What is the most gentle way to break my virgin bride’s hymen?

Tyler: What is the most gentle way to break my virgin bride’s hymen?
My fiancé and I have maintained our sexual purity for our whole lives. Our wedding is in two months and I really really want to cause her as little pain as possible. I would prefer to break the hymen with my penis because of the symbolism of the permanent blood covenant, but how can I make this cause as little pain for her as possible.

I really don’t want to hurt my perfect bride.

Answers and Views:

Answer by Alisha
Wierdo
It’s nice that you don’t want to cause her pain, but breaking (or more accurately, tearing) a part of her body will necessarily be painful. If you’re not willing to start with anything smaller, you’re out of luck.
And isn’t it only a blood covenant if BOTH of you are bleeding??
Just go slow, would be my only suggestion.

Answer by Katie E
Go slow. You may want to finger her a bit beforehand, so her vagina will stretch out a bit making it less painful when you penetrate. You won’t break her hymen by fingering her. Be gentle and and go slow is most important. Oh, and don’t put it in too far.

Answer by Anne
Make sure she is properly aroused and lubricated. After that, it’s best to just do it quickly- like ripping off a band aid. If she is already super excited the little bit of pain shouldn’t slow her down, I mean, she’s been waiting her whole life for this, right?

Answer by Izzy
When a woman first breaks her hymen, it’s pretty much gonna hurt, but to make it hurt as little as possible, go in slowly. Once you are in, don’t move until she says you can. You need to let her adjust. Be gentle. That’s really all I can say.

Answer by MJ Was my man in the sumr of 84
Set the right mood. No pressure, be gentle and dont rush!

Answer by i + i
As others have said, just take your time… LOTS of foreplay, and maybe even use a numbing lubricant. Once she’s good and ready, let HER be in control — one way is for her to be on top so she can decide when and how far to go.

Answer by Rozmin
It does not really hurt, so don’t worry yourself silly. It is nice you’re concerned though. Making sure she’s wet is important, if she doesn’t like how it feels when you put a finger inside (some women don’t), then try oral sex first. Don’t get fancy with positions. Missionary is probably the easiest first time around, or her on top if its more comfortable for her. Personally, I don’t know about the “go slow” advice. I think that that applies once you’ve, er, this sounds weird, gotten in. But as for the actual penetration, don’t dilly-dally at the entrance (it sounds silly but I’m being serious), it will be better if you gently but quickly get that part over with. Just try to get her to relax as much as possible.