut out things and deny them ever having these “treats” we are setting them up for diet failure later – teaching moderation is one of the most important parts of healthy eating habits.

Answer by HalfWayThere
I wouldn’t be upset at all. Unless I gave the care giver strict guidelines to food then there is nothing wrong with it.

Answer by clummiemay
Ask the person who was watching your toddler if she fed him a burger. if she says that she did explain to her politely that you do not want your kid to eat fast food and please dont do it again. if she said that she did not then don’t worry about it.

Answer by Al Kaholic
my gawd…a burger from a fast food joint?? what’s next…giving the kids drugs??

Answer by fleur de lis mock ILF
I’m sorry these “little things” add up to a giant lack of respect. I think daddy needs to confront it.

Answer by Samantha C
i have nine kids and i will never give them fast food

Answer by SwampMallow
seeing we are vegetarians ..I’d FLIP OUT.

Answer by jracciato
Deep breaths. It isn’t the end of the world. One burger isn’t going to start her on a downward spiral to obesity or anything. Besides, it was her grandmother. There is only so much you can do to control them. Ask her not to do it again. Or, failing that, have her only order decent food if they are going out to eat. Jack in the box has some awesome fruit cups that I get for my kids as a treat. It is far healthier than some of the other garbage that is out there.

Answer by Texas Momma is Healing
Honestly… Nope.

Every toddler needs a treat of some kind from time to time. It’s one burger. Not a truck load.

Just let it go. It’s not worth screwing up the relationship over.

The only time I’d be upset is if I specified that there is to be no fast food or junk food of any kind or if I were a vegetarian (which I’m not. I love beef too much, lol).

Answer by Damien and Malachai’s Mom
I would be PISSED.

Everyone that watches my kid knows that I only like him to consume healthy foods.

Food is for fuel, not for pleasure and I don’t want my kids relating food to pleasure.There is no reason why my kid needs to have fast food when it will just make him feel like crap and I am the one who has to deal with a late night tummy ache.It is loaded with nothing but crap.

Just be sure to make it perfectly clear that you don’t want your kid having that crap food.When she watches her, pack some healthy snacks and lunch.

Answer by Allison D
Be as upset as you want to be. There is nothing wrong with being upset, it’s how you handle it that matters the most. I know how you feel and felt compelled to answer because everyone else thinks its not a big deal. Though it is just one burger, a fountain of problems tend to spring forth when the mother in law thinks they can take a inch. She will take a mile if you are not careful.

Also, I have the same problem with my mother-in-law who feels like I should be feeding my daughter all sorts of things. It makes you wonder if this is what she is doing that you know about, what all is she doing that you don’t know about and that is the worst feeling.

Be upfront with her about it. Don’t let it slide because then she will think it is OK. Give her specific instructions about what is acceptable and is not acceptable and tell her that she needs to ask if she is unsure of something. Tell her this diet works for you and your family and you do not want the kids to become accustomed to wanting those kinds of foods. If you so desire, you could pack some snack and/or meals for your kids while they are in her care.

Remember, you are your child’s advocate. They are counting on you to be their voice when they can’t. When they are older, your children will appreciate that you started them on the right track when one out of three of their peers are over weight and dying of heart disease.

Rant:
My mother in law said I should be putting cereal in her bottle when she was a baby to get her to sleep through the night. She gave her french fries because she thinks that is natural because its a potato. She claimed that formula was better than breast milk and gave me a hard time while I was breastfeeding my daughter. In the hospital, when she saw it hurt, she said “you know they can bring you a bottle of formula.” She though I should have my daughter on solids when she was two months old. When I told her she got a baby omelet at 10 months old, she said “finally you are giving her real food” when she had been taking at least one solid meal a day since 6 months. I let her feed her jello at a restaurant, so she went and bought her a bunch of sugarless jello and said she needed it to stay hydrated. She gave her a generic pedialyte that said on the package “not for children under one year old.” because she thought it was juice. She bought her a bunch of baby snacks with a list of ingredients a mile long when she has only had fresh food and then gives her half the box at a time instead of letting her eat her dinner.

Answer by Cravin
I wouldnt Be Upset at all My Kids are Healthy

Answer by Sidwell
my 6 year old son would probably not even eat it. he hates red meat and pickles. he has very fussy tastes.

Now if he had been offered chicken nuggets, those he would have eaten, and I would not have minded at all.

And yes I think you are way over reacting for just ONE time.

Answer by Judass
Damn straight I’d be pissed! Where was MY burger? I eat FIRST before the rugrats until they can get a FT job when they are 5 years old. They get my leftovers, the freeloaders.

Answer by rhannah91
As long as she usually eats healthy food, I don’t see the problem with very occasional fast food.

Answer by * from the Great White North*
sounds like your MIL maybe stepping on your toes a bit. It happens… I have one that likes to over rule me on things sometimes too. What you need to do is pick your battles…so you and grandma do not end up at each others throats all the time. Many Grand parents I know believe it is their right to spoil the grandkids… there will be more of this kind of stuff…

But on the other hand..it is a burger one time. If your kids eat healthy 99% of the time, a fast food meal will hardly affect them. The going threw the pick up window was probably more exciting to your child than the burger was anyways! lol

Answer by Rattle and Hum
Hey Green

If you had given SPECIFIC instructions, which the MIL then went against, i would be pissed, and would clearly make this known.

Having said that, it sounds to me like you a being a little over protective
( heres comes the thumbs down, hey)

ONE burger, is not going to cause you child any harm.

And a 2yo will not even remember having a buger, in a week from now.

I agree that children need to learn healthy eating habits, and all that, but giving a 2yo a burger, is not something to make a big deal about. Besides, i doubt very much that a 2yo would even eat HALF of it. More like a few nibbles.

Kids do need to receive treats every now an then, if only to satsify their “curiosity” .

Ask yourself, what is the real issue here- the fact your kid had a burger, or the fact that the MIL did something which you didnt want her too.

Lilke I said, if you had clearly told her not to do it, and she did it knowing it was against your wishes, them i too would be pissed.

Talk to your MIL, and tell her how you feel.

EDIT- Great white North, you are spot on