What’s the best thing to do for a grieving co-worker?

Cleo: What’s the best thing to do for a grieving co-worker?
My co-worker’s son recently died a very violent death and we are undecided on what we should do for her and her family.

Answers and Views:

Answer by gretch
wow. that sucks! just be there for her. maybe you guys can come together to give her some money so she can take all the time off she needs.

Answer by Brandy
If your company allows it, you & your other co-workers could donate your paid time off to the co-worker in question.

Answer by Robert S
just be there for her. Try to be as supportive as possible. IMHO, I think it would be condescending to give money unasked for.

Answer by callousedwound
If you can and she is comfortable with you get her alone and just hold her. Just hold her and let her cry. Touch is very healing.

Answer by bekkiht4485
Dont treat her any different, by all means offer your condolences, but do not pussy foot around her, the last thing she needs is that. Try to be a friend, listen to her if she wants to talk, but dont pressure her to talk.

Answer by Phyllis G
I’ve known people who sent food to the house, so the family can just sit & relax & not have the burden of preparing a meal.
People in the Jewish religion sit shiva & usually their friends & family members send food, dessert etc. & then come & spend time with them.
Many times we forget that our emotional support is what is most important.
Phyllis G.