What’s the difference between loving someone and being in love?

jon c: What’s the difference between loving someone and being in love?
I adore my girlfriend, she’s my favorite person in the world.. My eye wanders at other women often! And although our sex life is beautiful while we are intimate, I don’t always have a heated attraction to her, it’s more of an adoration/deep love. Maybe our love is just balanced and deeper than pure firey lust. Not sure, but it worries me sometimes. So I ask, what do you feel is the difference between loving someone and being in love?

Answers and Views:

Answer by Polleka
the heat!

Answer by mcmia19
Loving someone is when your with them and you like the good and bad about them….
Being in love is just a feeling you have and your not sure if its true or not…

Answer by kpopp
It was many hundreds of years ago, in the Middle Ages that minstrels and troubadours crooned about “true love.” Today, their notion of “love” is being propagated by Hollywood and the media. Let me assure you that there is no such thing as “true love.” When we become intimate with another human being, we set conditions. I find the notion of “love” not only totally false but also, by those who believe in it, a detriment to a successful relationship. For reality is much more obstinate and trying.

Let’s talk about the real conditions of a relationship. Caring for each other, enjoying a healthy bond similar to friendship, will help meld two lives together and create a primary bond. Then there is intimacy, the sharing of something of a private nature with another human being that gives one a sense of belonging, and will help make us feel more secure. But more than anything, it is our willingness to compromise, to make adjustment to conflicting interests and needs, that is a “must quality” to a successful relationship.

Answer by trigger
I love my kids and I am in love with my wife.

Answer by northstar
the difference between being in love and loving someone is this

love has many faces , the difference between loving someone and being in love changes with maturity , IE: teens think they are in love with every relationship ,as you get older the meaning and feelings change, I think you are asking more about if you are in love with your girlfriend . if you are feeling the urge to cheat on her than no your relationship has changed from being in love to loving her , when you love someone you care about them and their well being , you don’t want to see harm come to them but no longer want to be with them .
being in love or finding true love ( sorry kpopp ) is only found when you first realize your okay all by yourself and then the person you are with only heightens your happiness and life when you don’t NEED them to complete you but feel more complete with them . when two people truly love each other its never an argument of who does what more its not a battle of who’s better but of what more can I do , there are still arguments but only small ones and they are resolved within minuets.
if I had to guess , I’d say your in your 20s and still need to find that special someone .
oh and by the way , men and woman’s eyes can wander the worlds not blind but when your in love the wondering and fantasizing change , like you see someone real good looking and think wow their hot and that’s it when you think wow their good looking and want to go get laid , well you need to reevaluate where you are in terms of being happy with your partner and yourself.

yes I’m married and we have 2 children , son 13 yrs and daughter 8 months ,he is 53 and I’m 40 , we are still in love , true love, sorry kpopp ,and a person should feel secure with themself and who they are before they get married , as for intamacy , like I said we also have an 8 month old .

Answer by Jazzy
Loving someone is when you really care about that person and their well being…being in love with someone is when you can’t stop thinking about that person when all you want is to be With that person and have them around you….when you wake up thinking about him/her and go to sleep thinking about him/her too

I think that you have love for your GF and love her but from what i read in your question i honestly don’t think you are in love with her…that doesn’t mean that you cant be in love with her that just means that you aren’t yet

GOOD LUCK and I wish you the best!!!!

Answer by oolala12340
YOU ARE IN LOVE IF-

1. You feel very comfortable with one another, as if you have known each other longer than you actually have.

2. You tend to agree with one another on most issues, and there is a feeling of warm familiarity surrounding your personal belief systems, values, philosophies and life goals.

3. You instinctively consider each other as equals and no one person does more sacrificing to be with the other.

4. You are very much involved in one another’s daily affairs and conversations between the two of you are generally mentally stimulating and lively.

5. You joke around with each other a lot, and your relationship is spontaneous and light, adding a happy and friendly boost to your interactions.

6. You nurture each other with specialized attention, mutual appreciation, acceptance, admiration and playfulness; these keep the romance alive.

7. You enjoy spending plenty of quite time together in homely surroundings giving true meaning to the words feeling “at home” with one another.

8. Open communication is alive and thriving, making it possible to be yourselves with one another.

9. There is a shared feeling of growth and support of one another and both of you give each other room to grow as a self-directed independent individual.

10. You are more able than most couples to remain objective about your relationship and to work through problems that most couples find very difficult to deal with.

11. You are warm, gracious, compassionate and flexible with one another, and tend to expect the best from one another.

12. You easily forgive each other when things go wrong and trusting one another keeps you closer.

13. You are quite protective (not possessive or controlling) of one another and of the privacy of your romantic lives. Others see you as a positively bonded and caring couple.

14. There is no fear of losing the other and commitment to each other and dedication to your relationship are important for your sense of security as a couple.

15. There is an earthy sensuality to your relationship and the sexual chemistry between you is so apparent it’s almost tangible.

16. Expressing yourselves emotionally and sexually comes naturally and without inhibitions. Feeling secure with one another puts you in the “mood” for intimacy and strengthens your affections for one another.

17. Together you are able to take big risks knowing that you will always have reach other and can always count on each other.

18. There is a whole lot of positive energy generated between the two of you, and together, you are enthusiastic about life itself.

19. The longer you’re with each other, the stronger your relationship becomes.

20. The relationship is so life-changing that you know without a doubt in your heart that if it were to end, you will take something from it. You feel that you are somehow a different and better person.

loving someone, generally just means like loving your brother, mum, sister etc. Unless your inbred Lol

Shaunna.xx

Answer by ELii
when you love some one u have a caring for them. when your in love the world seems so different.You would do anything for that person no matter what. you ignore the people that judge you. The only person you care is that one person your in love with.

Answer by Piecone
have you read stephanie myer’s eclipse yet?
well one bit bella says to jacob ‘i love you but im NOT in love wit you’

well loving someone means you care about them,their close to you,you never want to lose them.

being in love with someone is similar but more to it than that.when you see the person you see every day,your heart melts and feel like th world will stop spinning when they’re gone…