: Why do I “fall in love” with everyone? EKK! ?
Ok, so maybe it isn’t love, per se, but it’s like.
And I’m, like, SICK OF IT!
I don’t wanna like anyone else, anymore. I’ve been hurt too many times. The one f’n guy who I haven’t been attracted to, whatsoever, is now on my mind, and I’m really wishing I could see him right now…
I mean, when I first met him, physically, I thought he was extremely cute…
But, his personality turned me off. We went through a time where we almost hated each other…
Now, he seems to have changed… In a good way…
We’ve been getting along AMAZINGLY, and, I just don’t know…
I never used to care how I looked around him, and now, I’m freakin’ picking out outfits for the next time I “accidentally” run into him…
I’ve liked so many guys, and been rejected so many times, I just don’t have it in me anymore, and I wish I could stop these feelings from forming. I know he and I will never be together. Never.
Help me, people, before I get hurt… AGAIN.
Answers and Views:
Answer by chaskfrazier
Maybe it’s not really love that you’re falling into or feeling. The main thing you need to do is get a grip on your self esteem. You think that you need a boyfriend to complete you, and you’re never gonna find “this type of guy” that you’re dreaming of. It only happens in the movies and stuff. I know it may suck “not to have a boyfriend” if all your friends do, but that’s not the reason to give yourself to a guy. Really, get to know and love yourself before you look for love from boys.
You just have a BIG Heart and need your needs filled and someday that will happen. Guys tend to avoid committment, thats just how most of them are made. I’m a 52 yr old female and dating a 58 year old and even he is scared of committment. If he don’t talk about our future together soon, I may move on even though I don’t want to but I guess it depends on if these so called guys or men love us enough to try and make US happy as much as we want to see them happy. Lifes too short in this world to keep letting them get all the time. Its time for us to start receiving. Agree? You may have to go through a bunch of frogs to finally get your prince. Hang in there, your day is coming.Answer by Steve
There IS a reason to fall every now and then. The fact that your relationships never seem to work out, is actually a beneficiary factor for you in the future…because when you DO find a lasting relationship, it will be SO much more valuable to you.
Infatuation is something that nobody really has a cure for. I suppose the only way to rid yourself of these feelings for other people, would be to lock yourself up in your room and never speak to anyone about anything. That’s how you ELIMINATE the problem. But the question is, how do you EMBRACE it, and make it work to your advantage?
No one likes to feel heartbroken, but it’s something that we can’t escape. And we HAVE to experience heartbreak to know what REAL love feels like. How do you know something is dark, unless you know something else is light? How do you know something is hot, unless you know something else is cold? Contrast is what gives us most of our knowledge. Our entire thought procedures are based on the principle of contrast. And to not know what it’s like to not have love — how are you supposed to know what it’s like to HAVE it?
So now you ask, “Okay, genius; how do I embrace this and make it work to my advantage?” The corny-yet-simple answer is, “Learn from your mistakes.” Don’t decide to eliminate your social life; rather take mental notes on the things that went wrong in your past relationship, accept the fact that you’ll have another chance, and take the GOOD things into your next relationship. Without trial and error, how do you gain experience?
Patience is another vital thing to have a firm grasp on. If you can’t be patient, then you’ve already lost the mental battle with yourself. You have to think positively about your situation; it WILL resolve itself when the time is right. But do you have the faith to believe it?
Just some things to work on.
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